February/March
2014
ASK A
PRIEST
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
FATHER WILLIAM G.
MENZEL
FATHER
KEVIN BATES, SM
CATHOLICVIEW STAFF
CATHOLICVIEW PRIEST STAFF
FATHER
KEVIN BATES, SM
"I
fell in love with my first cousin. Can we
marry?" - Ariana
Father Kevin:
My first cousin and I fell in love. Is there
anyway we could ever get married or be
accepted by the Catholic Church?
–
Ariana
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Hello Ariana:
First of all you and your cousin will always
be accepted by the Catholic Church. The
civil law here in Australia is the same as
that of the Catholic Church and first
cousins are not allowed to marry each
other. It has something to do with the risk
of in-breeding as the children of siblings
and close relative have a high chance of
being born with significant genetic
abnormalities.
You may wish to consult a local priest who
has some expertise in Canon Law to explain
it further to you. I have just consulted
the Code of Canon Law and it is clear that
such a marriage is not possible in the
Catholic Church. That is probably the case
civilly in whichever country you reside.
I wish you well and hope you find some happy
resolution of the matter for yourselves.
Every blessing. - Father Kevin
"Can I attend a major league baseball game
if it supports
a homosexual group called "GLADD"? - Paul
Father Kevin:
My
favorite pastime is baseball. In October all
major league teams sent out a tweet
supporting a radical homosexual group called
"GLADD." Is it morally acceptable to pay
money to go to games when teams do this, if
my intent is not to support an immoral cause
but to simply enjoy the game? Bless you.
Paul
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HI Paul:
Go and enjoy the game mate! Going to the
game is not a statement of support or
otherwise for this group. It would be worth
looking into the tweet to work out what they
mean by “support” for this organization. If
it is just to offer support to homosexual
people , then as Pope Francis says, “who are
we to judge?” If it was to support
homosexual activity expressly, then you
could have some doubts about supporting the
tweet.
In the meantime, enjoy the game.
Father Kevin
PS: Major League Baseball is invading
us here in Sydney in March as two opening
season games are being played by two teams
from the US. We are a stronghold for the
international game of cricket so it will be
fun to have US baseball hit town for a few
days.
"Where does the Bible show that the rapture
is NOT a
pre-tribulation rapture?" - Lynn
Father Kevin:
I've been trying to study the bible & I'm
really confused about where exactly in the
bible, it shows. It seems like religions
interpret the end time passages differently
& it's very confusing to me. Please & thank
you for your time. God bless.
–
Lynn
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Dear Lynn:
I’m not clear what you mean by “where
exactly it shows.” It is true that various
religions do interpret the Bible to suit
their own beliefs. In our Catholic
Tradition, in company with many of our
Protestant fellow-believer, we have many
fine Scripture scholars around the world who
spend their lives studying the Scriptures to
tease out and help us understand the real
meaning of the texts. Many texts are
obscure. Many texts are poetry, many are
history, many are stories made up to make a
point.
There will always be debate around the
content of the Books of the Bible. However,
there is no debate around the absolute love
of God for each one of us and for all people
and all creation. If we look at the
Scriptures through the lens of love, they
can come alive for us. Every blessing.
- Father Kevin
“Can I give my Church tithe to charity or an
orphanage?”
- Eric
Father Kevin:
Can I give my entire tithe amount to a
charity or to an orphanage where they take
care of homeless, sick or abandoned
children? Is it ok if I don't give it in
the Church, but to such institutions run
with the Church approval locally? - Eric
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HI Eric,
It’s perfectly appropriate for you to donate
and share your money in any way you see
fit. God happily trusts us to make good
choices and He trusts that we will do our
best in this regard. If you judge a greater
need as you seem to be doing then God bless
you for your generosity. - Father
Kevin
“I am concerned about the way the Church is
heading
on the divorced, the practicing gays, etc..
Why is the
Church becoming liberal?” - Lorraine
Father Kevin:
I'm very concerned about the way the church
is heading on the gays and the divorced
being allowed to take communion and toning
down the teaching of the church. I've always
been so proud that the church was not
bending to anyone's will except God's. Why
is the church becoming so liberal and trying
to blend in with the other religions? Why
are Catholics getting so Wimpy?
–
Lorraine
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Hi Lorraine,
In last Sunday’s gospel we read about Jesus’
encounter with the woman at the well. She
had had five husbands and was currently
living with another man. She had an
experience of “communion” with Jesus if you
like, and without ever approaching a Church
Tribunal for an annulment, she becomes his
missionary, spreading the Good News to the
people in her village. Would we say Jesus
is being wimpy here? According to the sorts
of judgements you are making, the answer is
yes!!
Gay and Divorced people have always been
able to receive Communion in the Catholic
Church. It is only if they have publicly
remarried without an annulment, in the case
of divorced people, or publicly proclaimed
that they were sexually active in the case
of gay people, that Communion would be
refused them. The Church’s law in this
regard has not changed.
However, Pope Francis has suggested that the
Bishops examine the situation of divorced
and remarried people at the upcoming Synod
of Bishops so we wait to see what happens
there.
Equating God’s Will with rigid and exclusive
rules reveals an attitude that is out of
step with our deep Catholic Tradition. At
the heart of the Gospel and the Church’s
mission is the presence of God’s
unconditional mercy, which allows for people
to make mistakes, be forgiven and return to
full communion with the Church.
Consider the Good Samaritan in Luke’s
gospel. Jesus has him actually breaking all
the rules of the day in order to show God’s
unconditional mercy and compassion. The
Church is very clear in its teaching that
the law is meant to help people grow in
their faith. IT is not designed to condemn
and exclude.
That was the role of the Scribes and the
Pharisees in Jesus’ day. They were the ones
Jesus with whom got angry. He never had a
harsh word to say to people who were
battling to make sense of their lives or
battling to overcome their struggle with
sin. It is apt that we take a leaf out
of His book. - Father Kevin
“Why is “the washing of feet” not
considered a
sacrament?” – Jurgen
Father Kevin:
Could you please give me a good theological
reason why "The washing of feet" is not
considered as a sacrament? It was
instituted by Jesus, and it has the element
of water, and a ritual. Thanks! - Jurgen
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Jurgen hi,
What a brilliant question. It is
significant that in John’s account of the
Last Supper there is no bread and wine
story, only foot washing! Foot Washing is a
great means of creating communion between
people. Here we are vulnerable and the gift
of touch is a most sacred sacramental
moment. I studied foot massage some years’
ago and use it occasionally here in
Australia. When visiting San Francisco some
years’ ago I spent time with an old friend
who massages the feet of the homeless around
the Tenderloin district. The sacramentality
of her ministry was unmistakable.
So to answer your question, I don’t really
know except to say that the sharing of meals
is a more universal event than foot-washing,
and if you look at all the raw materials of
the seven Sacraments of the Church, they use
symbols that are common to all humanity and
so can more easily be accessed by anyone.
Perhaps foot-washing was seen to be a more
specialised service.
Every blessing and I’ll look forward to
asking some other colleagues what they make
of your excellent question. - Father
Kevin
FATHER WILLIAM G.
MENZEL
How do we
know the will of God? - Julius
Father:
How do we know the will of God? How is this
related to the Free Will He has given us? –
Julius
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Dear Julius:
The question
you ask is surely an ancient one. Once our
ancestors became conscious of a Higher
Power, they sought to know his mind, his
will, his reasons for why things are the way
they are. They also sought to influence or
change his will.
I'm quite
sure that we can only know the will of God
in a general sense. For example, we can know
that it is the will of God that all people
be saved. We can know that it is the will of
God that we love him and that we love one
another.
Since I do
not believe that God micromanages the
universe, I do not think that we can usually
know the will of God in particular
circumstances. For example, I don't think it
is God's will that Joe should choose to
marry Nancy rather than Karen. This is Joe's
decision. Certainly he could pray about it
and seek God's guidance, but it is still his
decision. Assuming they are both good and
decent persons, Joe will not contradict
God's will by choosing one over the other.
Likewise, I
do not believe that it is the will of God
that a drunk driver should cross the
centerline and crash head-on into a car
loaded with teenagers driving home from a
game. To “blame” God for the drunk driver's
tragic decision is like Adam blaming Eve and
Eve blaming the serpent. God does not will
our human irresponsibility. He allows it,
because he will not trample on free will.
The blame fall on the drunk driver.
If you asked
this question because you want to do the
will of God regarding some matter, then I
think you have to make your decision within
the broad context of your Christian faith.
When we love God above all, then we are
doing his will. When we love our neighbor as
ourselves, then we are doing his will. When
we strive to live the Gospel in our daily
lives, then we are doing his will. When we
follow the Ten Commandments, then we are
doing his will. When we pray with sincerity,
then we are doing his will. When we say in
the Lord's Prayer “thy will be done”, then
we are doing his will.
If, on the
other hand, you asked your question because
you're trying to reconcile God's knowledge
and will with human free will, then I would
encourage you to read a couple of responses
that I gave along these lines around four
years ago.
Here's one. Here's
the other. I think these
might help to answer the second part of your
question.
Thanks for
asking your questions, Julius, and may God
bless you. - Father Bill
“Did Judas actually sin since he fulfilled
the prophecy
to hand Jesus to His enemies? - Justin
Father Bill:
Judas for lack of a better word (sold out)
to the Romans and turned over Jesus. My
question is was Judas forgiven for his sin?
Since he was fulfilling the prophecy did he
actually sin? Thanks. - Justin
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Dear Justin:
Your question really has two parts. Did
Judas actually sin by his betrayal? If he
did sin, was he forgiven?
As to whether Judas actually sinned, the
simple truth is that he did choose to betray
Jesus, and that would be sin. He could have
chosen otherwise, but he apparently was
motivated by greed and perhaps by
disillusionment with the kind of Messiah
that Jesus was turning out to be. His choice
was objectively sinful. The fact that his
sin fulfilled a prophecy does not mean that
the prophecy caused his sin.
Still, one could argue that his worst choice
was to despair of God's mercy. Apparently
believing that his sin was unforgivable, he
committed suicide. Simon Peter also betrayed
his master by publicly denying that he knew
him, but he wept bitter tears of contrition
and accepted God's merciful forgiveness.
(If your question has to do with how God's
foreknowledge affects human free will, I
would encourage to read
this response
that I gave to that matter a few years ago.)
As to whether Judas was forgiven for his
sin, only God can know. It would not at all
surprise me that, in the very last moments
of his life, Judas truly repented of his
sins and allowed God's mercy to rescue him.
- Father Bill
“I bought stock shares from a stock company
and now
it diversified to include abortion drugs.
What
does Church Law say?” – Harmon
Father Bill:
I bought shares of stock in a company on the
stock market. Now the company has
diversified its product line to include
abortion causing drugs. What does church law
say I should do? - Harmon
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Dear Harmon:
That's a
great question. Thanks for asking.
I don't know
of any Church law that specifically tells a
shareholder what to do in a circumstance
such as yours. After all, we live in a
complex society with divergent views as to
what is and is not morally acceptable, and
Church law simply cannot anticipate or
legislate for every possibility. Just as
your investment in this company plays a tiny
role in producing products, some of which
you find morally wrong, so also do your
taxes play a tiny role in supporting
policies and services, some of which you
find morally wrong. We simply cannot escape
the social and moral complexities of our
culture.
That said, I
do have some ideas for you to consider.
Perhaps you have thought of some of these
yourself:
-Write a
letter to the company president and/or the
board of directors indicating your concern.
-Sell the stock and invest in a company that
conforms more to your beliefs. (If you're
concerned about a large capital gains hit,
you might check with a stockbroker or tax
adviser to see if there are ways to avoid
that.) Of course, selling your stock simply
means that someone else is buying it at that
price. It doesn't hurt the company, but it
might make you feel better.
-Sell the stock and distribute the proceeds
to charitable organizations. (This
eliminates the capital gains issue and also
turns something that is morally questionable
into something good.)
For future investments, consider buying
mutual funds or ETFs that support Catholic
values. Just do a Google search on Catholic
values mutual funds or ETFs. You will find
that there is a pretty good variety to
choose from. I personally hold shares in a
Catholic values fund that is well regarded
by Morningstar and other rating entities. It
has done quite well for me.
I hope that
I've been able to help you as you ponder how
best to proceed. Incidentally, my personal
opinion is that you are not obligated to
sell this stock. However, as I noted
earlier, you might feel better if you did.
- Father
Bill
CATHOLICVIEW PRIEST STAFF
“In bible study I said we receive grace from
the
Eucharist. Our priest said “You believe
that?”
and laughed. I don't understand.- Julie
Father:
In referring to the Eucharist in a Catholic
bible study, I commented that people receive
grace from the sacrament. The priest said,
"You really believe that!?" I said, ,"Yes,
I do". He laughed and said, "You are a
fool". I realize there are impediments to
receiving grace but he didn't go further. I
left feeling sad and now seem like I am
branded a conservative, like that is a bad
thing. Father is distant and unfriendly and
I feel like an outsider in my church. I
don't understand. Julie
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Julie:
I don't understand why your parish priest
would say what you reported. I find what
you reported about your parish priest's
words as very upsetting and offensive. To
me, in my parish, there are no such thing as
a person with conservative and liberal
interpretations of our faith in Christ
Jesus. All I am concerned about is the
TRUTH. I always ask, is this teaching or
scriptural interpretation true? The Church,
through its magisterium, teaches the
truth as found in the scriptures and in our
oral traditions passed down to us from the
apostles themselves.
What you answered is TRUE. You are not
incorrect in saying that "people receive
grace from the sacrament." This is true.
This is NOT a conservative or liberal
stance. It is a truth that supercedes any
so-called human categories of conservative
or liberal. Grace is the ultimate gift of
God,
salvation itself,
through no effort on our part other than
accepting this grace with an open heart and
total faith. The Eucharist gives
sanctifying grace which affects my soul, my
entire being, on a supernatural
level. Through the Eucharist, my soul is
orientated to Christ as Food for my entire
being. Jesus is the Bread of Life, and
Jesus' love and mercy is the lifeblood of my
being. That is what is called by the Church
as sanctifying grace.
To simplify something so great as God's
total mercy and gift called grace, grace can
be defined as relationship with God as well
as the total gift of mercy and salvation.
There are two defined categories of grace:
actual grace and sanctifying grace. Actual
grace is the everyday relationship I have
with God made stronger through every day
acts of goodness and kindness. Every time I
do something in love, my relationship with
God is strengthened. And with my
relationship with God strengthened, I can do
what seems impossible, and overcome
temptation that comes my way daily.
Sanctifying grace is a specific relationship
I have with God that affects my being and
my identity
as a human being. These specific
relationships are made in the reception of
each sacrament as follows: Baptism:
relationship to God the Father as my Father,
Jesus as my brother and Lord, and the Holy
Spirit as the love that God has for me as
His child; Confirmation: relationship to
God as His prophet, as the speaker for God
in a world that needs to hear the truth of
God; Holy Eucharist: my relationship with
Jesus as Food and Bread of life; Penance:
my relationship with Jesus as Forgiver,
Healer, and Savior; Holy Matrimony: my
relationship with God as Love and my
relationship with Jesus as Spouse (Husband)
of His bride, the Church (all believers in
Jesus Christ); Holy Orders: my relationship
with God as His presence in the world;
Anointing of the Sick (Extreme Unction): my
relationship to God as Healer and Mender of
Broken Souls.
As you can see, the Holy Eucharist not only
"gives grace" through its reception, it
establishes a clear relationship with God as
the One who can fulfill my every hunger. I
am so happy to hear that you are well versed
in your Catholic faith. And please, don't
let anyone bully you by suggesting you know
little of the "wisdom of this world." You
know Jesus Christ, and you know Him in the
Holy Eucharist. That is more important and
valuable than in any pretense of
intellectual pride that your parish priest
has shown you at his so-called bible study. May the Lord bless you for standing on His truth. - Father
Cervantes
“My father, 87, divorced my mother after 40
years
and goes to Mass with his girlfriend. Too
old to
commit adultery, is this justified in the
Church?”
- John
Priest
Staff:
My elderly Father (87) divorced my Mother
after 40 years but still goes to Mass and
receives the sacraments with his girlfriend
who has converted. Though no longer "able"
to commit "adultery", I want to know how
this is justified in the eyes of the Church
and condoned with my Catholic relatives. I
look at the hypocrisy and refuse to be a
part of the situation or the church. – John
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John:
I am not quite sure what your father's
situation is in regards to the Church. You
do not say if he is living with his
"girlfriend," nor do you say whether your
father and "girlfriend" are married. As
long as your divorced father is not in an
adulterous relationship (that means not only
sexual but emotional as well), and is not
living with this "girlfriend," he is free to
receive the sacraments as your mother is as
well. If your father is living with this
woman and/or is married to her civilly, then
he cannot receive the sacraments.
I am sorry to hear of your pain as you see
your father seemingly callously throw away
40 years of marriage and family. But I want
you to know that the Church is not
condoning your father's relationship if it
is truly adulterous. I cannot speak for
your relatives. I can only speak of our
Church's teaching that a sacramental
marriage is lifelong unless it is proven
through an annulment process that the
marriage was not a sacramental marriage in
the first place. Your father will be
accountable to God for his actions.
Leave judgment to God and you must live your
life with faith in Jesus Christ as Lord and
Savior and Judge. -
CatholicView Priest Staff
“My mom is 93 and legally blind, on
oxygen,
and legally blind. Can she become Catholic
without the normal process? - Jennifer
CatholicView Priest Staff:
My mother is 93, legally blind, on oxygen
24/7 and very hard of hearing. Can she join
the church without going through the
instruction process? -Jennifer
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Jennifer:
Yes, your mother can be received into full
communion with the Catholic Church without
going through the Rites of Christian
Initiation process. Pleased talk to your
parish priest or deacon about this matter.
There may be some catechetical teaching
involved to make sure that your mother is
aware of being brought into the Catholic
Church. – CatholicView Priest Staff
“Our Priest wears his knit cap into the
Church.
Is this appropriate?” - Susan
Father Cervantes:
Our Priest wears his knit cap into the
Church and into the Sanctuary. I find it
disrespectful. Is this now appropriate? If
not what can we do to change this behavior.
- Susan
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Susan:
I am reminded of an event in my parish that
set off a firestorm of controversy and many
had to learn what it means NOT TO JUDGE. One
Sunday morning at our very large parish, a
young man came into our church for Sunday
Mass wearing a baseball cap. He came with
his family as usual.
The usher TOLD the young man to take off his
hat. The young man said that he would not
since he needed to keep the hat on. The
usher said that it was disrespectful and
wanted the young man to take off his hat.
The usher was making a terribly negative
scene and the family was responding in a
protective and equally negative manner.
I was called on the scene. The young man was
upset and crying now. His family was so
upset with him vowing never again to come to
church. After a quick investigation and
trying to calm down both parties (while the
whole congregation was watching with
anxiousness), I found out that the young man
had cancer, and the chemo-therapy had robbed
him of all his hair. He wanted to keep his
hat on not only for cosmetic purposes but
also for keeping his head warm in the cool
weather at the time. He needed that hat for
his own sense of security as well.
I apologized to the family and told them to
please stay and pray for peace of mind and
heart. Then I took the usher aside and we
had a long talk. Needless to say, everyone
learned a valuable lesson: do not judge.
Jesus told us so in Matthew Chapter 7,
Verses 1-5: "Stop judging that you may not
be judged." That young man wore his hat to
church until the day of his death when he
succumbed to cancer. He was buried with his
signature hat.
There is no liturgical rule ANYWHERE in the
Catholic Church that says one shouldn't wear
a hat in church. If someone decides to wear
a hat in church, then I think that there
must be a reason that person wears that hat
and I won't question their decision to wear
a hat. Bishops, priests, deacons can wear a
skull cap (zucchetto: white for popes,
cardinal red for Cardinals, reddish purple
for bishops; black for priests and deacons)
during Mass while bishops and abbotts wear
their mitres.
In other faiths, wearing a hat or head
covering is a sign of respect before the
Lord. Military customs sometimes (usually
in honor guard situations) dictate wearing a
hat indoors even in church. There must be a
reason why your priest wears a head cover
during Mass. Do not judge. There must be a
reason why he wears it. If you are so
curious about it, please ask him yourself
without being judgmental. You can ask him,
"Why do you wear your knit cap during Mass?"
Do not say judgmentally, "You know it's
disrespectful to wear a hat in Church, so
why do you do it?"
But there is no liturgical or canonical rule
that says one shouldn't wear a head covering
while in church. Every culture on earth has
its own "rules" about wearing head coverings
in specific situations. In God's eyes, He is
just happy that a person is partaking of the
Eucharistic feast of His Son's Body and
Blood and doesn't see the outward
appearances (or hats) but the heart and
soul.
- Father Cervantes
“What is the purpose of penance and
self-denial?”
- Pat
CatholicView Priest Staff:
What is the purpose of penance and
self-denial? I have never understand how
that can bring us closer to God or how it
can be something a merciful and loving God
wants us to do. – Pat
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Pat:
I also wonder why people enjoy exercising
their bodies and do all sorts of
disciplined things and diets for their
physical health. But we are told by our
medical experts that by dieting and
exercising, we can not only extend our lives
but also improve our quality of life. God
doesn't demand any one of us to do anything
for our health, but people do it anyway to
live better lives. The same for our
spiritual bodies, our souls. If we don't
exercise our souls with penance, fasting and
prayer, then our spiritual lives become
obese with temptation, sinful inclinations,
and moral confusion. Jesus mentioned to
his disciples that once He left, that they
would fast as He said in Matthew 9:15:
The days will come when the bridegroom is
taken from them, and then they will fast.
Even Jesus said that certain types of
prayer demands fasting, especially
exorcisms, in Mark 9:29. The early church
leadership prayed and fasted as a spiritual
discipline before they ordained anyone to
lead congregations as described in Acts
14:23:
They appointed presbyters for them in each
church, and with prayer and fasting,
commended them to the Lord in whom they had
put their faith.
God doesn't need our prayer, fasting, and
penance. We need prayer, fasting, and
penance to get our souls and spiritual
bodies into shape to fight against evil, to
stay faithful to God, and to bring peace and
joy to all we meet in the name of Jesus the
Lord. Prayer, fasting, and penance does
bring me closer to God as I shed the sinful
inclinations of my spiritual self. Without
it, people become spiritually sick and obese
with sin.
– CatholicView Priest Staff
“I may have done something disrespectful to
my
parents. After their death I had them
cremated.
Have I sinned?” - Karl
Please
Father:
I need your
help. I think I may have punished my
parents. I respected their wishes about 10
years ago of cremated them after death but
shortly afterward was told cremating instead
of burial is a sin against GOD. Have I
sinned? - Karl
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Karl:
Cremation, the burning of a deceased body to
ashes, is not sinful nor is it something
against the rules of the Church. You have
not sinned. You followed your parents'
wishes. If cremation was sinful, then how
about the people who died in fires and were
burned to death, leaving nothing behind but
ashes? The only thing that the Church
requires as a testimony of our faith in the
resurrection from the dead at the end of
time is that our deceased bodies and our
deceased ashes be placed in one place such
as a cemetery. The Church doesn't like the
scattering of ashes as it does not give
testimony that one day, our bodies will rise
in a glorified state at the end of time.
Please, you have not sinned in this
regards. Go in peace, - Father
Cervantes
“My six grandchildren are taught that I go
to a
bad Church and cannot be saved. What
should I say” - Kathleen
Father:
My six grandchildren are being taught that
"Grammy" goes to a bad (Catholic) church, is
not a Christian, and cannot be saved. What
can I say to them? - Kathleen
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Kathleen:
I am sorry that the parents of your
grandchildren are so mean spirited to say
and teach their children these lies about
our Christian faith. You should talk to
your grandchildren's parents about this
matter since talking to your grandchildren
about this could be counter-productive. But
talking to the parents would be
imperative. Ask them to stop this hate
message about you.
Your grandchildren should love you without
any caveats such as your Catholic faith.
What you can do is tell your grandchildren
that you accept and believe in Jesus Christ
as your Lord and Savior and that you know
you are going to heaven. That's all you
need to say to them if they should bring up
their parental hate for you again.
- God bless you. - Father Cervantes
“Is there a modern day saint like me who
went to
prison but did not commit a crime?” - Bryan
Father:
I spend 2-3 hours a day in prayer and
frequently receive communion. I made an
act of contrition 10 years ago to live a
celibate life which I will keep the rest of
my life. I live a life of penance.
I was wondering if there was a modern day
saint who was wrongly imprisoned yet spent
his life in prison praying for many and died
there. I accept that I have committed
no crime and don’t intend to but I am facing
prison and decided I will go instead of
committing suicide, a plan to be in constant
prayer there in the austere conditions. Is
there a modern day saint that like me went
to prison that did not commit a crime?
Some one I can study and give me inspiration
to face what I have to face. - Bryan
_____________________________
Bryan:
I am not clear why you are saying that you
are going to prison. So, I am unable to
give counsel as to your particular
situation. But you asked if there was a
"modern" saint that was imprisoned wrongly
and unjustly to study and follow as an
example. There were MANY in our church's
history that fit your description. But one
that comes to mind immediately is Saint
Maximilian Kolbe, a Franciscan priest
who was imprisoned by the Nazi's during
World War II, a Polish priest (please see
this link for a summary of his life:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maximilian_Kolbe )
who gave up his life for another.
Here is a little story and video about his
life in this link:
https://www.catholic.org/saints/saint.php?saint_id=370
May the Lord give you strength and peace in
what is ahead. Jesus is always with you!
Always.
- Father
Cervantes
“Does Psalm 144:1 conflict with "Thou
shalt
not kill"? – Thomas
Father:
Does Psalm 144:1 conflict with "Thou shalt
not kill"? – Thomas
____________________________________
Thomas:
Psalm 144 begins with this verse:
Blessed be the Lord, my rock, who trains my
hands for battle, my fingers for war.
This particular psalm was a prayer hymn sung
in the Temple as the Israelites were
preparing to protect their country, and in
particular, Jerusalem, from foreign armies
that wanted to subject Israel to their
whims. The commandment,
You shall not kill,
does not imply that we cannot act in
self-defense. All throughout the Hebrew
Scriptures (the Old Testament), self-defense
was never considered killing or murder if
another's life was taken in battle. Notice
that at the end of this psalm, the song
writer states (Psalm 144:14):
May there be no breach in the walls, no
exile, no outcry in our streets. Happy the
people for whom things are thus; happy the
people whose God is the Lord.
This is a psalm praising God and asking for
His aid in the self-defense of Israel.
There is no conflict between the
commandment,
You shall not kill (murder),
and the concept of self-defense.
Self-defense is demanded at times.
– CatholicView Priest Staff
“I'm worried that my baptism is invalid.” -
Laura
CatholicView Priest Staff:
I'm worried that my baptism is invalid. The
Monsignor made a mistake and confirmed me
first...then baptized me when I asked him
after that when I would be baptized. During
the baptism he kept forgetting my name and
kept saying Marybeth when my name is Laura
Beth. Obviously, he didn't know me well, I
was brand new to the parish. - Laurie
____________________________
Laura:
All that is demanded for a valid baptism is
the pouring of water over the person and the
words (and your faith in Jesus),
I baptize you in the name of the Father, and
the Son, and the Holy Spirit
(Matthew 28:19). From what you described,
your baptism was valid and I congratulate
you in being in full communion in the
Catholic Church. Praise Jesus, Lord
and Savior! -
CatholicView Priest Staff
“My Brother-in-law is my three children’s
godfather.
I found out later he was not Catholic but
agnostic.
What should we do?” - Michelle
Father:
My husband and I have been married for 15
yrs and we have known one another all of our
lives (age 3). We have 2 sons 13 and 11.
When they were born we asked my husband's
brother to be their godfather. We recently
found out that he is an agnostic and was at
the time of the boys' Baptisms. My husband's
parents and two sisters knew this at the
time and never said a word, in fact my
mother-in-law was the person who obtained a
letter for my brother in law being in good
standing in the Catholic Church which we
were also unaware of at the time. We feel
incredibly betrayed for the lies by everyone
and making matters worse we are being told
we are making mountains out of mole hills.
That nothing wrong was done and we should
apologize for being angry to them. I take my
faith very seriously and forgiveness is not
difficult for me or my husband to give but
we do not believe we should subject
ourselves or our children to this kind of
twisted thinking. We have tried over the
last 4 yrs to explain our position but the
demand that we give an apology is always the
final note. My husband's mother passed last
year and while all of his siblings were
afforded the opportunity to see her in the
hospital he was cruelly notified after her
death. He had many conversations with her
prior to passing and this is all he has to
hang onto. His father, sisters and brother
believe they were justified because we would
not acquiesce and admit that they were right
and we were the ones who had caused the
insult. My husband's family is caught up in
PC, and perception and the telling or truth
was in their actions of taking away his last
most precious moments with his mother, he
dismissed their protocol and mourned in
private. We have left the door open to his
father but have clearly stated there will be
no one sided apologies do we need to do
more? – Michelle
_______________________________
Michelle:
Family demands and expectations can take on
deceptive actions when terms like
"godparents" become all important, more
important than the sacrament of baptism
itself. The sacrament of baptism was VALID
no matter what the spiritual condition of
the baptismal sponsors (godparents) were.
There isn't anything you can do about a past
situation that started off in deception.
The present time is real, and what you do
now is what counts, not what happened in the
past.
You mentioned that you have argued this
point for the past four years. This does
not bode well for any kind of peaceful
co-existence with your in-laws. This was
clearly seen by their actions in shunning
your husband and you when it came to the
death of his mother, your mother-in-law.
What was done to you was terribly hurtful
and showed their negativity to you.
You say that forgiveness is not difficult,
but holding on for four years and demanding
an apology from those who feel that they
have done no wrong means that you have NOT
forgiven them, even if they do not know what
they have done nor want to acknowledge their
deceptive actions.
I advise you to STOP the constant demand for
apologies and move forward. Your children
belong to God and are members of Christ's
Body, the Church. That is more important
than anything else. Your Christian example
that you give your children is more
important! When they see you argue in front
of your in-laws, or speak badly about
them, they learn from your example and
words, and they may be learning that there
is no such thing as forgiveness and moving
on to the future. You ask, "Do we need to
do more?" I say with a strong conviction:
STOP. You have done enough.
Let it go and let God be the Judge, and I
guarantee you, God will hold them
accountable for their actions against you
and your husband. But you need to let the
Lord do His Will in regards to your
in-laws. You must attend to the material
and spiritual needs of your family according
to God's Will and Plan. Stop focusing on
the in-laws. Ask the Lord to help you be
silent and try to live in a peaceful
co-existence with them. Your constant
arguing with them will solve nothing but add
more negative feelings. You must go forward
and share the joy of your Catholic faith
with your children. That is God's Will at
this time for you, not trying to get
something from your in-laws that won't be
coming any time soon.
–
CatholicView Priest Staff
“I am not Catholic and want to enroll my son
in a
Catholic School but was told I must attend
Mass.
Is this true? - Jack
Father
Cervantes:
My son is
due to start in a Catholic school, which I
agree with. But to enter this school I have
been told I must attend church with his
mother, (We are no longer in a relationship)
in order to impress the priest. It is also
tradition I have been told. I am not
Catholic so do not want to go to church but
will not stop my son if he wants to be
Catholic. I have asked for a meeting with
the Priest in order to discuss this and
would like some advice in what to discuss
because it is important for me, that my son
enters this school. - Jack
______________________
Jack:
I am grateful to God that you and the mother
of your beloved son have decided to send him
to Catholic school. Speaking as a pastor
with a school attached to our parish
ministry, education in a Catholic school
involves more than the ABCs. It also
involves motivation, discipline, moral and
spiritual growth in Jesus Christ as Lord and
Savior. With that in mind, I do not expect
any non-Catholic parent to go to our parish
church just to impress me. I am already
impressed that you as parents have decided
to make financial sacrifices to provide a
Catholic education for your son. I really
dislike it when people make up things as you
have described, such as going to church to
impress anyone attached to the school
staff. But what we do expect parents to do
is to provide a continuing support for their
student at home, to encourage and to agree
with us in the development of the
moral Christian character of your student
son. Since the mother of your son is
Catholic, we do expect her to come to church
with her son as a specific way to support
the message of Catholic living. As for you,
it is important that you support your son in
going to church. That means that when your
son visits you for the weekend that you
provide the means for him to go to church.
When you see the parish priest, just simply
explain that you are not Catholic and that
you will not be attending services at the
parish. But you must say that you will take
your son to church when he is with you on
the weekends. That's a must as a way to
support the Christian message that he is
receiving in Catholic school. As a pastor,
I understand your position and I do not
expect anything other than being involved in
the parish school functions but not
necessarily church functions. You do only
what is comfortable to you. So, be at peace
and don't be anxious about what you will say
to your pastor. All I want to hear is that
you will be supportive of your son's
Catholic education when he is with you.
Once again, thank you for your sacrifice in
giving your son a Catholic education.
- Father Cervantes
“My first marriage was annulled and I want
to remarry
in the Church. Will a second marriage also
appear
on the permanent record? – Ray
Father:
I have been civilly divorced for nearly two
years. My marriage was fully annulled by the
Catholic church and I am now free to remarry
in good standing with the church. I will
soon be beginning the process of remarrying
in the church. I know the church of my
baptism receives and maintains all of my
sacramental records. Since they have
recorded my first marriage and it is now
fully annulled, will they be purging their
records of the "marriage" that did not exist
in the eyes of the church? Will a second
marriage appear on the permanent record in
place of the annulled marriage? Several
local priests have not been able to answer
this one for me. Please answer this if you
are able to. Blessings. Ray
_____________________________
Ray:
Your church of your baptism does keep all
your sacramental records as you have
stated. Your first marriage is recorded
there and the decree of annulment is also
recorded there. There is no such thing as
expunging the sacramental records. Your
second (and sacramental) marriage will be
recorded there was well. Canon law demands
that all sacramental records be kept
diligently (Canons 875-878).
Congratulations on your upcoming sacramental
marriage! May the Lord bless you and keep
you and your bride in His loving embrace! -
CatholicView Priest Staff
“Is it a sin to commit sinful acts as an
actor
in a play/movie? - Steve
Father:
Is it a sin to commit sinful acts as an
actor in a play/movie? I'm considering
pursuing acting as a career, and this
question is the one thing holding me back.
While I personally don't feel like
committing sinful acts while acting carries
over anything negative to my personal life,
I would like to be absolutely sure I'm not
committing a sin here. Steve
______________________________
Steve:
You and many actors have had serious
questions about the morality of their craft
when it comes to certain scenes in which
"sinful acts" are portrayed. As a Catholic
and a follower of Christ, your integrity is
ALL IMPORTANT. If you feel that any scene
is not within your moral and spiritual life,
then please, do not do this act. There are
many Christian actors who always make it
clear their limitations concerning certain
immoral scenes and are successful. Maintain
your integrity! There are support groups
for Catholic actors! Here is an article
about it. Maybe you can join them!
http://www.catholicdigest.com/articles/people/celebrities/2012/12-14/catholics-in-hollywood
Hope this helps. -CatholicView
Priest Staff
“I am Catholic and my fiancé is a Pentecost
Christian
and wants our marriage in her church. What
is your
advice to handle this?” - John
Father:
I'm a Roman Catholic and my soon to be bride
is a Pentecost Christian. She'd like to
have the wedding ceremony at her church
officiated by her pastor. She was born and
raised into that church and has very strong
relationships with her pastor. I on the
other hand am a Roman Catholic and my
parents/family would like to have a RC
Wedding.
We've decided to do 2 ceremonies.. the first
would be hers where we'd sign the legal
papers, then the RC ceremony where we'd take
part in the communion and exchange rings.
Can this be done? What is your advice to
handle this? – John
__________________________
John:
Yes, what
you described can be done. I also would
like to suggest another option that would
make things easier. You do need to receive
a dispensation for disparity of cult ("mixed
religion") before you are married in the
Catholic Church. By receiving this
dispensation, you can also receive a
dispensation from form (having your
sacramental marriage done outside a Catholic
church building) that will enable you to
have your wedding in the Pentecostal
congregation recognized as a Catholic
sacramental marriage. You could even have
your priest or deacon come to that
Pentecostal church to bless your wedding
though the minister of the Pentecostal
congregation will preside and accept your
spoken marital vows. I have done that on
several occasions as pastor of my
large parish church. I would go to another
Christian congregation and I would have a
part in imparting a Catholic marital
blessing. You need to talk to your parish
priest and deacon. The option you mentioned
in your question is also acceptable with two
ceremonies, one happening in the Pentecostal
congregation and another in the
Catholic Church. May the Lord bless your
marriage with joy, faithful love, and peace.
–
Father Cervantes
“I was healed by proxy when my wife
attended a
Catholic healing service. Is this a valid
witness
of power of Sacrament Healing?” – Xavier
Father Cervantes:
Would this be a valid witness of the power
of the Sacrament of Healing?
I was in pain with a doctor diagnosed hiatal
hernia. He gave a prescription for the pain
and sent me home. The next day my wife asked
me to go to the church as there was going to
be a healing service with the sacrament of
healing. I was not up to it and decided to
stay home and try the medicine she had just
picked up for me.
She went to the service and I crawled back
into bed after taking the pain pill.
About 30 minutes later, I experienced a
truly remarkable feeling of the pain leaving
my body. I could almost see it being pulled
out my chest and totally drifting away. I
was stunned. My first reaction was, "WOW,
what a great pain pill that was."
When my wife came back, she was all a glow.
She told me that the Priest asked her what
her ailment was and she said she was asking
for my healing, not one for herself. The
Priest anointed her and immediately she
broke into a deep sobbing uncontrollable
cry. A friend sitting with her said, "You
have just received a healing". My wife, a
very shy and non-demonstrative person was
confused and a little embarrassed.
The timing as we determined, was the same as
my pain relief. We were certain that it was
healing from God.
The pain never came back, even after 20
years. I never took another one of those
pills and my doctor assured me that there
was no longer any hernia.
So, can some one be healed by proxy through
this sacrament? Or was this something other
than a sacramental healing. Can I witness to
others that my healing was the result of the
sacramental anointing administered to my
wife, or through my wife? I don't want to
say anything that would be doctrinally
incorrect. Thank you for any help you can
offer. – Xavier
___________________________
Xavier:
Praise God from Whom all blessings flow.
God did heal you! How it happened is even
more amazing! You are so blest! God has
performed a miracle in your life. Even
though the Sacrament of the Anointing of the
Sick is for that particular anointed person
(there is no such thing as a proxy for a
sacrament now-a-days, though the Sacrament
of Marriage can still be done by proxy,
though that is extremely rare), God has
looked with favor on your wife's faith and
you were healed. Please, share your healing
testimony with all you see so that others
may know that God hears our prayers! And
you had better treat your wife with the
greatest of love. It was your wife's faith
that saved you! And it was the Holy Spirit
that touched you. You can say that God
healed you through your wife's prayer and
her accepting the Anointing of the Sick. It
is not doctrinally incorrect, as you say. –
Father Cervantes
“Is it true that the Hebrews called the Ten
Commandments only suggestions?”
- Nicole
Father,
Someone said that the Hebrews called the Ten
Commandments "suggestions, or propositions"
and NOT 'Commandments'. Is this true??.
Thank you. – Nicole
___________________________
Nicole:
Who are you talking to? No where, and I
mean, no where, is the ten commandments
considered suggestions or propositions in
the Hebrew Scrptures (the Old Testament).
The ten commandments are considered LAW,
with the force of LAW in the Mosaic
covenant. The ten commandments are not nice
moral suggestions. The ten commandments are
God's Law within the Mosaic covenant between
the people of Israel and Him.
– CatholicView Priest Staff
“How can I reaffirm to Jesus after purposely
sinning?” - David
CatholicView Priest Staff:
How to reaffirm to Jesus after purposely
sinning. I left the church to make money
and stopped God's work and I watch porno
films knowing it was wrong against my wife
and I was hateful to my wife and children.
Please help. I know I was wrong and I have
returned to Church and stopped all sin and
keep God in my mind 24/7. I want my God
back. – David
____________________________
David:
Each day, as
you awake, say, "Lord Jesus, you are my Lord
and Savior forever. Help me live this day
in accordance with your gospel and Will."
By coming back to the Church, you have come
back to God! Now, I want you to do
something. I need you to make an
appointment with your parish priest for the
purpose of doing a "general confession," and
to discuss your past and your commitment to
begin again. Please read this link about a
general confession:
http://www.catholicity.com/devoutlife/1-19.html
- CatholicView Priest Staff
CATHOLICVIEW STAFF
“Why did God make me if I might spend
eternity
in hell? – Paula
CatholicView Staff:
Why did God
make me if there is a chance that I could
spend eternity in hell? Isn’t it a huge
risk? – Paula
_____________________________
Dear Paula:
Thank you
for your Interesting question. What you are
not taking into consideration is that God,
in His Almighty mercy and His love, have
given all of us Free Will to choose where we
will spend eternity. It will be our choice
to love and serve Him or to choose to go our
own way and live sinfully. We can
decide to
turn our backs on His teaching and do “our
own thing” or through faith, believe in His
Son Who died for our salvation.
So where is
the risk? Do you believe and have faith in
God? Are you willing to accept what Jesus
is offering to you freely?
Please think
about this. You are loved. God wants you
to come and live with Him when you die. The
price has already been paid for by Jesus
Christ on the cross. Always keep in mind
that we are not perfect but IF we fall into
sin, the Lord, through love, will forgive
you, over and over again, if you are truly
sorry and repentant. God made you and gave you
a way to live with Him forever. Will you
take His gift of eternity? -
CatholicView Staff
“Is pride a sin? - Robert
CatholicView
Staff:
Since pride is a sin, then is it also a sin
to be proud? Being proud of an
accomplishment, a person or anything else? -
Robert
___________________________
Robert:
There is
nothing wrong with feeling that you have
accomplished something wonderful. It is
only a sin to brag and be arrogant about our
successes. You do
not sin when you are grateful to God, thanking Him for
giving you the ability to accomplish
something unique. What we must not do is
feel we are better than others.
We are all born
with the propensity for pride therefore we
should be mindful of this, and as
Christian Catholics avoid boasting and
bragging.
Keep in mind that all good things that come
to us
is a blessing from God and we must be humble and thankful to
the one Who is the source of all our
prosperities.
Hope this
helps! - God bless you always. -
CatholicView Staff
“Is Catholicism Christian or not?” -
Vinnie
CatholicView Staff:
I have a CATHOLIC (not Protestant) friend
who insists that Catholicism is NOT
Christian; that those are 2 different
things. Is Catholicism Christian or not? -
Vinnie
________________________
Dear Vinnie:
Here is your
answer simply put: If ANYONE believes in
Jesus Christ, they are Christians. It is true
non-Catholics have time and again ask "what
Church do you belong to". You answer
Catholic. Unfortunately they say, “I am
Christian”.
No one
should claim Catholics are not Christian.
Our faith is based on Jesus Christ.
Without this, the Church cannot stand. A
Christian, simply put, is someone who
believes that Jesus is our Messiah Who has
paid for our entry into heaven. Without Him
there is no salvation and no eternity.
In the Nicene creed, from 325 C.E.,
Catholics profess:
We believe in one Lord, Jesus Christ,
the only Son of God, eternally begotten of
the Father, God from God,
Light from Light, true God from true God,
begotten, not made, one in being with the
Father.
Through Him all things were made.
For us and our salvation He came down from
heaven: by the power of the Holy Spirit,
He was born of the Virgin Mary, and became
man. For our sake He was crucified
under Pontius Pilate; He suffered, died, and
was buried.
On the third day He rose again in
fulfillment of the scriptures: He ascended
into heaven
and is seated at the right hand of the
Father.
He will come again in glory to judge the
living and the dead, and His kingdom will
have no end.
We accept Jesus Christ as our Lord and
Savior. We are baptized as Jesus commanded
in
Matthew 28:19, "in the name of the Father,
and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit."
Tell your friend to talk to
his parish
priest about this. He will be able to reset
his perspective on this matter. May the
Lord give
him
the clarity to see and
understand, through prayer to our heavenly
Father, the peace that only God can give
him. - CatholicView Staff
“My ex-wife
and I were married in the Catholic Church.
If I get an annulment, will I need to be
remarried in the
Church?” - Don
CatholicView Staff:
I was married in the Catholic Church and
then divorced. I have since been remarried
outside of the church in a civil union. If
I get an annulment from my first marriage
what does that mean for my current
marriage? Does the church recognize it or
do I need to be remarried in the church? -
Don
_______________________________
Dear Don:
You are correct in saying that in the eyes
of the Church, you are still married to your
first wife. If you get a church annulment,
you can then obtain a Church blessing of
your present marriage by your priest. Once
this is accomplished, your current union
will be recognized by the Church and you
will be able to participate in the
sacraments.
Please make
an appointment to talk to your parish
priest. He will discuss with you the
process of annulment and once this is
obtained you can then receive the blessing
of your marriage. God bless you. -
CatholicView Staff
“My ex-wife divorced me. I met a
non-Catholic
and we married. Can I take the Eucharist?”
- Richard
CatholicView:
My ex-wife initiated our divorce. She fell
in love with someone else. I met a
wonderful non-catholic woman and we
married. May I still receive the Holy
Eucharist? - Richard
_________________________
Richard:
At this time
you must refrain from taking communion.
The first thing you must do is apply for an
annulment from your first marriage.
According to Catholic Church teaching, you
are still married to your first wife. In
order to receive the Holy Eucharist again,
you must speak with your parish priest in
order to arrange an annulment from your
first wife. Once this is taken care of, you
will be able to get your present marriage
blessed by the Church, which will you
entitle you to receive communion.
Please make
an appointment as soon as possible with your
priest. He will be happy to help you seek
an annulment and arrange the blessing of
your present marriage. Once these things
are taken care of you be able to accept the
Eucharist again. God go with you always.
- CatholicView Staff
“When does
our own needs take first place in
helping others? - Miller
CatholicView Staff:
I know that Jesus taught us to "love thy
neighbor", and He sacrificed Himself for us.
I think this set an example of how we should
try to live, making sacrifices for the
better good. However, when is it okay to
say no for our own sake? Should we live
our lives looking for ways to help other
people, or should we help ourselves first,
so that we can help others later? When does
our own happiness matter? Thanks, Miller
_____________________________
Miller:
All of us
can give something whether it is time, money
or some other way of helping those in need.
We can make time to visit the sick, maybe go
to the market for a sick person who is
unable to do this themselves. And there are
things that we can share such as clothing we
do not wear, dropping off an overabundance
of canned food at Church for the poor, or
other things that will not take away from
personal happiness. In fact, as a
Christian, it feels good when we lend others
a hand. And our God Who sees all will repay
us in many ways.
It is true that we want to hold what God has
given to us to our hearts, and like a child
with a toy, refuse to let go and share. But
we must remember that we are blessed in all
the things we have. This is not to say our
children should go hungry. But to share
whatever God has given to us is the right
thing to do if we see or know someone in
need. Jesus said to us, “When you give
to the poor or needy, you are doing it for
me.”
Luke 6:38
tells us the following: “Give and it
will be given to you. Good measure, pressed
down, shaken together, running over, will be
put into your lap. For with the measure you
use it will be measured back to you.”
What this
means is that we help others, God will bless
you in return. Also take a look at James
2:14-17: “What good is it, my brothers,
if someone says he has faith but does not
have works? Can that faith save him? If a
brother or sister is poorly clothed and
lacking in daily food, and one of you says
to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and
filled,” without giving them the things
needed for the body, what good is that? So
also faith by itself, if it does not have
works, is dead.”
When God
blesses you with bountiful food, clothing or
shelter, always consider your neighbor if
they are in need. Remember all things we
have were given to us by God. To share this
bounty should give you happiness, knowing
that you brought joy to someone else.
Hope this
helps. – CatholicView Staff
“Can
non-Catholics receive ashes at
a Catholic Church?” – Cynthia
CatholicView:
I am a non-Catholic Christian, spending the
year studying Catholicism, in depth. I know
I cannot receive communion at RC churches.
I'm wondering if I can receive ashes on Ash
Wednesday? Thanks
for your time. - Cynthia
__________________________
Cynthia:
Please accept my apologies for the late
response. Non-Catholics can receive blessed
ashes at a Catholic Ash Wednesday Mass. The
only thing they cannot do is to receive
Communion. The Code of Canon Law, canon
1170 prescribes the following:
Can. 1170
Blessings which are to be imparted first of
all to Catholics, can also be given to
catechumens and even to non-Catholics
unless there is a prohibition of the Church
to the contrary.
Therefore, the receiving of ashes upon
non-Catholics falls under canon 1170.
Non-Catholics CAN receive ashes. –
CatholicView Staff
“Is it a sin
to take birth control?” Angelica
CatholicView
Staff:
I am married by Catholic Church. Is it a
sin to take birth control? Am I allowed to
take the Holy Eucharist? - Angelica
____________________________
Angelica:
The Catholic
Church specifically bans artificial birth
control. The Church teaches that the use of
mechanical, chemical, or medical procedures
to prevent conception from taking place is
against the openness to procreation required
of marriage and must not be used. If you
practice artificial birth control, you must
not receive Holy Communion.
The Church
approves of natural family planning.
Natural Family Planning is not a form of
birth control. Natural Family Planning is
to be used as a natural method of regulating
birth for times when there are serious
health problems or a couple is having
financial difficulties. God designed the
reproductive system in a way that there are
times when a woman cannot conceive.
This method
of birth planning and periodic abstinence is
the sole way the Church teaches is not
sinful. - CatholicView Staff
“Can
a strong Catholic who attends an Anglican
Church
because it is closer, become a Catholic
Priest?” - Calum
CatholicView
Staff:
If there is a strong Catholic, who wishes to
become a priest but attends an high Anglican
Church because it is closer to him, can he
still speak to a Roman Catholic vocations
director and go to a Catholic seminary? I
shall be grateful for any answer. Thank
you. Calum
_________________________
Calum:
The answer
to your question is yes, of course you can.
Please have the party speak to a Roman
Catholic Vocations director who will direct
you and help you make arrangements to enter
a Catholic Seminary nearby. May God bless
you greatly for wanting to work for the
Lord. - CatholicView Staff
“Is it a sin to have and or want tattoos?”
- Destiny
CatholicView:
Is it a sin to have and or want tattoos?
And if so how can one be forgiven? - Destiny
___________________________
Destiny:
There is no official teaching against having
a tattoo that I know of. If you are not
talking about radical, demonic or Satanist
tattoos, just simple ones that are not
offensive or suggestive, it is
permissive. Anything intended to be
sexually provocative, or offensive to God would
be a wrongful action as a Catholic Christian
because it is not Godly. –
CatholicView
Staff
“I enjoy the homilies our new priest gives
and go
to mass each day to hear him. Is this
wrong?”
- Wendy
CatholicView
Staff:
We have a new parish priest for a year and I
enjoy his homily very much to the extent
that I make sure I go to mass every day.
Recently I find myself in confusion if I
really TRULY go for mass or just to hear
his homily. How do I plead for God help? -
Wendy
____________________________
Wendy:
If the
homilies that you hear and enjoy because
they reach your soul and quiet your spirit,
and you come away feeling fulfilled with
God's love and His grace, there is nothing
wrong with this. A good homily from a knowledgeable priest strongly brings
forth our faith and belief in the Lord Jesus
Christ and when this happens, it is
strengthened and then fortified by receiving
the Holy Eucharist. Thanks, Wendy, for
your question. God go with you always. -
CatholicView Staff
“I was sexually abused by my father at the
age of 7
and now he is threatening to leave my son
out of
his will” - Anthony
CatholicView Staff:
I was sexually abused by my father at the
age of 7. He has never admitted or
apologized for his actions. He considers
himself a sincere and devout Catholic and is
clearly convinced that going to confession
and giving to charity mitigates any
offense. I remain his victim and am very
distressed - but don't know what to do? Now
grown up, I have a son of my own but my
father has made it very clear to me that if
I don't Tow the Line, my son will be left
out of his Will. My father continues to
verbally abuse me and seems to have
'something evil' about him. I always been
willing to forgive but his abusive manner
makes this impossible. Please help. Any
sensible advice would be appreciated. I
would rather control this situation within
the family - not in public - but if I speak
out, my own son will be targeted. -
Anthony
______________________________
Anthony:
I am so
sorry to hear that your father sexually
abused you as a child. And continues to
threaten and dictate to you and your son. It is
to your credit that you would want to honor
him, but in this case, you have tried to
overlook all the pain he has done to you and
is still causing.
Do not allow
his terrible behavior to continue. It is
better to not receive monies than to have
someone like your father continue to
mentally abuse you. Going to confession
means Godly change and he is
unwilling to do this. But Almighty God sees
and knows everything. No confession will
help him if he does not make a decent effort
to repair the sinful damage he has done to
you all
these years.
Please move
on. Pray and ask the Lord to strengthen you
to get past this. Money is NOT everything.
Peace is. Wash your hands of this nightmare
you are living and make your own way for
yourself and your wonderful son. God go
with you. –CatholicView Staff
“My boyfriend is Catholic and I am not.
Both of us
are divorced. Will the Church advise him to
give me
up because we are intimate? - Karen
CatholicView
Staff:
My new gentleman friend is devout
Catholic. I am Baptist. He is 59 &
divorced. I am 50 & divorced also. Will
he be advised to "give me up" because we've
become intimate? - Karen
__________________________
Karen:
Unless your
friend, a devout Catholic, has an annulment
from his first marriage, he is committing
serious adultery as he is still married
to his first wife in the eyes of the Church.
If you plan
to marry a Catholic, you may also be
required to get an annulment since you also
have been married and divorced. Either way
you are living in sin because you are
indulging in fornication.
Tell you
Catholic gentleman friend that he must
confess his behavior as soon as possible.
He must not receive communion in his present
state of sin. He must make an appointment
to discuss these matters with his priest.
Please do not be a party to this.
-
Catholic View Staff
“I am pregnant with my 4th child
and Natural Family
Planning is not working. My partner wants
me to use
hospital family planning. Can you help?” -
Isabel
CatholicView
Staff:
I am pregnant with my 4th child & even
though we tried natural family planning it
is not working. My partner is not Catholic
and is encouraging me to take family
planning at the hospital. I feel like I am
losing control because of the unplanned
pregnancies and I strongly feel I should
take up family planning but I am scared as
it goes against Catholic teachings. I am in
a dilemma and I need your guidance.
Thanks. - Isabel
___________________________
Isabel:
We pray that
you are married to your partner and not
living in sin. And you are correct in
saying that any type of birth control goes
against the teaching of the Church.
NFP is
easier to use now. Natural Family Planning
(NFP) is based on the fact that a woman's
body gives certain signs about the different
phases of her monthly fertility cycle.
Catholic natural family planning teaches you
to observe and interpret these signs to
determine when you are fertile. To avoid
conception, one does not indulge in
intercourse during this fertile time.
Please
discuss this with your parish priest who can
direct you to classes on Natural Family
Planning. Bring your husband with you.
Your priest will be happy to give
information about classes on Natural Family
Planning. You will be surprised to see how
effective NFP can be if you learn the proper
procedure. You may want to visit here
for more information.
http://www.beginningcatholic.com/catholic-natural-family-planning.html
Also many
Catholic dioceses offer some kind of NFP
training, and some now require NFP training
as part of the standard preparation for
receiving the Sacrament of Marriage.
Because the Catholic Church teaches that NFP
is the only morally acceptable method of
regulating birth, and diocesan training
programs will happily accept non-Catholics
as well.
May
the Lord bless you abundantly. -
CatholicView Staff
“Will my
grandmother go to hell for tying her tubes?”
- Laryssa
CatholicView
Staff:
She had already had two kids and was married
by age 21, and decided it was enough. But
when she got the procedure done, her Church
said that she will "roast in hell." Is it
true? Laryssa
_____________________________
Laryssa:
I am
assuming that your grandmother is beyond
child bearing years. There is one thing you
must keep in mind: You do not know if she
has prayed, confessed this sin, and asked
God for forgiveness. Because we do not
know this we must not judge her. AND we do
not have the right to say that the person
will roast in hell. Only God can judge our
actions.
Why not pray
for your grandmother? Ask the Lord to touch
her heart and if she has not sought
forgiveness, to give her the wisdom to seek
it. We will pray that she has already made
her peace with our heavenly Father. Keep
praying for her. God hears our prayers.
- CatholicView Staff
“My husband and my 5 children watch
detective
shows with sexy women. I am pregnant with
our
6th child and feel unloved. Please help. - Sarah
CatholicView
Staff:
My husband and I take our faith serious, we
home-school, etc. He likes to watch
detective shows that show women who are
seductive and scandalous. He lets our five
young children watch also. I am also
pregnant and feel very sensitive about my
own body image and feel hurt when he ignores
my request to not watch these shows. What
should I do? - Sarah
_____________________________
Sarah:
I think it
is time for your husband to grow up and see
the damage he is inflicting on his children
and on you, his pregnant wife. It seems
that your husband is a good father and
husband but lacks the sensitivity that you
need during this time to feel
desired and loved. To continue in this
behavior is wrong. This is a time when a
husband has to be sensitive to the your feelings
and to whom he claims to love.
Tell your husband that you and he must go
and talk to your parish priest about this
situation. Because you are in a state of
pregnancy, this is a worry that you should
not carry alone.
Call and
make an appointment today. You need
answers. - CatholicView Staff
“I was 7 years old when my parents
divorced. A friend
told me they were going to hell so I asked Satan to
take my soul instead. Should I worry about
this?”
-Andrew
CatholicView
Staff:
When I was 7 my parents divorced. A friend
told me then that they would both go to hell
for divorcing. That terrified me, so I asked
Satan to take my soul instead of theirs. Is
this something I should be concerned about?
What should I do? - Andrew
______________________________
Andrew:
I think God
loves you even more than you know because,
as a very young child you wanted to
sacrifice your own eternal life for theirs.
What a loving son you are! You were
frightened and unable to react as a grownup
would. But God saw your dilemma. God has
your soul in His
loving hands, not Satan’s. You have nothing
to fear.
Satan cannot
claim you. God saw your precious love
and your sacrifice and your soul is in His
almighty hands. Please pray and ask
the Lord to
take away all fear.
Move ahead
now, knowing that Satan who taunts you, has failed. You belong to
Almighty God. If you trust, know that your faith will carry you
past all these doubts. Your soul is
secure. Keep praying and thanking the Lord
for His grace and His love. He will give
you the peace that surpasses all human
understanding. May our Heavenly Father
be with you always. -
CatholicView Staff
“I am
Jewish, divorced, and dating a Catholic
girl. I
want to become Catholic. Do I need an
annulment?
- Steve
Dear
Fathers,
I'm Jewish and converting to Catholicism. I
was married by a rabbi, not in a synagogue.
I am divorced and I'm wondering if my first
marriage will need to be annulled in order
to marry a Catholic girl. Thank you very
much, Steve
____________________________
Dear Steve:
Congratulations on being a member of our
Church and your upcoming marriage. We
welcome you.
Since you
have been married before and divorced, you
are free to marry in the Church only if your
previous spouse has died or you have
obtained a declaration of nullity from the
Church for this original marriage.
To marry a
Catholic, the prior bond (marriage) would
need to be examined through the Tribunal
process.
Please see a parish priest and discuss your
intention of being Catholic as well as
discussing your previous marriage. He will
be able to guide you through both an
annulment and your desire to become
Catholic. Again, in advance, welcome to our
church. - CatholicView Staff
“I have confessed the sin of cohabitation.
Can I receive communion?” - Paul
CatholicView
Staff:
I have confessed the sin of cohabitation,
and am no longer in a sexual relationship
with this person. Can I receive communion?
- Paul
__________________________
Paul:
If you have
truly asked the Lord to forgive you through
confession, expressed that you are sorry and
you promised to avoid this sin in the
future, then you can receive the Holy
Eucharist. Please ask God to strengthen you
in the future. May our Heavenly Father be
with you always. - CatholicView
Staff
“How does
normal ground become hallowed
ground?” - Robert
CatholicView Staff:
How does normal ground become hallowed
ground? Can places besides churches and
cemeteries become hallowed ground? - Robert
____________________________
Robert:
Thanks for
your question. Hallowed ground means that
it has been blessed by clergy. It is not a
sacrament but is a way that the Church
intervenes on behalf of the dead to implore
God's blessing. Canon Law 1 states: "Where
it is possible, the Church is to have its
own cemeteries or at least areas in civil
cemeteries that are designated for the
deceased members of the faithful and
properly blessed."
This does
not mean that a Catholic person cannot be buried in a
non-Catholic Cemetery. In this case, the
grave of the deceased Catholic must be
properly blessed. - Hope this helps. -
CatholicView Staff
“My friend’s husband wants an annulment to
marry
his Catholic girlfriend. What does this do
to her
children’s legitimacy?” - Amy
CatholicView
Staff:
My friend is very hurt, her ex husband says
he must get an annulment to marry his
Catholic girlfriend. She has several
children together with him. Our question is
what does this do to her children's
legitimacy?
________________________________
Amy:
I am so sorry to hear of the breakup of your
friend's marriage. Of course, the fact that
this man has gotten an annulment DOES NOT
affect his children. He must continue to
support them and share in supplying their
needs until they reach legal age. The
courts will support this. Their children will always and forever be legitimate. They carry their
father's name and nothing can change this.
In this your friend is secure.
Please tell her that she has nothing to worry
about concerning her children's
legitimacy. May the Lord strengthen your
friend to move forward, knowing that our
God Who sees all will bless and give her peace. - CatholicView Staff
“Is inhaling or eating marijuana a sin to
Jesus Christ?” - Jesus
CatholicView
Staff:
I have a curious question I really would
want to know about. I am sorry if the
question is bothersome. My question is. Is
inhaling/eating marijuana a sin to our
Father Jesus Christ? I don't ask because I
use it, but because it’s a curiosity I have.
I look forward to hearing back from you.
Thank you very much for your time and I hope
you have a wonderful day! - Jesus
_________________________________
Jesus:
The
Catholic Church frowns on marijuana because
it alters the mind and is intoxicating.
Marijuana should
never be an option for a Christian because
one is not in control of clear thinking
ability. The late Pope John Paul II had
frequently campaigned against marijuana,
saying there are no distinctions between
“hard” and “soft” drugs and that using
marijuana is equivalent to using other mind
altering drugs.
Many use the statement that marijuana is a
natural plant and therefore safe. Remember
hemlock is also natural, yet is poisonous
and kills.
With marijuana, one’s thinking powers become
faulty and can lead into sin. Avoid it like
the plague for it opens the gates to harder
substance abuse such as cocaine. Marijuana
is not compatible for a Christian to use.
Stay away from this temptation unless there
is a strong specific health need that
regular medications cannot help. - CatholicView
Staff
“Can a serial murderer or child molester go
to
heaven if they accept Jesus as Savior and
regret their sins? - John
CatholicView
Staff:
Can a serial murderer, or repeat child
molester go to heaven if they accept Jesus
as their Savior and genuinely regret their
sins-- even if they continue to commit those
sins over and over due to weakness in the
face of temptation? - John
______________________________
John:
It is true
that God does forgive all sin over and over
again if we are repentant. Notice, I say
truly repentant of those sins that you have
written about. If someone has the
propensity to repeat a sin over and over
again, without morose, then God will decide
their fate. 1 Corinthians 10:13 states "No
temptation has seized you except what is
common to man. And God is faithful; He will
not let you be tempted beyond what you can
bear. He will keep the temptation from
becoming so strong that you can't stand up
against it. When you are tempted, He will
show you a way out so that you will not give
in to it."
When people say they are Christians and live
a lifestyle of sin, they are in danger of
losing their souls for we do not know when
God will call us home. We do not know if
someone who keeps sinning and at the final
time before dying have asked the Lord for
forgiveness. Remember the thief on the
cross who repented before dying and Jesus
forgave him, saying “Today you will be with
me in paradise”. If a sinner realizes at
the moment of death, that he needs God to
forgive him, God will forgive for He is a
loving, merciful God but He IS always
is the final judge.
“If
leaving the Mass right after Communion have
I fulfilled my obligation? Richard
CatholicView
Staff:
If leaving the Mass right after Communion
have I fulfilled my obligation? Richard
_____________________________
Richard:
There is no
Canon law that tells us we cannot leave mass
early. However we must remember that the
hour we give at mass is showing honor to our
heavenly Father and our Savior Jesus
Christ. During mass we are worshiping
together in the house of God, the Father.
To leave immediately after taking communion
without quiet reflection or taking a few
minutes afterwards to thank God for sending
His Son to die for us is not a good thing to
do.
At the final
blessing we all say "Amen" in unison, as a
believing family. To leave early, we
forfeit that final blessing. At the
dismissal, when the priest makes his way
out, we are free to go forth as Christians.
There are
times when leaving mass cannot be helped,
such as a job, a sick child, or any
obligation we must attend. But we should
never make this a practice. Remember, we
would never consider leaving immediately
after dining at a friend's house would we?
So, shouldn't we spent those last few
minutes honoring the Lord? -
CatholicView Staff
“I’m over 80
years old and live at an assisted
care home. I receive communion but how
shall I confess my sins? - John
CatholicView Staff:
I am over 80 years of age. I live at a small
assisted-care adult home which is out in the
country. In the last year I have found no
one to get me to Mass or Confession. I do
receive Communion from my parish pastoral
care weekly. But how do I confess my sins? -
John
___________________________
John:
I am sorry
you cannot get to Church for Confession.
Have you asked your Minister of the
Eucharist about having the priest come to
your home? I am sure he will be able to
accommodate you.
If you have
use of a telephone at your home, please call
and tell the secretary that you need to see
a priest for confession and are unable to
get to the church on your own. I am sure
your priest will come to your home and be
most happy to hear your confession. In the
meantime, please pray directly to our
heavenly Father Who loves and cares for you.
Tell Him all your problems and concerns. He
is always available for you. May God bless
you always. - John
“How do I
get to know God in a personal way?”
– Kaila
CatholicView
Staff:
I believe there is God, but I do not feel
him in my presence. How do I get to know
God in a personal way? – Kaila
____________________________
Kaila:
The Book of
Jeremiah 29:11 tells us
“If you seek Me
with all your heart, I will allow you to
find Me.”
And one of the best ways to know God is through prayer. Find a quiet
place and talk to Him. Set aside a time
every day and pray.
Like a proud
parent, God created you, knows all about
you, and loves you. He knew you before you
were born and He knows you personally now.
If you open your heart to Him in prayer, you
will sense His Presence through the Holy
Spirit. Your prayers can be simple and
short but God knows exactly what you want to
say. Here is a simple prayer for you:
“Dear
God, I believe
that You love me and I want to have a
relationship with You. I want to feel Your
Presence within me. Open my heart, Lord so
that I can invite you to be the center of my
life. I ask all this in through Jesus
Christ, Your Son. Amen”
I am going
to give you this link on how to have a
personal relationship with Jesus Christ for
it is through Him that we get to our
heavenly Father:
http://catholicvu.com/1002.htm . May
God bless you with His Presence. –
CatholicView Staff
“My dog died and I feel so much pain and
nothing seems to help?.” - Sandra
CatholicView
Staff:
My dog died and I feel so much pain and
nothing seems to help. She was the only
family I had. - Sandra
___________________________
Sandra:
I am so
sorry that your beloved dog died. Dogs are
God’s special gift to us and when they die
it is a very sad loss.
Sadly we must
accept that your friend has passed away.
Prayer can help you to heal.
Let me pray
with you that God gives you solace during
this rough time.
"Eternal God, I give you all my grief
in the loss of my beloved and special dog,
and I ask for courage to bear this. I thank
you for giving my dog to me for this
was a pet who freely gave me love and joy.
I commit my precious “friend” into Your
loving hands. Give me courage and strength
to see how Your love embraces all creatures,
and every living thing speaks to me of Your
love. Thank you for the time You gave my
dog to be with me. One day I hope to see my
precious friend again if it is your will
Thank you, Father. Amen."
Sandra,
may you find peace during this time. I know
your dog can never be replaced or
forgotten, but if you can give another
loving home to a homeless and needy pet, it
may ease the pain that you are feeling now.
I am praying for you. – CatholicView
Staff
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