SEPTEMBER 2008
 

FATHER CEDRIC PISEGNA, C.P.
FATHER KEVIN BATES, SM
FATHER AMARO SAUMELL
CATHOLICVIEW STAFF
FATHER CEDRIC PISEGNA, C.P.

”Why did God show Himself only to some people?”
- Kelsey

Father Cedric:

In the Old Testament, is there any rhyme or reason as to whom the Lord shows himself to?   Also, he chooses certain people to show himself directly, but others he communicates indirectly, i.e. by means of an angel, etc.   Are there any speculations to why He chose those He did and why He approached them the way He did? - Kelsey

 

Kelsey:

God has his ways!  He sometimes reveals himself to a person for a reason.  The have a call to lead or help the people.  Moses was called to lead the people out of Egypt.  God revealed himself to Samuel because he was called to be a prophet.  God revealed himself to Mary (through an angel) because she was to bear the Son of God. Divine revelation, in whatever form it takes, usually comes because of a call.

In addition, God may reveal himself to a person at a conversion.  We are celebrating the Jubilee year of St. Paul the Apostle in our church now.  Paul was “knocked off his horse” by the radiance of Jesus Christ.  He had a major conversion and was called to preach.  There are other examples in the Bible, but you get my point.

God continues to reveal himself to some today.  As a priest I meet people who claim to have seen angels, have had physical healings, have had out of body experiences and who have testified to meeting the Risen Christ.  I myself had two near death experiences when I was 19 years old.  God revealed Himself to me and my life has never been the same.  I write about these experiences in my book “Death: The final surrender.”  God is true, glorious and full of love.

Yet, many who want a deep experience of the Lord have not had one. These people are churchgoers and very faithful.  Others are teetering on the verge of atheism and do not get their vision.  Why does God appear to some and not to others?  That is a deep mystery.  When God reveals himself to a person, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they are any holier or better than a person who doesn’t get the visitation. Rather sometimes (as in my case) a radical experience is needed because of a sinful lifestyle.  Why God appears to some and not to others is as mysterious as there are numbers of people on earth.  One day, though, this question will be answered and we will understand.

I know this…God won’t be tempted and made a fool of. He will not reveal himself to a person for their vainglory or to appease curiosity. A visitation of God is something deep, profound and to be reverenced.

I have discovered that the presence of the Holy Spirit in us is a visitation of God that we can all enjoy. Pray for a filling and release of the Spirit in you. Perhaps you will experience the light, glory and joy that God’s love brings.

One last truth I want to share is that Jesus said something to Thomas towards the end of the Gospel of John that applies to many. When Thomas saw the Risen Christ he was told, “Thomas, you believe because you have seen. Blessed are they who believe without seeing.”  - Father Cedric

 
 “Must we believe everything in the Bible exactly 
as written and as total and absolute?”  - Amparo

Father Cedric:

I have a friend who is an Evangelical Christian.  She says that the Bible is the absolute living word of the Living God, and that every word in the Bible must be believed totally and absolutely.  She says the since the Bible is the living word of the Living God, it is perfect and beyond error, and it is not open to interpretation.   What is the Catholic teaching about the Bible?   Is it the true living word of God, and must we believe everything in the Bible exactly as it is written as total and absolute? - Amparo

 Amparo,

Good question. Many are confused about this.  I thank God for the ways He has touched me through the Scriptures and for my Biblical education in the seminary.

First of all, I believe that while some say the Bible is not open to interpretation, as you said, everyone does interpret it.  To read the Scriptures (another name for the Bible) is to interpret.  One of the reasons we have a split in Christendom is because various people have interpreted the Scriptures in a wide variety of ways.  The types of denominations are too numerous to mention. Even the versions of the Bible are many.

First, our Catholic Church teaches that the “Word of God” is contained in Scriptures. The Word of God is God’s revelation of himself to us. He communicates and speaks to us through the Bible. However, the Bible is not the only place we find the Word of God (remember: his revelation of himself to us.) We can experience the Word of God in creation, people, music, poetry, sacraments, preaching and through other realities. God loves us so much that he wants to speak to us in a variety of ways!

Second, our Church proclaims that all that we need to know to be saved is contained in the Bible.  However, not all that is written in the Bible is “literally, historically true.”  There are a variety of literary forms, written by various authors over many years.  For example, a Proverb is a type of Wisdom literature.  Each proverb contains a truth.  Narrative is another form of Biblical form.  There are a plethora of stories in the Scriptures.  Was everything about Adam and Eve literally and historically true? Probably not.  Rather, this was a story that tells us that God created humans and at some point we sinned, fell from grace and needed a redeemer.  Did a whale swallow Jonah? I don’t think so, but the story tells the truth about the reluctant prophet and God’s mercy.  Did God create the Heavens and Earth in six literal days? Science would say No and I agree. However, the story teaches us profound truths about the love and power of God.  There are many other stories and forms in the Bible. Space doesn’t permit me to go through many, many more examples and styles that I could discuss.

Although a person should know some about the background, community and intent of the author, anyone can be inspired and have God speak to them through reading the Bible.  I was touched at age 19 by coming to the Bible.  I read, “Seek and you will find, Ask and you shall receive.  Knock and the door will be opened.”  (Mt. 7:7) Those words were literally true for me! God touched me and opened doors of grace through the Scriptures and still does!  Don’t be afraid of the Bible and don’t let others confuse you.  Come in faith.  Use your intelligence as well as feelings.  Let the Word of God soak you.  Its truths and power will touch your life.  Of that I am sure! –  Father Cedric
FATHER KEVIN BATES, SM

"How do I find out which saint's relics are in
my parish altar?" - David

Father Kevin: 

I want to find out which saint's relics are in the altar at our parish.  Our priest is not sure.  Is there some sort of register with this information?  Thank you. - David

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David:

This is an interesting question.  I wish I knew the answer.  You could check with your local diocesan office.  They may have a record for this. Cheers!  -  Father Kevin

 
“Why hasn't Senator Biden been condemned by the
Church for supporting abortion?”  - Penny

Father Kevin: 

Why hasn't Senator Biden been condemned by the Church for supporting abortion. Thank you. - Penny

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Hi Penny:

I am in Australia and am not privy to the ways in which the American Church works.  Your own Bishop would be the one to ask about this matter.  Sometimes the Church enters into conversation quietly with politicians who support things such as abortion, and try to persuade them privately, rather than condemn them publicly.  Condemnation of a person often only causes more division in the Body of Christ and is not particularly fruitful in bringing forward the values of the gospel.  The Church of course has clear teaching about abortion.  We are wrestling with this very thing in the State of Victoria here in Australia at the moment as the State Parliament is debating a bill to liberalize abortion laws in that State.   Melbourne's Archbishop is making a very strong public stand on the matter.  Every blessing to you.  – Father Kevin


”We are adopting a child with special needs.   How
should we handle the issue of sexuality? - Tisha

Dear Father Kevin:

Bless you and thank you so much for this resource. My husband and I are in the process of considering the adoption of a very precious girl with some special needs...specific to this question is the issue of her cognitive limitations (her IQ is currently considered to be around 77, which qualifies as mentally impaired). We are concerned with the issue of sexuality. As a family, we recognize the beauty of the Church's teaching on sexuality, marriage, chastity and contraception. Due to her cognitive limitations, however, it is realistic to assume that she is probably not going to be able to fully grasp the Church's teachings. Neither will she most likely be able to adequately care for any child which results from her difficulty negotiating appropriate relationships with others or, frankly, from being taken advantage of. (Unfortunately, this is a very real problem for girls with cognitive limitations). We are too old to realistically assume the responsibility of any children she may have. Is contraception okay in this situation? Is it not okay and we need to provide for her 24/7 supervision for the rest of her life? Do we need to just "let go and let God"? We are truly wrestling with this and want to do what is right in the eyes of God and also for this special person we will take into our family...thanks so much for your valuable advice. - Tisha

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Dear Tisha:

Thank you for your kind words and for your question.  You have a very special situation that you are embracing with great love and courage.  I think you have really answered your own question in the asking of it.  All I could do really is to encourage and pray for you as you look after this little girl as she grows.  The values underlying the Church's teaching on contraception include the notion that God asks us to be as life giving as possible.  That's all God asks.  God doesn't ask us to do the impossible or the unreasonable.  God also expects that we will do all we can to protect and nurture the life we already have and the life we have entrusted to us.   In your situation, common sense and good practical faith and great trust in God will see you through to the most generous response you can make.  If you want to speak or correspond with me more privately about this matter I'd be happy to respond further.  Every blessing to you both. – Father Kevin



FATHER AMARO SAUMELL

”My friend is going to Iraq soon and just got married. If
someone has to die, can I ask God to let it be me?” Adam

Father Amaro:

I have a friend that just got married to another friend of mine, and he's heading to Iraq next month. He has so much to live for that I have been praying to God to not only keep Pat safe, but also if someone has to die, to take me and leave Pat alone. Is this a sin? It's not that I'm suicidal, he just has so much to live for, and I've pretty much screwed up my life. -Adam

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Dear Adam,

Obviously, your friend has great courage and dignity to be part of the Armed Forces. He has given his full consent to this task with a free will. I can understand your concern because of the love of a friend.

But I’d like to address your prayers. If we are to pray, we must keep the whole covenant and not the parts that come to mind easily. Did you pray for those who perceive themselves to be enemies too? Did you pray for the innocent who are merely in the midst of the conflict trying to survive? God loves all of them too you know. He desires all of them to be in heaven with Him.

When Jesus died for us, it was to give us life and give it more abundantly through eternal life. He reversed history for those who would participate with the covenant. The reversal was this: The serpent tricked Eve, Eve brought the temptation to Adam from who she received her life, which ultimately brought imperfection and death. Then Jesus, the second and last Adam, as the Son of God and Son of man resisted temptation, was perfectly and willfully obedient to the Father, brought that perfection to the new Eve who had been prepared for Him and who gave Him earthy life through her complete obedience to the Father, and brought about redemption to the world. His sacrifice was not to “appease the gods” as in pagan sacrifice, but to get some work done. Those who participated with his accomplishment find salvation, which is eternal. It was not merely a “Take me instead...” God does NOT call people to death. God does not “take people.” Death is a result of human imperfection, whether it is natural, accidental, or inflicted.

If you really want to “give your life” for something, give the days of your life. Giving your life doesn’t always mean a physical death. People “give their lives” to vocations, causes, and protection of the innocent, even though they might live to be 90 years old.  You can dedicate yourself to making sure his wife is safe and that their bills are paid. You can do repairs around the house for her. You can volunteer for the U.S.O.. You can get a nursing degree and join the military. There are so many ways to “give your life.” Most of all, you can dedicate part of your days to prayer for an end to war so brave men like your friend don’t have to participate in such a way. Your friend is going to protect the innocent. 

If you are indeed this man's friend, you will respect his decision as one of integrity and dignity and be part of the solution rather than the problem.  You will draw no attention to yourself, but to him as he continues to participate in the protection of this great nation and of others.   If he's your friend and you are his, from your point of view it's all about him.   Hope this helps!  God bless, Father Amaro


”Why did Jesus have to die for our sins? - Steve

Father Amaro:

God is all-powerful and compassionate. He could have forgiven sins without Jesus having to die on the cross to do so. I am struggling to understand why it is that Jesus had to die for our sins. - Steve

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Dear Steve,

We are to love the Lord with all our heart, with all our soul and all our mind... and love our neighbor as yourself. Of course, none of this has it perfected yet. We certainly haven’t perfected the task of forgiving our neighbor either. Jesus’ task was to reveal the authority to forgive all things in the person of God and as a Son of Man. There was one sin that no human being had ever been able to forgive... his own murder. It’s no coincidence that as we see the appearance of bread and wine we proclaim flesh and blood. Finally, the sacrifices of Cain and Abel are reconciled through the accomplishment of Christ who even forgave his own murder. That was something Abel could not do. Now all sacrifice is acceptable through Christ. It is precisely because of God’s compassion that the Son made Himself vulnerable to human nature. Now the sin of Adam is reversed because all can be forgiven by God and man in the person of Jesus. In Jesus, we see not only the perfect love of God, but also the perfect love of humanity. Forgiveness is present in both for the asking.  God bless, Father Amaro


CATHOLICVIEW STAFF

”Why don’t priests and nuns follow God’s ruling to
be fruitful and multiply?” - Chris

CatholicView Staff:

If the commandment says to be fruitful and multiply, why don't priests and nuns have to comply? - Chris

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Dear Chris:

In Matthew 19:10, Jesus explains the call to celibacy and complete personal, emotional, and spiritual surrender to God:  “The disciples said to him,  ‘If that is how things are between husband and wife, it is advisable not to marry.’  But Jesus replied, ‘It is not everyone who can accept what I have said: but only those to whom it is granted.  There are those who do not marry because they are born that way from their mother’s womb; there are those that do not marry because they were made so by men, and there are those that do not marry who have made themselves that way for the sake of the kingdom of heaven.  Let anyone accept this who can.”  Also Saint Paul writes about celibacy as a way of Christian life (I Corinthians 7:8-9 and 25-40):  “There is something I want to add for the sake of widows and those who are not married:  it is a good thing for them to stay as they are, like me…an unmarried man can devote himself to the Lord’s affairs, all he need worry about is pleasing the Lord.”  You can read the New Testament citations in the complete form yourself.  The vows or promise of celibacy is FREELY taken and it is taken so that a person can totally focus on the affairs of the Lord and how to please the Lord.  The commandment to be fruitful and multiply is for those who are called by God Himself for married and family life for the sake of the kingdom of God.  There are those who are called to celibacy for the sake of the kingdom of God.  Everyone has his or her part to fulfill in God’s plan.  I willingly take upon myself the life of total commitment to Jesus Christ and His Church so that I can totally be free to serve Him without any outside worry or anxiety about worldly affairs.  Married life and celibate life are two ways to glorify God.  The choice of married life or celibate life depends on what you discern to be the plan of God for you.  – CatholicView Staff


”My sister-in-law is an atheist and spoils the holidays
for me.  What can I do?”  - Debbie

CatholicView Staff:

I dread the holidays. My sister-in-law is an atheist who celebrates Easter as spring renewal and Christmas as family gift giving time. The kids fight over attending mass. I feel like, "why am I even here"? She is married to my brother and if I don't go, I may lose him. What can I do?

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Dear Debbie:

I am sorry that the holidays bring you such pain because of your sister- in-law.  But this can still be a good time for those who believe, because it can be your time to shine.

Go to the gatherings with a smile on your face.  Show the happiness you feel that Jesus Christ, the Son of God, was born for not only your salvation but your sister-in-law as well.  The sad thing is, she does not realize that she is turning down the most valuable gift she will ever receive.   Let her extol the virtues of Spring Renewal.   But do not let her take away your joy in Jesus Christ.  Instead, quietly carry your truth in a smile, in a tender gesture, a supreme confidence that you have a Savior. 

Pray always for her that she will see the glow you carry and want to have the gift you have.  Pray that her heart and soul will someday be open to God’s love and mercy.   –CatholicView Staff


”My mom does not want me to vote for Barack Obama. 
Is this true?”  Patricia 

CatholicView Staff:

My mother said that I cannot vote for Barack Obama.   Is this true?

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Dear Patricia:

There is a similar question in this category.  CatholicView's answer is the same to you as it pertains to the same subject.  No political party in the United States of America totally supports the teachings of Christ and His Church.   Everyone, including Catholics, is entitled to their own political viewpoints and what they feel is best for the country as a whole. In any political decision such as voting for a candidate, we must see the whole big civil picture and judge what is best for the entire country.  There is no candidate that fits the ideal Catholic politician.  See the big picture and vote accordingly.  Meanwhile, receive the Body and Blood of Christ in Holy Communion from any minister or ordained clergyman that has been authorized by the Church.  The Eucharist is the most important gift from God the Father.  And that trumps anyone’s political viewpoint.  – CatholicView Staff

 
”Will I see my atheist relatives in heaven someday?”
- Pilvi

CatholicView Staff:

I am Catholic but my relatives aren't. I love them very much, and wish they'd one day be in heaven with me. Is that possible? Most of them have chosen to be atheists. I try my best to convert them by praying and being kind, but so far no result. - Pilvi:

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Pilvi:

Thank you for writing to us.  Please understand that you are doing all you can to bring your family to faith.  Unfortunately, if a person refuses to hear what you are trying to share with them, there is nothing you can do except place a seed of doubt about being atheists, and hope someday what you have planted in their minds will take fruition.  Keep praying for your family members.

None of us can read another’s heart, but God can.  And He is the Ultimate Judge Who will decide who is worthy to enter heaven.  All we can do is follow what Jesus Christ taught us and follow His teachings and leave others in our Father’s hands.  Keep praying for the family.  God hears every prayer.  – CatholicView Staff


”I have a eating disorder.  Is this the mortal sin
of gluttony?” - Patricia

CatholicView Staff:

I have had an eating disorder most of my life, with periods of dieting then back to over eating.   I hate doing this all the time.  Is this the mortal sin of gluttony? - Patricia

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Dear Patricia:

I am sorry to hear that you are having such problems with overeating.  Many times people suffer with this condition because of various life issues. 

St Paul tells us in 1Corinthians 6:19 that our bodies are the temples of the Holy Spirit, who lives in us and was given by God.  And so, Patricia, any action or thing that is excessive can be sinful if overdone.  You are NOT a bad person.  I think you need to perhaps talk to your doctor or a health care professional about this.  They are trained in these matters and will be able to pinpoint your behavioral situation. 

Know that God understands what you are going through.  He also wants you to live a happy life, and be in control of your life.  Please talk to someone and get on the road to overcoming your disorder.  CatholicView will pray that you seek the care you need and find peace in your life. – CatholicView Staff


My professor said Moses did not part the Red Sea
nor did God.  Can you help?”  Mark

CatholicView Staff:

I was recently told in a New Testament course that Moses did not part the Red Sea, nor for that matter did God. I was told that the Bible was mistranslated throughout the years and that the Hebrew word for the sea translates into Reed Sea, north of Egypt. I was then told that Moses walked across it with his followers and that it was a very muddy area. This mud made it difficult for anyone on horse and chariots to cross, sinking and covering them. He claims it was not a miracle, just geographic luck.

Most students who are Christian, not necessary Catholic, are straying from their faith and I am finding myself unprepared study-wise of the Bible to defend my faith and not look ignorant. Can you help? - Mark

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Dear Mark:

I believe that it is somewhat irresponsible for someone teaching biblical history and archeology to purposely (and with self-centered prideful glee) sabotage one's faith in the bible as the Word of God.  Yet, when the art of archeology and history tries to answer the how and why of the events of the bible, the truth of 21st century science clarifies how God uses His own creation and the world He made and designed to make happen the miracles as described in the bible.  The biblical stories such as the Exodus from Egypt of the Hebrew people (around 1100 BC) show how God intervened in human history through his own creation.  Does that mean that the account of the Exodus story was exaggerated somehow or even made into a myth by later generations?  And does it really matter to those who believe and have faith in God's Word?  Yes, the Hebrew translation for the body of water that the Hebrew people crossed is called the Reed Sea.   That place is where the Suez Canal now crosses.  Yet, from studies done from a scientific humanistic view, something happened there that was extraordinary and could not be explained.  The waters parted.  The Hebrew people escaped from their Egyptian enslavement.  They ended up in the desert.  They became a people.  They changed human history and radically changed human spirituality.  These are the facts.   Yet how that happened is open to debate in the historical and scientific community.   God could have used a volcanic eruption near Greece to stop the waters of the Reed Sea to stop flowing.  The volcano erupting and the tidal surge of that eruption happened at the same time as the Exodus.  Coincidence?  I don't think so.   God knew how to work with the laws of physics (which He set up for us) and used it to save His Chosen People.  Also, the fact that the accounts of the Exodus have survived intact to this day through oral and written traditions is in itself a proof that something extraordinary happened to the Hebrew people that wonderful day.  The biblical accounts of such events as the Exodus are true and factual.  How it happened, or what geographical events occurred to make it happen, I leave to archeology and science to figure out.  The how is not as important as the intervention by God in human history.  The question, “why,” is answered in the scripture:  God wanted to save the Hebrew People so that they could prepare the world for the coming of His Son as the Messiah and Savior.  So, continue to study the scientific and historical aspects of the bible.  It will help you understand the wonder of God's creation and the immensity of God's intervention in human affairs.  The historical events of the bible actually happened.  So, the writers of the various books of the bible didn't have a 21st century mind for science and historical "accuracy."  But they did get it right.  Now as to the question on how to "defend" your faith to such people who enjoy killing faith in a believer's heart, you don't need to defend anything.   I am reminded of a common human experience called love.  When you "fall in love" with someone and you are trying to explain it to someone or even try to "defend" your love relationship to "critics," it is hard to do so.   The words don't come easily because love has to do with the human heart.  Love cannot be truly expressed in human words.  So it is with faith.  My faith relationship with God, and as a Christian, my faith in Jesus as Lord and Savior, cannot be adequately explained to unbelievers and cynics.  As one cannot truly express human love in words, there are times that one cannot adequately describe in human words that which come from the human soul and spirit.  There is no need to defend your faith in God and in Jesus as Lord.  When you are attacked, simply turn the other cheek just as Jesus told us to do.  These attackers cannot understand at this time the love of God that exists in your heart (but I pray that someday they will).  The Spirit will give you the words to speak at the proper time.   Don't feel ignorant when asked to defend your love of God.  Your key to heaven is not what you know (facts, science, etc.).... it’s who you know.....Jesus! – CatholicView Staff

 
”Where can I get in-depth answers and discussions
about the bible?” - Michelle

CatholicView Staff:

Where can I go to get in-depth answers and have a discussion with a priest about the Bible, Church, religion, etc.? Are there any sites you can recommend or books you would suggest reading? - Michelle

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Dear Michelle:

Thank you for your question.  What a blessing that you want to learn more about the Lord.  Why not enroll in a bible study at church?  Here you can find all you need and make friends with others who would like to know more about the bible and the Church.  Call your local parish or church to find out about bible studies.  Or call the Church office and ask to speak either with a priest or minister of your choice.  They will be most happy to talk to you.  God bless you in your quest for knowledge and faith. -  CatholicView Staff 


”How can I confess something I am falsely
accused of doing?” - Maureen

CatholicView Staff:

How can you confess something that you were falsely accused of if others think you did it? I'm not speaking of a criminal intent but of hateful words that hurt many people. - Maureen

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Dear Maureen:

I am sorry you are being falsely accused of things you did not say.  Sadly there are people who derive great joy in gossiping without thinking of the pain this can cause to others. Because you are innocent, your conscience is clear.    Do not allow those who started such untruths to steal your joy. 

Let the Lord handle this matter for you.    If you can, speak to the injured parties and tell them precisely what you said if you think they would benefit from your explanation.  It this is not possible, let it go.  Get on with your life.  Hold your head up, knowing that God saw everything and will take care of it in His own time.  You are not to blame.  You did nothing wrong.  Be at peace.    – CatholicView Staff


”My friend’s ex-wife wants an annulment. 
Why should she do this after remarrying?”  - Stacey

CatholicView Staff:

I have a very close friend, a male, who has been divorced from his wife for 6 years. She re-married 4 years ago. She has sent him a letter asking him to sign a document annulling their marriage. They have a child and share custody. Why would she ask him to do this? - Stacey

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Stacey:

An annulment is necessary when a Catholic, divorced person wants to remarry.   In this case, perhaps the ex-wife may have remarried without getting an annulment first.  Without nullifying the first marriage, the Catholic party cannot share in the sacraments or be in union with the Church.   Hope this helps a bit.  – CatholicView Staff

 
”I am concerned about Ministers of the Eucharist
voting Democratic.  Is this morally wrong?” - Linda

CatholicView Staff:

I am very concerned about taking communion from lay people I know are voting the democratic ticket. My husband and I were eating our dinner out and observed several members of our church waiting to watch the Democratic convention. The members were wearing buttons, stickers etc. with the names of the candidates on their clothing.  One of the Eucharistic Ministers came to our table to say to us that they were there to cheer their candidates on.  How can we be Catholic and support those candidates who support stem cell research and abortion? Is it not our moral obligation to support what the Church teaches? - Linda

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Linda:

There is a similar question above in this category.  CatholicView's answer is the same to you as it pertains to the same subject.  No political party in the United States of America totally supports the teachings of Christ and His Church.   Everyone, including Catholics, is entitled to their own political viewpoints and what they feel is best for the country as a whole. In any political decision such as voting for a candidate, we must see the whole big civil picture and judge what is best for the entire country.  There is no candidate that fits the ideal Catholic politician.  See the big picture and vote accordingly.  Meanwhile, receive the Body and Blood of Christ in Holy Communion from any minister or ordained clergyman that has been authorized by the Church.  The Eucharist is the most important gift from God the Father.  And that trumps anyone’s political viewpoint.  – CatholicView Staff


"Do you know anything about a website that sends
prayers to be read in Rome?"  – Lars-Erik
 

CatholicView Staff:

I've found the website http://www.delivermyprayer.org/ and I'm wondering if you know anything about it? I couldn't find much info about it on the Internet - so at least I'm hoping for some confirmation that they really are reading the prayers as they say? I also would like to have it confirmed if they are allowed to work like they do. – Lars-Erik

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Lars-Erik:  

I must say that there are money schemes wherever on the Internet, even those who use the Church for their own purposes.  I have never heard of this web site and I am disturbed that they would ask for 3 Euros (about $5.00US) for such a “service.”  Your prayer is heard by God anywhere you are.  When we talk to God from our hearts, He is right there with us.  There is no need to send a “prayer” to be read at Saint Peter’s tomb at the Basilica of Saint Peter at Vatican City.  If you wish someone to join you in prayer, simply ask someone to pray with you and for you.   Even ask your fellow Christians to pray for you at their local churches.  Prayer, which is a conversation between God and you, is no more powerful in the Vatican than in the privacy of your home.  It doesn’t matter where the prayer is said only that your heart is open to God’s plan for you.   – CatholicView Staff

 
”My daughter had angry words with an acquaintance
and I didn't say she was my daughter.  Do I need to
go to confession?” – Susan

CatholicView Staff:

My teenage daughter had angry words with an online adult acquaintance of mine, who was unaware she was my child. I didn't witness what was said, and not sure who is telling the truth. I told the acquaintance I didn't know whom she has argued with, and smoothed things over. I have scolded my daughter. But now I feel horrible for lying to my acquaintance, and not making my daughter apologize to her. I teach my children that lying is wrong, yet I just did. Do I need to go to confession?

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Dear Susan:

I am sorry that you are feeling bad about lying to your acquaintance.  Have you prayed about it, asking God’s forgiveness? 

Remember always that we are examples to our children.  I would suggest that you should seek the sacrament of confession.  Through your Christian actions, you will be able to ask your daughter to apologize to the person she offended. – CatholicView Staff


Does the Orthodox Church venerate the Holy Virgin
Mary? - Amparo

CatholicView Staff:

Does the Orthodox Church venerate the Holy Virgin Mary? - Amparo

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Amparo:

Thanks for your question.  Yes, the Orthodox Church has always honored the Blessed Virgin from its apostolic beginnings. – CatholicView Staff


”Is it OK for a deacon to enjoy intimacy with
his wife?” - Warren

CatholicView Staff:

Is it OK for a deacon to enjoy intimacy with his wife? I have been a deacon for 3 years, and I love my ministry. However, my marriage is beginning to suffer because my guilt over enjoying intimacy is leading me to avoid my wife. I was raised in the '50's and 60's, and was taught in parochial schools that while sex with your wife was OK, enjoying it wasn't. I was able to overcome this when I was younger, but now that I'm ordained, and older, I am struggling with guilt and feel that intimacy - or at least enjoying intimacy - with my wife is incompatible with ministry. Help! - Warren

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Dear Warren:

I am happy that I did not grow up in the 1950’s if you were taught that enjoying sexual intimacy with your spouse is somehow sinful.  This is totally wrong and not what the Church teaches in its sexual morality.  Sexual intimacy is a gift from God, made by God for His purpose and plan.  Sexual intimacy between married spouses is meant to be enjoyed and designed to bring two into one flesh.   Even though you are an ordained deacon (the Sacrament of Holy Orders), you do not take upon yourself the vows or promise of celibacy.   You are still committed to the Sacrament of Marriage, and your family and marriage is the first priority you have over ordained ministry.  Enjoying sexual intimacy is not incompatible with your ordained ministry.  Instead, it should energize your sacred ministry and bless it! - CatholicView Staff


” I had an affair with a priest.  Am I damned?”
- Maria

CatholicView Staff:

I had an affair with a priest.  We have ended it and have both confessed, and been absolved of our sin.   Someone told me that even though it was consensual, I would go to hell because as a priest he is less to blame than I am - so the majority of the sin is on me due to my "seducing" one of God's holy priests.   Am I damned?  Is there anything I can do to save my soul?  - Maria

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Dear Maria:

We are all responsible for the consequences of our sins.  To say that one is more culpable than another in this area of sexual and relational affairs is ignorant.  We are all free will beings and we all make our decisions and we will all be held accountable for them in this life and before the judgment throne.  You are not going to hell.  Anyone who says this to you is acting as God Himself and that is blasphemous.  Even though I am disturbed (upset) that my fellow priest would put himself into such a delicate situation with you and has sinned grievously before the Lord and the Church, he is to blame for his own actions and will be judged by God.   But you have repented and confessed your sin and have asked forgiveness.  You are in a salvific relationship with Jesus Christ and that is your salvation.  Jesus saves.  And He has saved you.  You are not damned.   You are forgiven.  As the gospel says, “Go and sin no more!”  See you in heaven!  - CatholicView Staff


”Is dispensation needed for a Roman Rite Catholic
to marry a Catholic of another rite?” - Hunter

CatholicView Staff:

Is dispensation needed for a Roman Rite Catholic to marry a Catholic of another rite? This is a case of a Roman Rite Catholic wanting to marry a Byzantine Rite Catholic. In which church should they marry? Which rite will the children belong to? Does it matter which rite they attend liturgy at?  - Hunter

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Dear Hunter:

Dispensation to marry in another rite of the Catholic Church is not necessary but there is a permission to marry in another rite that is required from both the Latin (Roman rite) and Eastern (Byzantine rite) diocesan bishops.  It is customary to marry in the bride’s rite though the couple ultimately decides that.  The children of the marriage can be brought up in either the Roman or Byzantine rites, but a decision must be made by the parents of the children to bring up the children in one of the rites.   Please make a decision to keep your family household united in spiritual affairs by committing yourselves to a particular rite of the Catholic Church. - CatholicView Staff


”Is it morally wrong to rent a house to an unmarried
couple? - Margaret

CatholicView Staff:

I know it is illegal to discriminate because of it, but is it morally wrong to rent a house to an unmarried couple? - Margaret

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Dear Margaret:

The laws of the USA state quite clearly that you cannot discriminate against anyone based on certain criteria.  Is it morally wrong to rent a house to an unmarried couple?  The answer is simple:  no.  As a landlord, you are required by your Christian values of hospitality and charity to rent to all who are in need of housing.  I am reminded of the gospel verse that Jesus states:  (Matthew 25:31-46) “I tell you solemnly, in so far as you neglected to do this to one of the least of these, you neglected to do it for me.”   The Lord does not discriminate when it comes to fulfilling human need.  And we as Catholics and Christians are judged by our deeds.  The responsibility for sinful behavior rests on the couple.  The Lord has also asked us not to judge lest we be judged.  Your duty is to open your arms in Christian charity and share with them the love of God that can change hearts and lives.

CatholicView Staff 

 
”I have been married and divorced twice.
Can I come back to the Church? - Sharon

CatholicView Staff:

I was baptized a Catholic and attended the Church up until I was nine years old. My father died and my mother remarried and converted us to the Baptist faith.   I have been married and divorced twice since that time. Can I come back to the Church?

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Sharon:

Absolutely you can return to the Church.  The priest will want to get more information about you than you provide here, but certainly you can become part of our Church family.   Because you were a young child, he probably will ask you to enroll in the Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults (RCIA), and this will bring you up to speed about the sacraments and all you will need to be in full union with the Catholic Church.   He will also discuss with you your previous marriages.

Please visit your neighborhood priest to begin the procedure of re-instating yourself as a Catholic in full standing.    Always keep in mind that God loves you.    May the Lord guide and strengthen you in your decision to return to the Church.   – CatholicView Staff 

 
”Was it wrong to attend a wedding at a Methodist
Church? - Don

CatholicView Staff:

Our daughter (21) was the matron of honor in a Methodist wedding. The bride was a member of the Catholic Church at one time, her mom a Methodist. From our understanding the bride joined the Methodist church, was it wrong for us to be at the wedding? If so would this be a Mortal sin? We are strong Catholics. Thanks

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Dear Don:

To attend a wedding at a Methodist Church is not wrong.  It is not a sin.  Certainly it does not change your church base in any way.  You are there to honor your daughter who was a bridesmaid in the wedding.

As long as you are faithful in attending your church, there is nothing sinful in visiting another church for such occasions.  - CatholicView Staff


”My dad and son live with me and my boyfriend. 
Will this be a conflict in reaching heaven?” - Lori

CatholicView Staff:

My dad is Catholic and is living with my son, my boyfriend, and me. Knowing that I am living in sin, will this be a conflict to my dad and the rest of us in reaching heaven when it is our time to go?

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Lori:

I think the emphasis is on you and how you are living your life.  That is the conflict you must face and correct.  Remember your actions do affect your son and will remain in memory for his lifetime.  Your dad has secured his faith.  Learn from him.

From your letter it appears that you want to believe and have faith in the Lord. You say you know you are living in sin.  Why not be an example to your child by getting rid of the conflict?   Make the changes you know will be pleasing to God.  If you love your boyfriend, make plans for a wedding.  This life is short and none can know when our expiration date will come.  Be ready!  You are loved.  God bless you.   CatholicView Staff


“I have been married and divorced twice. Can I come
back to the Church?” - Melinda

CatholicView Staff:

I was baptized Catholic along with my kids years ago because my husband is Catholic. Our family is secular now and I truly wish I could believe and have faith. Is there a reason besides faith to believe? I mean just a plain, logical reason? I truly would love to believe and return.   I have been married and divorced twice since that time. Can I come back to the Church? - Melinda

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Dear Melinda:

You ask if there is a reason to believe in Jesus Christ besides faith.  One reason is that God cares for you and wants you to have the gift of eternity.  He sent His Son to take on all sin and die for you in order that you might live forever in His Father’s kingdom with Him.  And Jesus promised to be with us through all things to guide and strengthen us in times of life’s trials.  He is always there for you.   He sends the Holy Spirit to warn us when we grow weak in the Lord and leads us and keeps us on God’s righteous path. 

Faith and belief are the keys to salvation.  The bible teaches us that faith is the substance of all things hoped for, and the evidence of things not seen.  If you want proof, you will not find it except through prayer, the bible, the Holy Spirit, the Church, and the sincere desire to believe.

You are searching and that is good.  Pray sincerely and ask God to open up your heart.  Go and talk to a priest and see what you have to do to return to the Church family.  We are waiting to welcome you back.  May the Lord walk beside you on this journey of faith and give you the courage and strength you need.  We will be praying for you.  – CatholicView Staff


 ”I think "son of God" is a metaphor, not a literal
statement.  Am I Christian? - Jenny



CatholicView Staff:

I was raised Catholic, but have not practiced Catholicism in a long time. I think Jesus was wise and a prophet, but not the only son of God, I think we are all sons and daughters of God--what does that make me? I think "son of God" is a metaphor for his holiness and prophetic ways not a literal statement. Am I Christian?

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Jenny:

Yes, we are all sons and daughters of Almighty God.    It is because of Jesus Christ Who died for us that makes us so.  Yet, as Christians, we believe, accept, and know that Jesus Christ is Lord and Savior, died and risen from the dead, and sits at the right Hand of God the Father.  Jesus is the Son of God the Father and part of the Godhead we describe as the Trinity.  Jesus is just more than a wise prophet; He is divine and human, the second person of the Trinity, Savior of the world. 

I think you are searching for that truth.  Ask your local clergy about the Christian faith.  Do research at your local library.  Read some books about the history of Christianity.  See what biblical archeology has uncovered.  I am sure that your research will bring you to a better understanding of Jesus Christ.  Remember, Jesus is our only hope for heaven.  Being Christian means to believe and have faith in Christ.   Keep moving forward in your search for the meaning of Christian.  And keep praying so that God can enlighten you, strengthen you, and bless your life with the peace only He can offer you.  God bless.  – CatholicView Staff

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“Did I do the right thing by taking communion
after 25 years?” - Angela


CatholicView Staff:

I am a returning Catholic from being away from the Catholic Church for 25 years.  I have been married, divorced, and married again. I asked God to let me know when I was worthy of communion; I felt the Lord told me to go.  Did I do the right thing by taking communion after all these years? - Angela

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Angela:

Thank you for your letter.  CatholicView is happy that you are coming back to the Church after a quarter of a century. 

You did not mention whether you were reconciled with the Church (making use of the Sacrament of Confession) before receiving communion.  This is something that must be taken into account before receiving.

You have come a long way to be reunited with the Church.  I sincerely urge you to see your local priest.  Also talk to him about the annulments you might need.  Sit down and sort things out.  The wonderful thing is God’s mercy for us all.  I pray that He gives you the courage to move ahead in faith.      Again I am delighted that you have come HOME.  God bless you.    – CatholicView Staff


”Why is it that Jesus’ teaching here on earth
gets misunderstood? - Sam

CatholicView Staff:

Why does it seem that the further away from the times of Jesus teaching here on earth the more His teachings get misunderstood? It seems that in any of today’s churches we have gotten away from the original example of the way we should live.

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Dear Sam:

It is true that many times, the teachings of Jesus get misunderstood because man is human and subject to error.  Unfortunately, it does not change the reality of what God wants us to know.  Truth never changes.  Never.  Man may change but not the love or the mercy of God and Christ.  God is unchanging.

The Holy Spirit is the alarm that goes off whenever a something is wrong.  If there is something within your Church that does not follow the guidelines of Christ’s teaching, speak to your pastor and try to gain enlightenment, but do not give up on your faith.  May God keep you moving forward in your quest for truth.  – CatholicView Staff 


”Because of my addiction to pornography, I am losing
my wife.  How can I fix this?” - John

CatholicView Staff:

Why does the Roman Catholic Church allow for the dissolution of the sacrament of ordination but NOT the sacrament of marriage? I am married with two children.  As a young boy, an older kid took sexual advantage of me, and a few years after that I was introduced to pornography.  I have been battling this addiction for some years now; I was on track for a year and recently fell back to my addiction.  My wife found out and now with reason she wants to possibly get divorced.   What can I do to fix myself and help my marriage?

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Dear John:

I am very happy to hear that you are willing to seek help with your addiction to pornography.  Addiction to anything is a destructive force that is very hard to personally control.  With the help of the Holy Spirit, all things are possible.  Do not give up on yourself.  As the old saying goes, “Two steps forward, one step back.”  And even though you took one step back, you still made progress that makes the angels in heaven rejoice.   Your marriage is being challenged by this addiction and you may need outside help of a counselor or spiritual director to guide you to overcome this addiction to pornography.  God loves you, no matter what.  He rejoices in your daily victories.  He knows your inner struggle and pain.  So, always go forward.

As to your question why there is no “dissolution” or “annulment” of the Sacrament of Holy Orders (ordination to deacon, priest, bishop), the sacrament of Holy Orders is NOT at all like the sacrament of marriage.  The sacrament of Holy Orders is one of three sacraments that actually change forever the identity of the soul.  For example, baptism changes the actual identity of the soul and personality of a person by making that person a son/daughter of God the Father.  No matter what anyone does, no one can change, dissolve, or annul this relationship once it is set.  The baptized person can DENY it but cannot annul that relationship.  In the sacrament of confirmation, the soul and identity of the person is once again changed and the person who is a son/daughter of God now becomes His prophet and voice in the world, an identity that cannot be annulled but can be denied by the person.  The sacrament of holy orders changes the person’s identity again and makes that ordained person (deacon, priest, bishop) the embodiment of God’s presence in the world.  Once again, this relationship with God cannot be annulled or dissolved.  But the Church can limit or even stop an ordained deacon/priest/bishop’s ministry but cannot annul that sacramental relationship that this ordained person has with God.  The sacrament of marriage does not change the soul’s identity of a person like baptism, confirmation, and holy orders.  Instead, the married couple, called by God and each other into an exclusive and life-long love relationship that fulfills each other and brings children and life to the world, builds a home and become living symbols of God’s love for His Church.  Yet, because of the sinful inclinations of human beings, some married couples cannot fulfill God’s expectations of marriage.  So, such defective marriages can be annulled and dissolved when they do not fulfill this one aspect of Jesus’ command about marriage:  “what God has joined, let no one put asunder.”  There are some marriages, called defective in canon law, that God DID NOT join but joined simply by “man’s” willing it.  The Church has always recognized that such defective marriages are not God-joined and are not subject to Jesus’ command about the indissolubility of a sacramentally valid, God-joined, God-planned marriage.

I am saying a special prayer for you and your marriage.  I pray for your healing and the reconciliation of your marriage. – CatholicView Staff

 
”I was a Muslim but I want to be Catholic and my parents
object.  What can I do?” - Nur

CatholicView Staff:

I was a Muslim. I really hate my religion because of its terrorism. I am looking forward to be Catholic. What shall I do that my relatives tried their best for me not to convert. – Nur

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Nur:

CatholicView wants to welcome you to the Catholic Church.  I am so sorry to hear that your parents oppose your choice of faith.  Sadly, this separation is always painful.  But the heart and soul of you has led you to this Church.  What can you do about your family members who disagree with your decision to accept Jesus as Lord and Savior and be part of the Catholic Church?  There isn’t much you can do but go forward in your newfound faith.  Even though there will be negative reactions to your Christian faith, I find that your family will always have a place in their hearts for you.  Family, love, and blood ties are much stronger than anything.  So, be patient with your family.  There is no need to get into arguments about your Christian faith.  Arguments serve no positive purpose.  Let your life in Jesus Christ be the discussion you have with your family.   Live your Christian faith, not just talk about it.

Talk to your priest for strength and courage.  The faith you now have will strengthen you.  Your salvation can only come from Jesus Christ Who was crucified for our salvation.

Please pray for your parents that they too might find the peace you have experienced.  Pray that they too will come to faith in Jesus Christ.  God bless you.  Welcome to the Catholic Church.  – CatholicView Staff

 

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