APRIL ASK A PRIEST 2008

APRIL 2008

FATHER AMARO SAUMELL
FATHER CEDRIC PISEGNA, C.P.
CATHOLICVIEW STAFF

FATHER AMARO SAUMELL

”I feel guilty about asking for software costing the church
$2000.00. Is this a sin? – Samantha

I asked for and received software that is valued at $2000.00. I am preparing a program for a church dedication. I knew it was unethical. I feel bad. Is it a mortal sin to plan and do it? I do not know how to tell my pastor and ask about changing formats. I feel so guilty receiving Communion. - Samantha

If you received stolen software, pay for it or delete it. It’s that simple. You do, in fact, know how to tell your pastor. You told me. Now you need to tell him. If he wants the software, he will pay for it. We’ve had enough scandals in the Church in recent times because of people “turning their heads” to compromised and illegal behavior. We do not need the Church to be known for accepting stolen property too!

As a layperson who is fully initiated in the Church through Baptism, Confirmation, and Holy Communion, you also carry the full responsibility of its governance and justice. Now is the time to have an experience with Jesus, who is the “truth” the way and the life.” It’s time to move beyond the motivations of “feelings” and into the motivation of conviction and use of the gifts of the Holy Spirit.

You know the truth. It’s time to deal with it. You’re having now the experience of the “fig leaves” of the first Adam and Eve with your embarrassment for picking the fruit that was not rightly yours. Reconcile with the New and Last Adam for He offers reconciliation and a penance that restores. God bless, Father Amaro

”Would it be insulting if I dressed like the Pope in my
performances as a musician? - Jerry

I am a member of a very conservative, religious community, am very religious myself, and am very respectful of the Pope. Through a picture which had my face superimposed on the Pope's body, my friends discovered that I in fact look very much like the Pope. I have been a performing musician for many years in this community with very little success, and I thought some way of visually demonstrating my conservatism and unity with the community might help. I discussed a specific idea with some friends, and they were very enthusiastic. The idea was, that while performing music, I would dress like the Pope. No disrespect to religion, Catholicism, or the Pope is intended (I am a theologian myself). However, the community also has a large number of Catholics, and I was concerned about how they might feel about this. Would they be angry, or would they actually realize that no insult to the Pope or Catholicism was intended? Of course a lot depends on my being respectful, but I am concerned about what their initial reaction might be. (I have not done it yet). - Jerry

Costuming is a common practice for certain occasions. Isn’t the real celebration of the Eve of All Saints or “All Hallow’s Eve” or “Halloween” supposed to be dressing as the saints to educate others about who we are in Christ? (You may not have known that. But we’re trying to restore that Holy Day.) But even that is done in Holiness, with a mission of reverence and respect for our faith. If that is the spirit of which you would be costuming, you’d be fine. Otherwise, you might think about the possibility that you may be blaspheming the Chair of Peter, which the One we call Lord established. God bless, Father Amaro

Someone said doesn't the entire notion of a wonderful Heaven collapse if hell exists, because how can someone be truly happy and at peace with God if one of their loved ones is in Hell?

If the desire of the human heart is focused on good, they will not be distracted in heaven by the loss of loved ones. Our relationships in heaven are no longer bound to earthly attachments in the same way. The overwhelming joy of being in the presence of God would completely remove all pain of loss, for loss was the person’s choice for rejecting God. We all have individual will, don’t we? Until the Second Coming of Christ, we all pray with the Saints for the conversion of all. We evangelize with our faith to bring others our joy in Christ. At the consummation of the world, that task will be completed and all sorrow will be removed and replaced with victorious rejoicing. All mourning would be non-existent. - God bless, Father Amaro

I have major difficulty in accepting the Roman Catholic Church's position on mortal sin. I would think that if one had lived to be eighty-five (example only), that person would be judged on his/her entire life and not on isolated incidents, which may NOT reflect the direction and purpose of one's life. Regarding this matter, how does time enter into the state of one's spiritual orientation?

I have read many different opinions of Roman Catholic clerics regarding mortal sin. Some state that it is almost impossible for one to commit a mortal sin (full compliance with grave matter, sufficient reflection, and full consent of the will simultaneously), while others state that there is a mortal sin "lurking behind every bush." I would like one more educated opinion on this subject. I have a strong background in moral theology. – Bill

I have trouble understanding how a car works. But that doesn’t mean it doesn’t work, shouldn’t work, or that its working should be limited to my understanding. That doesn’t mean that a car doesn’t exist or work. It doesn’t mean that its existence isn’t true.

Only the sinner knows his or her repentance of sin. We have all been taught by the Father, through His Son, the Word made flesh, and continue to perfect our knowledge in the Spirit, buy the protected office of the apostles and their successors... as Jesus established, where we are to go with our pilgrimage.

That is what time is all about. It is a gift for conversion. Still waters get stagnant. Thus it goes with our baptism. Rivers do not flow backwards. They go forward. A river pushes everything out of its path toward its destination. It can be dammed up at any given time and ruin its course. It can become polluted. That is what unexposed sin does.

And remember, as Catholics, we’re not talking about a mere “position” on sin. If we are truly Catholic, we believe that what we are taught is not merely a“position,” but rather a “revelation” of the Holy Spirit to salvation. If we reduce these to mere “positions,” we are calling them “man made” and betray our Creed as one, holy, catholic, and “apostolic” church. We cannot reduce God to our own limited judgment of Him. He does not change. We do. It’s His opinion of us that counts. The difficulty is yours, not His. It might be time for you to learn and practice the surrender, through humility, to a higher spirituality of ascent of faith. Your salvation depends on it. You might ask yourself why your opinion holds weight more than over 2000 years of revelation in the Church that Jesus established, and the many theologians who studied and explained these revelations. God bless, Father Amaro

“I was married and had children. Is it too late to become
a priest?” - Adam

Father Amaro:

If you were married and had children but the marriage failed... if you felt a vocation was calling you, is it too late? – Adam

There are several seminaries in the country for people in the situation such as yours. However, you must have no legal obligations towards your children. In other words, the youngest must not be under 18 years of age. You also have to have a sponsoring bishop. In my day, I went to Holy Apostles Seminary in Cromwell, CT.. I had been married for ten years and had been through a divorce and annulment. I don't think that they are a "delayed vocations" seminary any longer. However, there is always Sacred Heart Seminary in Hales Corner (Wisconsin?) and Pope John XXIII seminary in Boston. I had to look all over for a sponsoring bishop. But if it is a real call, you'll persevere. Hope this helps. God bless, Fr. Amaro

FATHER CEDRIC PISEGNA, C.P.

“Is it wrong to avoid contact with a family member
on drugs?” - Amanda

Father Cedric::

A member of my family is addicted to drugs and the lifestyle that comes along with it. I have decided that I don't want him to be part of my life or our children’s lives for this reason. My question is how do I go about handling this? He has made it clear he will not stop, I am confused and I can't figure out what God wants me to do. – Amanda

I have learned that addictions to various substances are a “disease.” This disease affects other family members also. While you may not have the addiction, you are well aware of the emotional turmoil and inner “disease” that it causes. Control, manipulation and hurt feelings always ensue. You have a choice as a family member to deny or avoid bringing up the problem. This can lead to “enabling” their addiction. You have suggested a more “tough love” approach of avoiding the person altogether. You want to protect your children. You wonder if God will be upset with you. You are confused. I know you have your children’s best interest in mind. However, you must also think about the addicted person. What is the best strategy to help him face and cope with his disease? There are no easy answers. As long as you keep the windows of communication open to this person, I think you do well to keep your children away from him. However, don’t totally shut him out of your life. You may be the one whom God uses to help bring that person into recovery. I usually suggest a classic book regarding this subject. It is a help for family members who are dealing with someone who is addicted. The book is called “Codependent No More” by Melody Beattie. Also, my book: “A Retreat With Fr. Cedric”, will help anyone who is addicted to understand more about their addiction and it helps them to get to the root of their problems. This is a complicated issue. God will help you cope with the confusing thoughts and feelings. I invite you to pray the Serenity prayer: “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. The courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. – Father Cedric

Father Cedric:

I would like to know what happens to people who consciously reject God and are considered to be Catholic? If you have any sources I would appreciate it if you could tell me as well. Thank you in advance. – Mike

I’m not sure where this question comes from, Mike. Perhaps you know someone who claims to be Catholic but isn’t living the lifestyle? It is hard to believe someone would consider themselves to be Catholic and reject God. In any event, our late Holy Father John Paul II talked about “baptized pagans.” The church has baptized many who are not living the lifestyle of Christianity. Baptism alone doesn’t save. Many people are deluded and have deceived themselves in this way. They think because they “went through the sacraments” and were born in the church that they are Catholic and will be when they die. Rather, there must be baptism and faith. A true life of faith shows itself in deeds. A person is not Catholic simply because they were baptized and confirmed in our faith. They are Catholic because they practice, according to their conscience, our religion. If they reject God, by not going to church or sinning or speaking against truth, that person is in a grave position. The Scriptures are full of teachings about how a person must come to the light, give up their sins and surrender to God. Our words will justify or condemn us and reveal the state of our hearts. We all fall short, but there must be an effort of some sort. One must believe that God exists and that God loves them.

I cannot say that a person who rejects God will go to hell. There is always time for conversion and only God can judge that person’s history and motives. However, if a person continues to reject God there may come a time when they will be separated from God forever. It won’t matter whether they were baptized or not. – Father Cedric

Father Cedric:

Although Catholicism does not recognize homosexuality, I believe that Jesus loves me despite my lifestyle choice. In addition, as I believe Jesus is my Savior, I believe I will spend eternity in Heaven. Will Jesus save a great, loving person like myself? - Mike

There are many homosexuals who are confused, hurt and not sure about belonging to the Catholic Church. It is a huge problem with deep pain involved. I want to tell you that the Church does recognize that people are homosexuals. Church teaching says that the homosexual “orientation” is not in and of itself sinful. However, one’s choice to act out is. If you are a true believer you will try to love Jesus and do his will, not your own. It is not easy to follow Jesus. Many today try to make morality relative, but there are absolute truths.

As for being saved, we are saved by the grace of the Lord Jesus, not because we are great or even loving people. Be careful of relying on your own goodness or good works. Jesus may save you, but it won’t be because you are a wonderful person, as you say. Rather you will be saved because you come to him in humble surrender and hope in his mercy. Yes, you can be saved. No one is beyond the pale of redemption and grace. May God touch you, illuminate your heart and help you as you seek him just as you are. I hope you can cope with the pain of being homosexual. The Church accepts you and so does Jesus. - Father Cedric

CATHOLICVIEW STAFF

"I promised God to give up something but did not
do this. Will God punish me?" - Patricia

CatholicView Staff::

I am a Greek Orthodox(not Catholic).What should someone do in order to become Catholic?I know that there is no matter of rebaptising.So if and when I decide to become a catholic the only thing I have to do is to receive the Hostia during the mass?Please enlighten me...Thank you in advance and sorry for my English. - Antonis

Antonis:

As an Orthodox Christian, you are our brother in Christ! I am so happy to pray with you and celebrate Christ as our Light! We both share the apostolic traditions of our faith! If you wish to be in communion with the Church of Rome (the Catholic Church), you are correct in saying that you do not have to be baptized again. But there is a process of being accepted into full communion in the Catholic Church. The process is called the Rites of Christian Initiation for Adults (RCIA). When you decide to be part of the Catholic Church, please make an appointment with your parish priest so that you can begin the process of being accepted into the Catholic Church. You will be making a profession of faith and you will learn what it means to be a Catholic through the Rites of Christian Initiation for Adults. May the Spirit of God guide you in your decision! – CatholicView Staff

”Is it possible to get a CD or DVD of Pope Benedict’s Mass
at the National Stadium in DC?” - Frances

CatholicView Staff:

I have just the honor to witness Pope 'Benedicts mass at Nationals Stadium in DC. It was the most beautiful thing I have ever seen. Is there any way I can get a recorded copy of the mass either CD or DVD. Is it possible for purchase? – Frances

Dear Frances:

I am so excited for you! The memory of being present at the Mass presided by the pope is something you and many others will cherish for the rest of your lives. As I write this, I am sure that the Archdioceses of New York and Washington D.C. will be offering the video recording of the pope’s visit to the United States. At this time, I do not know where exactly you can purchase it. But it will be available soon. Keep your eyes and ears open. – CatholicView Staff

”Is there a modern cult of St. George?” - Chuck

Is there a modern cult of St. George? If so, how does one become involved? -Chuck

I do not know of any religious organization that can be considered a “modern cult of Saint George.” For our readers, Saint George was a fourth century martyr and patron saint of many countries around the world. As an illustration of past “cults” (religious organizations) dedicated to Saint George, please check (copy and paste) this Internet link. http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/13350a.htm - CatholicView Staff

“I have a sexual addiction that my fiancée does not know
about. What should I do? – David

CatholicView Staff:

I know I am not a Catholic, but I have always felt a connection with the Catholic religion. I am having some inner turmoil that is steadily breaking me down. It has to do with sexuality, monogamy, and adultery. I am in a committed relationship of eight years with my fiancé. (We will be married this year) only feel as if I have been living a lie. I love her very much and want to be happy with her. I want to live a normal life, raise a family, all that jazz. Here is the catch; I have been longing to have sex with other women, other couples, and other men. I have acted out on some of my desires in the past and am close to doing so again. It’s tearing me apart. This is the first I’ve spoke of it. I truly wish I didn’t have these feelings, thoughts or desires to commit these sins. I want to be a good person and walk a straight line. Only, when I did act out I enjoyed myself. And I can not seem to push the thoughts of, or longing feeling of acting out of lust again. My heart and soul knows its wrong yet another part of me tells me it’s right like it’s just who I am. Worst of all I have carried on this lie for eight years with my soon to be wife. If she ever found out it would devastate her. Everything we have worked for would be over for it takes both of us to manage out life style. Our house, cars, dogs, all our toys and luxuries would be gone in a flash. And I would loose the love of a wonderful woman. I am so very tired of being torn in these two directions. If I walk a straight line these desires just build up in me until I explode or implode, if I don’t and act out on my desires. I feel horrible and constantly have this heavy weight on my mind, heart and soul. I don’t know how to fix these feelings in me. Any advice would be very appreciative. Thank You. - David

Sexual addiction is devastating to the person who must overcome such temptations. The mind plays tricks on the sexually addicted and denial of such addiction makes a person act in ways that are destructive to themselves and those who love them. To overcome sexual addiction as you describe, you need to attack it from two fronts: psychological and spiritual. First, every day, you must start your day in prayer, asking Jesus Christ to come into your heart and affirm his Lordship over you. Every day is an opportunity to progress in victory over addiction. Second, you must find a psychological counselor or a psychiatrist (a medical doctor) who will be able to guide you and help you understand the triggers of this particular addiction. Every addiction can be overcome with Jesus by your side and with a human professional guiding you through the paths of healing. You are in our prayers! You will be healed! Praise God! You mention that you felt that you are torn in two directions. Now is the time to make a decision to follow one path only. I know that you will chose the path of healing freedom from sexual sin, and the path of a committed life to family and stability. Stop looking at two paths. Look at only one. Ask the Lord to be with you, find a spiritual guide such as a priest or religious so that you can progress in prayer and in your relationship with Jesus as Lord and Savior, and get professional help from a psychologist or psychiatrist. The Spirit of God will descend upon you and free you from the chains of sexual sin. – CatholicView Staff

”I want an annulment from my ex-wife. Is this possible if
I marry again outside the church?” - Stephen

CatholicView:

My ex wife was unfaithful and left me. I do not have the option of reconciliation. I have since met someone else and will be getting married outside the church. I was close to converting to Protestantism, but I really can’t do it just to feel good about remarrying. Although I don’t feel welcomed as a Catholic, I would like to get an annulment but don’t know if it is possible for the reasons I stated above. Thank You - Stephen

I do not know all the details of your marriage or why your wife was unfaithful to your marriage. I am sorry to hear of your pain. But, thank God, you found your soul partner and love. You are beginning to heal and live your life to the full! The process of annulment of your sacramental marriage will take time so your patience will be tested, but you can begin the process of annulling your sacramental marriage now. Please talk to your parish priest or someone who has the responsibility of annulments in your parish. God is with you and has always taken care of you. He has given you someone who loves you and cares for you. And in time, you will be able to celebrate the sacrament of marriage with this person within the Church. – CatholicView Staff

“I am getting married in the church. What questions will
the priest ask when he meets with us?” - Neddy

CatholicView Staff:

I am getting married in a Catholic Church. The priest will meet with us in a few days - this will be one of four meetings. I need to know what will the father ask so that I can be prepared. Thank you, so much for your advice. May God always bless you and guide you in his path.

Congratulations on your upcoming marriage! May the Lord bless you and guide you as you build your future and destiny together! The preparation for your marriage is a special opportunity to see your marital love in the light of faith. In your meetings, you will be asked to look at your faith and how it affects your marriage, finances, relationships with your family members (those in-laws), and the raising of your children in the faith. There will be discussions of these topics but do not be nervous. This is a way to help you appreciate the vocation to marriage. You will be symbolizing the marriage of Christ and His Church! You are blessed indeed! Before you meet with your priest, please read Ephesians Chapter 5, Verses 21-33 (and also see Revelation 21:9-10). That is what marriage in the Church is all about! Congratulations! - CatholicView Staff

CatholicView Staff:

Minorities, racism & mortal sin. I try to stay in the state of sanctifying grace but my feelings toward minorities(Immigration),
some African Americans, Obama/Wright and yes Chris Mathews, have me worrying about the lack of Christian charity that I feel towards them. I could write 4 or 5 pages about my feelings but what I've written explains my feelings. I never had these feeling or problems during 32 years of military service. ??? –Tom

We all have different opinions on various topics! That makes the world go around! There is a difference between loving discussion on various topics and a hateful diatribe against those who are different from you. Everyone is different and their relationship with God is different. But we are all God’s children! We all have the same amount of DNA that was created within us by our Father in heaven. And no matter who that person is, we must always show respect and be open to them as Christ was open to all….and open to you. And at the end of time, we will all be together in heaven (read Revelation 7:9-11). So, treat everyone as you wish to be treated! For everyone you see now will probably be with you in heaven forever, even Chris Matthews! So, be open to all for the person you put down now will be your partner forever before the presence of God! Forever, mind you! - CatholicView Staff

”Do we get one last chance at salvation, by repenting
and accepting Jesus, in the hour of our death?” Devlin

CatholicView Staff:

What do you think of Sr. Faustina and her saying that each and everyone of us, regardless of the sin, gets one last chance at salvation, by repenting our sins and accepting Jesus, in the hour of our death? Devlin

Sister Faustina, from Poland, and a 20^th century mystic who had visions of Jesus and His Divine Mercy, spoke often on the subject of the mercy and love of God. The Church has always taught that if a person repents (truly repents, meaning a change of life and motive) and accepts Jesus as Lord and Savior, salvation is theirs. Even if that repentance should come at the end of their lives. But I am not waiting to die before I repent. I want Jesus now in my life. I want to live by His commandments now. I will not wait. To wait would be a wasted life and wasted opportunities to build the kingdom of God on earth. Since I do not know the time and date of my death, I want to be ready to stand before my Lord. Since I have never been at death’s door yet, I cannot speak to your comment that we might get one last chance to repent at the hour of our death. All I know, now is the time and now is the hour to repent and accept Jesus as Lord in my life and live my life as He would. - CatholicView Staff

CatholicView Staff:

Can you please explain in very clear terms The Church's view on Tarot Cards.? -Amy

Dear Amy:

Many people, especially in situations that are uncomfortable or painful would like to know what lies ahead for them. What they may sometimes fail to see is that the use of tarot cards, fortunetellers, witchcraft, Ouija boards, palm readers, etc. are tools of evil. As Catholic Christians, it is considered sinful to try to foresee the future or to try to control our future by using sorcery, witchcraft, black magic because it violates the first commandment “"I am the Lord thy God. Thou shalt not have any gods before me". Any such activities that is practiced is wrong and God forbids it.

The bible tells us in Leviticus 20:27 "A man or a woman who acts as a medium or fortune-teller shall be put to death by stoning: they have no one but themselves to blame for their death".

Read Deuteronomy 18:47: “The nations you are about to displace consult sorcerers and fortune-tellers, but the Lord your God forbids you to do such things.” Then again, In Jeremiah 27:9, “Do not listen to your false prophets, fortune-tellers, interpreters of dreams, mediums, and sorcerers…” In Acts 13: 8, Paul rebukes Simon Magus, a magician, who wanted to buy the powers of the Holy Spirit to make himself more powerful.

We must avoid the things that are forbidden to us as Christian Catholics. Let the Lord, your God take care of such things as your future for only He knows what lies ahead. We must depend on the Lord. To use Tarot Cards or any other means or sources such as fortunetelling is wrong. To indulge in such practices would be to associate yourself with witchcraft and the occult. This is an abomination to God and I would advise you to keep away from such evil practices.

I am including a link to a page written by Father William Saunders “The History of Tarot Cards”. I encourage you to read this very informative page. http://catholiceducation.org/articles/apologetics/ap0109.html . God bless you and help you in your search for truth. – CatholicView Staff

CatholicView Staff:

Is there a preferred edition of the bible for Catholics? - Rick

The preferred bible used to be the Douay-Rheims version for Catholics, but the modern Bible translation regarded most accurate by most reliable scholars is the Revised Standard Version - Catholic Edition (1966). For more information you may want to visit this site: http://www.adoremus.org/0705ChoosingBible.html - CatholicView Staff

”My fiancée and I plan to marry civilly and later on in
Church. Can we still receive communion before then?”
- Charles

CatholicView Staff:

I am going to marry my fiancée in a Civil Ceremony first to meet her Visa requirement (K-1 Fiancee Visa) and later in the year have a formal Church wedding. My question is, can we still receive Holy Communion prior to our Church Wedding or do we have to wait?

If you are living together under one roof, and are having physical intimacy, then you cannot receive communion until you are married in the Church. My question to you is: why not marry in the Church now? – CatholicView Staff

CatholicView Staff:

Why is the Catholic church is called the Holy Roman Church when it was the Romans who persecuted Jesus...please don’t say because of forgiveness.- TTL

The Church’s official title is “one, holy, catholic, apostolic Church” as described in the Creed. The Catholic Church has two subdivisions (shall we say): the Western Church and the Eastern Church. The Church is united under the pastorship of the Bishop of Rome, the Pope, who at this time is named Benedict XVI. The Bishop of Rome is considered the successor of Saint Peter, the first head of the apostles and the Church. The title, Roman, is an adjective to describe the Catholic Church as united under the Bishop of Rome, the successor of Saint Peter. It has nothing to do with the Romans of Jesus’ time or anything from the Roman Empire of the Caesars. Since the Catholic Church is based in Rome, the adjective Roman is appropriate but the official title is One, Holy, Catholic and Apostolic Church. – CatholicView Staff

“My husband wants his sister to be a godparent for our
child. She had a child out of wedlock, should I choose her? - TK

CatholicView Staff:

We have yet to pick the godparents for our second son. My husband would like his sister, but I am hesitant because she was pregnant before she was married and she openly contradicts many Catholic teachings. Should I keep family harmony by naming her godparent (she's the obvious choice to many) or go with my heart and choose a "better" moral role model for my son? Would she be a better example to him that God forgives sin, and am I only hesitant to choose her because I "know" about her sin...I mean we're all sinners, right? - TK

Congratulations on the birth of your precious son. You are correct in saying that all are sinners. The difference is as Christians we try to serve the Lord and “do the right thing”. God asks us to forgive and not to judge others because that is for Him to take care of in His own time.

A godparent is not just for the christening, nor even just until confirmation; he or she will hopefully play a significant part in your child's life for decades to come. You will want to choose someone who will be a good spiritual and moral influence. So think very carefully about whom you choose.

The main role of the godparent is the guardianship for the child should the parents neglect to do their duty or die. Owing to the spiritual relationship which is created, the Church makes definite requirements by law for this honorable office. I would suggest that you talk to your parish priest. Ideally, a godparent should be able to guide the child in your faith if you are unable to do this. Here is a link to some information that you might find helpful. http://www.sacredheartparish.org/flyers/godparents.htm
May God bless you always. – CatholicView Staff

Dear CatholicView:

I am a single man (I have been the entire time single) who has lived maybe a half of my natural life searching for my girl/woman/wife. During that time I have learned that there are no attractive single real Catholic women within my reach. All of those attractive, clean, good Christian females are all taken. Moreover, I have also learned that there are other attractive women but some of them are evil, unclean, malicious, and nasty ... no wonder why female first disobeyed God in the Garden of Eden. Many times I find attractive women but they even do not go to Church and I doubt that they accept Catholic Church teachings. Throughout the lifetime men compete for women they want. Sometimes, that competition is merciless, "bloody", and even worse... I have realized that all I do in my life is struggle for survival, finding, and competing for that only woman. The stronger, more intelligent, more attractive, more successful man wins in this lifetime. Jesus did not have to compete for a wife because He did not need one. Similarly a man who becomes a priest decides not to marry. It seems that a simple man has to struggle, has to compete, and has to fight in order to get the wife he wants, for survival of his future offspring, for a simple happiness in his life. Otherwise, human race would not survive.
I would like to know if the Bible gives any advise of how to find attractive, good Christian wife. - Bogumil

I am sorry to hear of your frustration in finding a spouse that shares your faith and your dreams for the future. I know it is hard to find that soul partner. But as Scriptures states so clearly, God judges not by appearances but by the heart (I Samuel 16:7 and Galatians 2:6). You are being challenged by your circumstances to stop looking at appearances and to look beyond the exterior and see the interior. If you are only looking for beauty and sexual attractiveness (though those are what attracts people to their intended spouse), you will be disappointed as appearances alone cannot satisfy the human heart’s need for love. Instead of seeing the negative around you, change your thought process to see the positive and be more grateful. Every morning, say a prayer of thanksgiving. At night, when you are going to bed, thank God for all the good things that happened. When you get into the practice of thankfulness, your appearance and attitude will change and you will become attractive to others, especially to the woman that will be a destined part of your life. At the same time, being single is also a vocation within the Church. The Lord may be calling you to live solely for Him! That doesn’t necessarily mean ordained ministry or religious life, though that is something you should think about. Being single for the Lord is a special calling (see Matthew 19:9-12) and is fulfilling and exciting as you live your life for God and others. May the Lord guide you and fulfill your life. – CatholicView Staff

“We want to get a civil marriage, and get it validated when
our annulments finalize. Your thoughts?” - Dave

CatholicView Staff:

Here is my question: I am catholic and have been divorced (civil) for 2 plus years. I have dated a girl for 2 years now and she is divorced (civil) for 8 years. She has two children and I have none. I actually teach at a Catholic school. I want to marry her and get engaged. We are waiting for the annulment process to finalize but it is dragging. We are both approaching 40 years old and our biological clocks are ticking (in regards to me having a child). We don’t even know if the annulments are going to be granted. In addition, some opinions say that we should not even be dating since we are still married in the eyes of the Church. We would like to get a civil marriage and get it validated as soon as the annulment process finalizes (if it finalizes). Your thoughts. Thank you, Dave

I wish you would wait until the annulment process is complete. But you know your situation better than I. Your civil marriage can always be convalidated (blessed) in the Church. But doing so would temporarily separate you from the sacraments. My thought is: please wait. If the Lord wants you to have a child from this marriage, it will happen. You may want to request what is happening with your annulment through your local priest or from the marriage tribunal itself. - CatholicView Staff

CatholicView Staff:

Why do you suppose that in the Gospel of John that there is nothing describing the Last supper, especially the bread and wine discourse? This is crucial to our Catholic beliefs about the Eucharist.
Thank you, John

The Gospel of John seems not to give the details of the Last Supper other than Jesus’ last words to his apostles. That is probably because John was presuming that everyone who was reading His gospel already knew the events of the Last Supper (already, three gospels described the events so wonderfully). John clearly teaches about the Holy Eucharist in John Chapter 6, Verses 22-59. There is no doubt in John’s mind that Holy Communion is the real body and blood of Christ. John felt that he needed to emphasize the last discourse of Jesus before his crucifixion. John wanted to make clear that Jesus wanted His Church and His followers to be one and John wanted to show that Jesus was clearly teaching his apostles that He was the Son of God and divine as well as human. – CatholicView Staff

”Does an ecclesiastical court or tribunal hear criminal
cases (such as fraud or embezzlement)?” - Jack

CatholicView Staff:

Does an ecclesiastical court or tribunal hear criminal cases (such as fraud or embezzlement)? - Jack

The ecclesiastical court and tribunal hears all cases as they affect the ministry of the Church. Such trials are based on canon (church) law and directed by canon law not civil law. The Church recognizes the right of every Catholic believer to due process (the right to be heard and the right to fair judgment). If a member of the clergy and/or religious congregation/order is being accused of fraud and embezzlement, the local bishop, after notifying the local civil authorities, may call the tribunal together to adjudicate the charges against a clergyman or member of a religious congregation or order. As an example, the ecclesiastical tribunals all over the United States are hearing cases of priests involved in the sexual abuse crisis of 2002. The decisions of such courts will affect the lives and status in the church of those accused. If there are criminal cases to be adjudicated by an ecclesiastical court, there is an understanding that such cases are first reported to the local civil authorities before an ecclesiastical trial can be started. Lay people can also use the ecclesiastical tribunal process for the protection of their canonical rights within the Church. Decisions by a church court (sentence) can range from the correcting of some injustice within the Church, financial compensation (similar to a civil suit in a civil court), to some kind of public penance imposed on the accused, to excommunication from the Church. Usually, in the United States, ecclesiastical courts are used to adjudicate the validity of sacramental marriage – CatholicView Staff

”My sister is not married, her boyfriend is divorced
and not Catholic. Can their baby be baptized?” -Scarlet

CatholicView Staff:

Can my un-married Catholic sister and her divorced, non-catholic boyfriend baptize their baby in a Catholic Church? -Scarlet

It seems your sister, in spite of her own actions, wants her child to be reared in the church. Please ask her to talk honestly to her parish priest about this. I believe it can be arranged for the child to be baptized, as the baby is innocent of the things the parents are facing. Have your sister contact her parish priest to start things moving. CatholicView Staff

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I have been dating this girl for three years and plan on asking her to marry me anytime now and I was wondering which hand the engagement ring goes on in the Catholic Church. I've heard the right then the wedding band on the left and then that both rings go on the left hand. - Nick

The traditional "ring finger" for the wearing of an engagement ring (any marital or relationship commitment such as engagement) is the fourth finger on the left hand. – CatholicView Staff

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I am an advocate for Spanish speaking victims of domestic violence. One of my clients wants to get an annulment, but they told us it costs $450. How can she have this fee waived? I've heard the fee is different depending on where you get an annulment. - Natalie

Every diocese has it own different policies considering the waiving of the donation required for an annulment process. In my own diocese, a letter from the pastor of the parish is sufficient enough to explain why the person cannot give the expected donation for the annulment process. Nonetheless, some kind of donation might be asked of the person. Just as an explanation, the annulment process is a canonical legal process involving the church tribunal and its lawyers (similar to a civil court). The person asking for an annulment is represented by a canon lawyer who is an expert on the question of the validity of the sacramental bond of marriage. The Church is represented by a canon lawyer who is trying to prove that the sacramental marriage is valid and should not be dissolved. The case is heard by three judges (a tribunal) who after looking at all the evidence and trying to determine motive and reason for the breakup of the marriage render a decision in favor or against the sacramental validity of the marriage. This demands that the canonical lawyers are compensated for their time and the judges are also compensated. There is also the compensation of the tribunal (ecclesiastical court) staff that must get the necessary documentation to the judges and involved canonical lawyers. So there is a cost factor here that must be considered as well. As I said at the beginning of this response, a letter from the pastor is usually enough to waiver the expected donation for the services of the marriage tribunal. CatholicView Staff

CatholicView Staff:

How can I tell if my depression is my cross to bear, my thorn in my side, or if I should continue to seek relief from medications that haven't helped for over 18 years? - Tom

I am so sorry to hear that you are suffering with depression. I am assuming that you have consulted with a qualified doctor if you are getting medication. You do not give particulars why you feel depressed. Is there a specific reason for this?

Please consider talking to someone who is qualified to discuss this issue with you and offer suggestions. It is not wrong to follow your doctor’s order as long as you faithfully adhere to his precise directions.

Most importantly, I would suggest strongly that you visit with your parish priest and talk frankly with him. Ask him to pray with you. He will offer suggestions on how to get the help you need to get you out of your state of depression. You are not alone for the Lord is always with you, Tom. He wants you to enjoy this life with hope and courage. God wants you to move forward knowing you have His Holy Spirit comforting you through the hard times of your life. You will be in my prayers. – CatholicView Staff

”I have not been to Church for many years. Can you tell
me what to expect?” - Phillip

CatholicView Staff:

I was raised a Catholic and attended Catholic school until I was 16. However, at some point during my last few years at school my faith seemed to evaporate. I stopped going to mass, I don't think I ever truly stopped believing in God, but I resented the organized nature of things. I suppose it is in a teenager’s nature to rebel against anything and everything. Now I am 21, and have almost completed University, and I am pleased to report that over the last year or so I have re-developed a Healthy relationship with God, and I pray regularly at home. However, I have not been to Church for many years. I am worried about going back to Church, I am worried about no knowing anyone, I am worried about not knowing when to sit kneel or stand, I want to go to confession, but Its been so long I think I’ve forgotten what the procedure is. I feel quite isolated. What Advice can you give?

Congratulations on your re-development of a relationship with God. I am so happy for you. This is a beginning of many good things to come.

Please do not be afraid to return to Church. There you will find the peace that you are searching for and the joy of being in the presence of God. I would suggest that you go to confession first and talk to the priest who will help you make the transition back “home”. It is a simple thing to do, so do not be afraid. Call your parish and find out when confessions are held, then go and tell the priest your story and let him guide you back. Or you might decide to call and make an appointment with a priest and talk to him so he will be able to give you information to read on what to expect at mass. You may also visit the following sites: “How to Behave at a Catholic Mass” at http://www.ehow.com/how_2063574_behave-catholic-mass.html - or “WHAT EVERY CATHOLIC NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE MASS”
at http://www.rpinet.com/products/wecm.html

Welcome back. May the Lord give you the courage to find the joy you are seeking. – CatholicView Staff

”Should I include something in a sale that a
customer does not ask for?” - Diane

CatholicView Staff:

I work as a salesperson for a company that sells an important product that everyone needs. We are told to bundle in an additional item to the package we sell. This item isn't mandatory or included for free. If sold separately, it would be worth about $20 per month. The way they see it is that we are doing the customer a favor because it's a good product, it will be used, and even with the product included, our prices are still less than everyone else. I have gotten some flack because I won't do this. I would rather sell the item separately and explain to the customer that this is an add-on benefit. If I lose the sale, at least I lose it honestly. Who is right?

I do not understand what you are exactly offering for sale. Full disclosure is always the ethical business decision to do. I really dislike any business trying to include something that I did not order and try to charge me for it. I would immediately stop doing business with that company and make sure that my credit card provider stop all payments to the company that dares to charge me for something I did not order. By not fulfilling your company’s bosses order to add something that is unethical, you may lose your job. If so, find a company that deals with its customers ethically. – CatholicView Staff

“Does a person get three wishes each time they visit
a new Catholic Church?” - Anita

CatholicView Staff:

Is it true that every time you visit a new catholic church that you've never been to before, you are allowed or given three wishes/special prayers? - Anita

I have never heard this before. You are always allowed to present your prayers and wishes to God. He will answer you in accord to His will and plan for you and others around you. – CatholicView Staff

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My boss just hired a new coworker that I am pretty sure is satanic. How should I handle this? Should I be afraid? - Justin

Why be afraid? You do not know if this person is practicing Satanism. Nonetheless, you are protected by the Lord all the time. You have the assurance of God’s protection through the blood of Christ. There is nothing that anyone can do to harm you in your relationship with God. – CatholicView Staff

”I am always being rejected by my wife. How can I
deal with this?” Christopher

CatholicView Staff :

I've read in catechisms that a spouse must render the marriage debt whenever it is reasonably asked for. Well, I am upset and frustrated because I am always being rejected by my wife. How can I deal with this? – Christopher

Always respect your wife’s limits. If she desires not to have sexual relations with you, then that is her right. You cannot force yourself on your wife. To do so would be considered a sin of sexual violation. If after talking with your wife about your concerns with no satisfactory results for you, you may have to consider marriage counseling. - CatholicView Staff

”I get angry when I play a game “Call of Duty” and lose.
Is playing this game a sin?” John

CatholicView Staff:

I play "Call of Duty" which is a war game - on line against -real players. This often leads to anger when I get killed by another player. Is playing this game a sin? - John

You are frustrated by losing a game. Please, understand that you are playing a game. Only a game. Keep perspective on what life is really about. There is no sin in playing this particular video game but it does become sinful when a person becomes so obsessed in playing a video game that he/she is not fulfilling real life responsibilities. – CatholicView Staff

”I am not Catholic but my girlfriend is. Do I need to get
my previous marriage annulled to be Catholic?” - Brien

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I was divorced 1989. I am Church of England. If I converted to Catholicism, do I have to have my previous marriage annulled before I can marry in the Catholic Church? My girlfriend is a practicing Catholic and I attend with her. We wish to marry in the near future. - Brien

There is a process that you must go through if you wish to marry in the Catholic Church after your “conversion” to the Catholic Church. The process is called the “Petrine Privilege.” It is based on Saint Paul’s allowing a dissolution of marriage in favor of the faith of the believer (see I Corinthians 7:14-15). After receiving the Petrine Privilege, you may marry in the Catholic Church. – CatholicView Staff

”The rosary beads we used to lay on my dying dad
kept breaking. Is this a bad omen?” - Tom

CatholicView Staff:

The rosary beads my sister used to pray for my ailing dad have broken when laid upon him. they keep breaking in the same spot when we fix them. should we bury them with him or is this bad omen? - Tom

Probably there is a weak link in the rosary. There is no omen meant by that. You could bury the rosary with your father if you wish. – CatholicView Staff

My 16 year old cousin came to me yesterday saying that a guy who loves her went to the church to a priest to make a spell that she can't be married to anyone but him. Can really a priest do this? Isn't this anti-catholic? Is it real? - Simon

A priest cannot do any kind of mystical or witchcraft spell to make anyone do anything that the person does not want to do. The “guy” you speak of is a liar and should not be trusted. – CatholicView Staff

”Can a Catholic priest officiate the marriage of a couple
who are not Catholic?” - Dan

CatholicView:

Can a Catholic priest officiate the marriage of a couple who are not Catholic? - Dan

Civilly, yes, sacramentally no. The laws of the USA state that any (legally) ordained minister can preside over a marriage ceremony and it would be accepted as a civil marriage contract. But for a marriage to be considered sacramental in the Catholic Church, it must follow the canons concerning the sacrament of Holy Matrimony. – CatholicView Staff

”Is one required to visit a departed soul’s grave in order
to receive a plenary indulgence?” - Tom

CatholicView Staff:

I was told by a Catholic relative that before a plenary indulgence could be effective for a departed soul, the requestor was required to visit to the departed's grave? I have never seen this requirement anywhere! Thanks. - Tom

A plenary indulgence is gained for a deceased soul when the requirements for such an indulgence is completed. This usually includes the prayer, one Our Father, One Hail Mary, and One Glory Be to the Father… for the intentions of the Holy Father and confession and communion. There are no requirements that say that you must visit the departed’s grave to complete such an indulgence. If so, then someone who has died in the ocean or whose body was cremated by an accident could not receive a plenary indulgence. - CatholicView Staff

”What is the validity of the Chronovisor supposedly
invented by Father Ernetti of Italy?” - Ernest

CatholicView Staff:

What is your opinion on the validity of the Chronovisor supposedly invented by Father Ernetti of Italy? - Ernest

For those who do not know what a Chronovisor is, I have included in this answer the link that explains the history and claims of the Chronovisor. From what I understand, this Chronovisor is a fable and does not exist. There is no way that we can look back into time or look forward into the future with our present technology.

CatholicView Staff:

The study of UFO's is my favorite subject. Is it a sin to believe in this subject?- Ernest

There is no sin involved to research into such an unexplainable phenomenon. – CatholicView Staff

CatholicView Staff:

I have concerns that I may not be Catholic. Several years ago I attended an AFB catholic church and converted there. this was something I had wanted since I was a very young child. I attended Catholic Mass all my life off and on and was always drawn to the church. However, my family did not share my view and at 18, I was baptized Methodist. Still I struggled until "my conversion at long last years ago". My priest never required me to attend RCIA nor did he annoit me with oil although I did take communion with his blessing. I have done so ever since but now I hear people talking saying that unless you attend RCIA then you are not Catholic. This is crushing me to think that I may have been committing a horrible sin and that I am not Catholic.

You were baptized Catholic and therefore are a Catholic. Even though you were baptized again in the Methodist denomination, you are still a baptized Catholic. By going to confession and saying what happened in your spiritual life, you were reconciled to the Catholic Church and could receive communion again. There was no need for going through the Rites of Christian Initiation for Adults (RCIA). As for me, I would have done something more formal as a way to welcome you back to the Church by having you do a Profession of Faith in front of the church. But, you are definitely Catholic and you should be receiving communion! - CatholicView Staff

CatholicView Staff:

One of my friends have read the book the Necronomicon, and is having a lot of problems in his house and life, is this book as powerful, and as evil as people say? - Mike

The book is a work of fiction and has no mystical powers. I have included a link so that our readers can see for themselves what this book is all about. No book, no words, no action is stronger than Christ. We have His love and protection always. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Necronomicon - CatholicView Staff

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I invited my Priest over for coffee and I think he may have felt this was inappropriate or wrong as he has ignored it. Is it? Are Priests allowed friends? I'm happily married so thought nothing of it expect being friendly as normal? I feel a bit awful about it. – Ann

I am so sorry you feel badly. Priests are very busy people and I am sure he did not mean to ignore you. And too, because of all the scandals, priests are sometimes reluctant to have many friendships. Maybe you and your husband can invite him for dinner?

Do not worry. Try again. He may surprise you and accept. – CatholicView Staff

”Does the Pauline Privilege apply if the two people
had not been baptized and divorced?” - Benny

I have fallen for a divorced Catholic convert. She and her ex-husband were not baptized when they married or divorced. They both converted separately after divorce. I don't know the reason of their divorce. Does Pauline Privilege apply to her so that we can marry in church or is there a possibility that it would be ruled that she must reconcile with her ex husband or remain as she is? - Benny

Yes, this is a Pauline Privilege case. Please talk to your pastor about this process. The Pauline Privilege is outlined in I Corinthians 7:12-15. – CatholicView Staff

”I was married for 20 years civilly. Can I remarry my
husband in church and wear white?” - Angie

I've been married 20 yrs in a civil ceremony. My husband and I now would like to be married in the church. Can I wear white? - Angie

You can wear anything color you wish! There is no Catholic Church rule or canon on what color a bride should wear on the day of her marriage in the Church. God bless and may the Lord fill your life with much joy and love. - CatholicView Staff

”I had a ‘conditional' baptism. Are sins wiped out from
the start of the conditional one?” - Michael

If a person has a conditional baptism and unknowingly has already been baptized, are their sins wiped out from the start of the conditional one? Are sins from the original one forgiven too? - Michael

There is only one baptism. Any conditional baptism after that first baptism would not be considered sacramental. – CatholicView Staff

CatholicView Staff:

We are 10 weeks pregnant and the doctor couldn't find the heartbeat or see it on the ultrasound. They said I would probably miscarry and gave me 3 options: (1) try and let it happen naturally, (2) they could give me pills to move the miscarriage along or (3) a D&C. I need to know the Church's stance on this please.- Karima

I am sorry to hear of the complications of your pregnancy and the dashed hopes you had for your family. After 10 weeks, I am to understand that the unborn child would have a heartbeat and the little form of a human being could be seen in the ultrasound procedure. Your doctor has concluded that the unborn child is no longer viable. This is very sad news. In this situation, the Church would say to follow the advice of your doctor. Waiting for the body to naturally miscarry has its advantages as well as its dangers, especially the danger of infection if the unborn child is deceased. Medications and other procedures would certainly speed up the process but there may be a danger of injury that could prevent future pregnancies. Please talk to the doctor and ask the Lord to guide you in your decision to maintain your health and the future of your family. If the doctor is certain that the unborn child is not viable, then you must do all that is necessary to protect your own health for the sake of your family and your future mission that God has given you. - - CatholicView Staff

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I am not allowed to go to confession because I am married to a divorced man. My husband, who is Catholic, has agreed to try for an annulment. If the annulment is granted, what should I do first; get married in the Church or go to confession? It seems that I would have to get married first so the Church would recognize my marriage and then I would be allowed to go to confession because I am no longer living in sin. But if I get married first, then I am getting married with a soul full of mortal sins. I'm very confused. - Niki

You can go to confession at any time and there are no restrictions concerning participating in the Sacrament of Penance. The issue of absolution of sin is what concerns us here. Absolution of sin is granted when there is repentance of sin and the desire to change. That would be clear when you are ready to marry in the Church. You would go to confession first before having your present marriage convalidated (blessed) in the Church. – CatholicView Staff

”Can the Litany of the Saints, or some form of it,
be used at a Catholic wedding?” - Scott

CatholicView Staff:

Can the Litany of the Saints, or some form of it, be used at a Catholic wedding?

The Litany of the Saints has its proper liturgical place in the sacraments of baptism and confirmation, the sacrament of holy orders (ordination to deacon, priest, bishop), and the Holy Saturday Easter Vigil Mass. The Litany of the Saints is not usually done during a marriage Mass or ceremony. If you wish to have the Litany of the Saints sung or prayed at your marriage liturgy, please speak with the deacon or priest that is presiding at your marriage. I am sure that they can fit it in though it is not customary to the sacrament of marriage. – CatholicView Staff

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I really hate my job. I mean REALLY hate it. I feel very guilty about it too. I understand that to have any job is a blessing right now and I almost feel like I'm shunning God's will by disliking my job so much. After a day of work here I feel like my soul is damaged and many times all day long I feel like God isn't even near, I hate those feelings. Then the voice in my head tells me that I'm just weak and I need to deal with it. Problem is I can't deal with it. I feel my hatred for what I do is outside myself.

Any thoughts? Never been in the right place. Thanks. - James

I am not aware of what your occupation is or what you have in mind for yourself in the future. I am sorry to hear that you hate your job and it is not fulfilling or even making you feel like you have accomplished something worthwhile. I am sure people have told you to find another job and that would be my first advice to you. But maybe you cannot find another job and maybe you cannot leave this job because of financial concerns. The problem you describe doesn’t mean you are weak and you can’t deal with it. Your problem is that you have obsessively focused all your emotional and spiritual energy on the negative. The New Testament is filled with references on always being grateful and singing songs of praise and thanksgiving as a way to deal with extreme sadness and being overwhelmed by evil. So, why not obsess on thanksgiving and praise? When you are feeling overwhelmed, say, “Thank you, Jesus,” and “Praise you, Father.” Just keep saying these two little praises all day long. It will certainly lift your eyes to heaven instead of having your eyes downcast and looking at “hell.” Then, you may be ready for a career change. CatholicView Staff

”What is involved in getting an annulment/cost if I want
to marry a Catholic?” - Gwen

CatholicView Staff:

I was raised catholic but did not get confirmed. I married a non-catholic in a non-catholic ceremony. We are divorced now because I caught him cheating and he left. What is involved in getting an annulment/cost if I want to marry a Catholic? Thanks. - Gwen

There is no need for an annulment (because you are asking the Church to dissolve your previous marriage that ended in divorce) and the “cost” is minimal for a “lack of form” process (a Catholic who married outside the Church). All one has to do is prove that you are Catholic (baptism certificate) and two people who can say that you were never married in the Church. Then, you will be free to marry a Catholic in the Catholic Church. Please speak with your deacon or priest and mention “Lack of Form” petition and things will get you on track to receive the sacrament of matrimony in the Church. By the way, now that you are divorced from your civil marriage, you are free to participate fully in the sacramental life of the Church simply by going to confession, unless you are presently living with someone or civilly married to someone. – CatholicView Staff

”Is it the position of the Vatican that part of the bible’s
teaching is an old way of thinking?” - Steve

I have been told that some Catholics feel that part of the bible’s teaching is a old way of thinking and should not be followed. Is this the position of the Vatican? And if this is true which parts are not followed anymore? - Steve

I do not know what you mean that there are parts of the bible that are an “old way of thinking” and therefore can be ignored. Here is something to consider. Customs of their day that are in scripture are not considered teachings of Truth, such as women must have their heads covered at church. That is custom of that time and our Christian Faith and Truth is not dependent on that. But Truth is another thing. For example, if Jesus said that divorce and remarriage is akin to adultery, then we can’t change that or ignore that even though it seems that marriage today is not taken with the seriousness of the past. In the Old Testament, we read that we must only eat “pure” (kosher) foods. In the New Testament, believers can eat anything they want. Hence, the food laws of the Old Testament are abrogated in favor of the New Covenant in Christ. It can be difficult to separate custom and truth, but if you study the history of the bible, then you can more easily discern the truth of God’s word that is unchangeable. – CatholicView Staff

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I’m Muslim and want to know more about Christianity. My question is "what is the definition of the messenger in your religion? I mean what is the quality of any messenger to be chosen to lead the humanity? What is his duty? Can any messenger become sinful? - Redwana

I want to be clear about the main and only truth of Christianity: Jesus Christ is Lord and Savior. He is more than a messenger, He is divine and human, the second person of the Trinity (God). Christians do not consider Jesus to be simply a messenger or a prophet. Christians worship and praise Jesus, we accept Him into our hearts and lives as our Lord and Savior, and His death and resurrection have ensured our salvation in heaven (and later at the end of time). Jesus is without sin, never sinned, and was not born into sin like we are. So for us as Christians, your questions concerning the quality, duty, and purity of a messenger does not apply to Jesus Christ. Jesus is Lord. That is what separates Christians and Muslims. Christians see Jesus as Lord, the beginning and the end, the “Alpha and the Omega,” and Muslims see Jesus as another prophet and messenger of God in a line of prophets that end in the last prophet, Mohammed. – CatholicView Staff

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What is the Catholic church's stance regarding homosexuality? - Sandi

Sin is a SPECIFIC ACTION (individual sin), SERIES OF ACTIONS, or ACTIONS BY A GROUP OF PEOPLE (corporate sin) of human FREE will against God's plan and will for you and others around you. Sin is destructive of the human spirit and creates disharmony and pain in God's creation no matter how small or big the transgression is. Sinful actions demand healing through reconciliation, repentance, and forgiveness through Jesus Christ. A person's sexual orientation (identity) is morally neutral and not sinful. But here is a simple teaching to remember: the act of LOVING (as versus selfish, narcissistic, violent, hateful, violation of another...which is mortal sin) sexual intimacy (physical sexual expression) OUTSIDE the confines of the sacrament of marriage (defined as a life-long commitment between a man and a woman that symbolizes the marriage of Christ and his Church...see Ephesians 4:31-32 and Revelation 21:9-10) is sinful and against what the Church considers to be the will of God for humankind. In another words, sexual union for believers in Jesus Christ is ONLY for marriage.

(Here is a simple teaching to remember: sexual intimacy (any kind of physical sexual expression) outside of the confines of the sacrament of marriage is sinful and against what the Church considers the Will of God for humankind.) – CatholicView Staff

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I was just curious on why we take up a collection of money during the mass for so many things. Didn't Christ forbid the temples and the money exchangers from doing so. Why don't they just have parishioners send them the donations once a month? - Mary

The collection of money is usually taken during the part of the Mass called the Offertory. Jesus did throw out business people who were into changing local money coins into temple coins (money changers) and the selling of sacrificial animals and other things within the walls of the Temple in Jerusalem (see Matthew 21:12, Mark 11:15, John 2:15). These business functions turned the Temple into a kind of swap meet and destroyed the sacred nature of the Temple. There were also opportunities for fraud and greed and Jesus railed against that kind of business practice. But there was a valid and accepted collection for the work of the Temple that was encouraged by Jesus. This is described in Luke 21:2: “When Jesus looked up, He saw some wealthy people putting their offerings into the treasury and He noticed a poor widow putting in two small coins. Jesus said, ‘I tell you truly, this poor widow put in more than all the rest; for those others have all made offerings from their surplus wealth, but she, from her poverty, has offered her livelihood.” (also see Mark 12:42) Jesus was preaching against commercializing the Temple but He did encourage the offering of one’s money and talent to the service of the mission of the Temple and in our times, to the mission of the Church. The collection is taken at the Offertory of the Sunday Mass since that is the time when the whole Christian community gathers. And we give what we have as a token of our appreciation for God’s blessings, as a symbol of ourselves, and as support for our Church and its mission. The Offertory of the Mass is the most appropriate time for a collection since that is the time I give something of myself within the community of believers and that donation is offered to God with the bread and wine that will be consecrated into the Body and Blood of Jesus Christ. In a mysterious and awesome way, my gift of money and talent, symbolizing my very self, is transformed with the bread and wine into the Body and Blood of Christ for the healing and reconciliation of the world. Without that collection at the Offertory time, there would be no actual physical sign of my giving back to God what He has given to me. When you and I give something at that time during the Mass, I am transformed into the hands and feet of Him who desires us to be formed into His image and love on earth.

Now I should add a comment about those “second collections” or “special collections.” Such collections are usually taken after the initial Offertory collection for a specific need, such as the support of missionaries, projects for the poor, disaster relief, and even capital funding and building funds. This second collection was a favorite of Saint Paul and is described in his many letters. In Romans 15:26-28, Saint Paul writes that the churches of Macedonia and Achaia have decided to have a second collection for the Christian poor in Jerusalem. In I Corinthians 16:1-4, there is Saint Paul’s pastoral direction to take up the first collection on Sunday (the first day of the week) so that when he comes to visit there won’t be that first collection taking place when Saint Paul wants to have a second collection for the poor in Jerusalem. Saint Paul devotes two chapters in 2 Corinthians, Chapters 8 and 9, on why there is a collection for the needy in Jerusalem. Saint Paul also mentions in Galatians 2:10 that he will always have a specific second collection for the needs of the poor. But it seems that Saint Paul had a special affection for the Christian poor, usually widows, in Jerusalem and he always had a second collection for them. It seems that church collections are here to stay and have their foundations in Scripture. – CatholicView Staff

”Did the mother of Christ ever converse with, or embrace
her son, Our Lord, after the resurrection ?” - Gary

CatholicView Staff:

I know that after the resurrection, our blessed Mother was present with the disciples in the upper room when they received The Holy Spirit. My question is : did our blessed mother ever converse with, or embrace her son, Our Lord, after the resurrection ? Thank you Father, I will pray for you. - Gary

Even though the New Testament doesn’t clearly state what the mother of Jesus did after the resurrection with Jesus (other than being in the upper room), I can only presume that as His mother, Jesus made His physical appearance to her and embraced her as her child. – CatholicView Staff

No. All that is required of us on Good Friday is fasting and abstinence from meat. – CatholicView Staff

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When is Lent over? I've heard it ends on Holy Thursday, but I've also heard it ends on Easter. Basically, I given something up for Lent and I want to know when I can officially indulge. Thanks. - Cindi

The forty days of Lent ends on Wednesday midnight before Holy Thursday. The forty days of Lent are Ash Wednesday through “Spy Wednesday” (the day Judas betrayed Jesus for thirty pieces of silver.) Holy Thursday, Good Friday, and Holy Saturday are a set of sacred days called the Triduum (three days of special prayer and remembrance of what Jesus has done for our salvation). Lent is exactly forty days and Sundays during Lent are exempt (and therefore, Sundays are not counted as a day of Lent) from Lenten penance because Sunday is always considered a day of rejoicing in the resurrection of the Lord, hence no penance. Even though your Lenten spiritual penance ended on the day before Holy Thursday, Good Friday is a day of fasting (one full meal only and no snacks, health permitting) and abstinence (no meat, beef, pork, chicken, lamb). – CatholicView Staff

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