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JUNE  2007
FATHER CEDRIC PISEGNA, C.P.
FATHER KEVIN BATES, SM
FATHER AMARO SAUMELL
CATHOLICVIEW STAFF

FATHER CEDRIC PISEGNA, C.P.

”I set myself up as a god and had a friend defer to me as such.  How can I confess this?” - Larry

 

Hello Father:

I am Protestant but have always felt drawn to the Catholic faith.   A few years ago I began to drift from my faith and got involved in several inappropriate relationships with women over the Internet and telephone, though I never met any of them in person.     What is worse is that the last one I got involved with was very submissive to me and at the time I was exploring Gnosticism and gothic ideas. I began to set myself up as my own god and informed her to refer to me as such, and she eagerly did so.   At first I guess it was a powerful feeling, but then it began to make me feel sick inside, so I told her not to call me that anymore, that there is only one God.   My question is, I am not sure how to confess these sins, I suppose adultery is adultery whether it was in person or not, but I am not sure how to confess the sin of making myself out to be a god (never was it meant to mean the Most High God, simply a lesser god). Should I simply say  "I committed blasphemy"? - Larry
 

Dear Larry:

I am glad you are drawn to the Catholic faith and I hope that you will deepen your walk with us. The mistakes and sins of our past can actually help propel us into a deeper life with God. I am praying that this very thing will happen in what you have shared. God’s mercy is always abundant and draws us into an indescribable relationship with God. The fact that you felt “sick” when you did those things tells me that you have a sensitive conscience and heart for God. God was actually at work in you through those feelings even though you didn’t know it.


You asked what “sin” this was. Adultery? Besides the promiscuous sexual matter, I think you were sinning against the first commandment. “You shall have no other gods besides me.” There is a reason why that was first. In fact, the tendency to be worshipped and the aggrandizement of self was and is original sin. Adam and Eve were tempted to become “as or like God” if they ate of the fruit of the tree. The evil one himself seeks people to adore and worship him. Many today are selfish, controlling and narcissistic. That is perhaps the sin of our culture. I remember riding behind a car with a bumpersticker: “Goddess at the wheel.” Self-idolization is rampant. It is simply an exaggeration and cover-up of the brokenness, emptiness and incompleteness we all possess deep within. We need God.

It doesn’t take long to understand that the major thrust of following Jesus is death to our sinful self and a new self-discovery. We also come to new life and inner happiness as we exalt and praise God, not ourselves. The original sin is pride and the prime virtue of a Christian is humility. I pray that this experience will help you to grow in self-awareness. May you learn from this and determine in your heart what truly makes you happy: a deep personal relationship with Jesus as Lord. Larry, I hope you will be honest with yourself deep within. When you are ready, go to confession and receive the extraordinary mercy of God for you. - Sincerely, Fr. Cedric


"When I am in a personal crisis or struggling with something,
I pray but I feel guilty.  What should I do?" - Racheal

Father Cedric:

I pray each day, several times.  I find that there are times when I am in a personal crisis or struggling with something, I pray but I feel guilty.  I feel like praying at these times is manipulative on my part.   What should I do about this?  Thank you for your time.  God Bless, Racheal

 

Dear Racheal,

Your struggles are a common one. First, thanks for being so honest and vulnerable about your prayer life. None of us can “manipulate” or “control” God. However, if we are living a life consistent with God’s will, we will eventually pray according to God’s will. Perhaps the feelings you are having is because you are praying in a selfish way, (I don’t mean this in a harsh way…read on) rather than for what you really need. God doesn’t always give us what we want, but what we truly need. When we pray in selfish ways, our conscience testifies that we need to pray more maturely.

Here is what I mean: You used the words: “crisis” and “struggling with something.” We all go through experiences like that. Most times our immediate instinct is to ask for these painful happenings to be removed. If there was ever a struggle, it was Jesus in the garden as he contemplated his passion. He wanted this “cup” to be removed, but despite his emotions screaming at him, he wisely prayed for God’s will. God didn’t remove that suffering, but “Son though he was, he learned obedience through his suffering.” (Heb. 5:8) One of the gifts of our pain is the virtue acquired.

Paul, the Apostle, was suffering with some affliction/tribulation still unknown to scholars and saints alike.  He asked for it to be removed over and over.  Finally he came to the realization that God could work through his weakness in a way he couldn't if he were healed. (2 Cor. 12:8,9)  Also, when the writer (scholars tell us it was not Paul) of Ephesians prayed, he didn't pray that the church be taken out of persecution and hard trials, but that they "be strengthened in the inner man" and be grounded and rooted in love." (Eph. 3:16-17)  In other words, crisis can lead to new life.  Struggles can lead to rebirth.  Trials can bring about deep inner change.

I challenge you to evaluate and wrestle with your “crisis’ and struggles.”  God may want to remove them.  Most times, though, God will work through them to help us grow and mature in Christ.  God isn’t so much interested in alleviating pain as he is in our growth. Perhaps your guilt feelings are an indication something isn’t quite right.  All prayer is good, but mature prayers lead to a sense of tranquility and peace within.   I invite you to surrender your situations to God in trust, knowing that God makes all things work to good for those who love him.   Sincerely, Fr. Cedric

 
”I feel I was rude to someone who stole $25K from my parents.   How should I have handled this?” - Gina

 

Father Cedric:

While shopping, I saw a familiar face and said "hello". She happily responded with "oh, hello, how are you". Then I realized who it was; it was a former employee of my parents'. She had stolen $25K from their business years ago and never apologized or seemed sorry. She did serve a day in jail and had a few hours of community service.

But, my response to her question was "I'm o.k." and I walked away! This felt so very wrong, it is not my normal demeanor and the thought that played over and over in my mind was "love thy neighbor". I believe I should have smiled and said "just fine" (which I am) and not have been rude. WWJD: How should I have handled this?
Thank you for your time. – Gina

Dear Gina,

First the good news: You didn’t make an angry display of bitterness like some would have!  You were caught off guard and did the best you could, given the drama of the past.  However, you sensed in your heart how rude you were and wished you could have had another chance.  I admire your desire to be Christ-like!  That tells me you love God a lot.

I think what you did was an initial attempt to tell her that you have moved on.  You said later in the question that you truly are “just fine” within.  Yet, there is still some pain.  We all have this idea that in order to be truly forgiving, we have to be best friends with the person we’ve forgiven.  I don’t think so.  Be kind, courteous and gracious.  Do the best you can.  Then move on. You can learn from this.  The next time this happens (if it does) try to smile, have your normal demeanor and relax.  God will help you.  Until then, quit beating yourself up. You did well given what happened.  God Bless you.  Sincerely, Fr. Cedric



FATHER KEVIN BATES, SM

”I have been praying hard for a job.  Why Can’t I get one?” - Anne


Father Kevin:

I have been praying for a long time that I will obtain a job.   When I do an interview, I am good or excellent but I don’t get offered the job!    Why??  Do I have a curse or am I not praying hard enough?   I really need a job.   I am even thinking of changing my profession if that’s what is wrong!   Father, please guide me.  -  Anne

Dear Anne:

I don't know what guidance I can give you here.   Putting everything into God's hands in prayer involves asking for what we need, and also it means that we surrender everything into God's hands and wait patiently.  The whole question of praying for things involves a great mystery.  God, for instance, does not interfere with human freedom, and so we still have to make our own intelligent and free choices with the gifts that God has already given us.  So for instance, your suggestion about changing professions, may be a wise one - but in the end only you can determine that.  You can discern with good friends, and in prayer, but in the end the decision is yours.  If you mean by "praying harder", that you are asking harder, then I don't know that that is the way to go.  Praying harder could involve surrendering to God’s purposes more freely   - then that could lead to a peacefulness and new trust as you wait for some success in your job applications.  Anne, I wish you the very best in your search for a job. - Father Kevin

”I show up late for weekday masses but take communion.  Am I wrong to do this?” - Eric

Father Kevin:

I try to receive communion every day. Unfortunately, I simply can't, due to time restraints, attend the entire Mass (my small town has one church, and the weekday Masses range from 25 to 60 minutes). Consequently, I just show up late (I try to get there at least by the words of consecration), get communion, stay for the final blessing, and leave. Is there anything wrong with this practice? (Note: I'm not talking about Sundays or Holy Days of Obligation) Many thanks.  - Eric

Dear Eric:

I would ask what are you trying to achieve in all this?  It is a worthy and lovely thing to want to share in the Eucharist as often as possible, and should not be a cause of anxiety or worry.  If you and Jesus know each other as well as you seem to, can't you just trust him to know that you are doing your best?  All good wishes to you.  -  Father Kevin

 
”Why does the Catholic Church insist that the pope and priests are called 'Father'?” - Damian

Father Kevin:

In Matthew 23:9 God forbids calling religious leaders 'Father .' Why does the Catholic Church insist that the pope and priests are called 'Father'? - Damian

Hi Damian:

Firstly it is Jesus, (not God as such) in that gospel text Who instructs people not to call people "Father" as we have only one Father in heaven - God.  Secondly, I don't know that it is correct to say that the Church "insists" that priests be called "Father".  It is a long-standing custom, a statement of reverence, love and respect, and a naming of the sort of role that a priest has in a community as a spiritual father in a sense, to the people there.  The word Jesus uses in the Gospel is a sort of Title or Honor. As a priest myself, I experience that same word not as a title so much as a reminder to me of the role that my ministry calls me to be among God's people.  It is a call to faithfulness, and to respond to God's people as God's minister.  If a priest uses the word "Father" more as a title of honor or status rather than a naming of his ministry of service, then that would probably be the sort of error that Jesus was referring to.

Even though the word "Father" is used in both instances, the meaning is quite different in each.   All good wishes to you.  - Father Kevin



FATHER AMARO SAUMELL

”Why does the Creed say 'On the third day He rose AGAIN'?  - Ed 


Father Amaro:

In the Creed it says 'on the third day He rose again according to the scriptures. I have been asking this question for 20 years and priests for 20 years have come up with all sorts of different answers. What one priest came up with is 'the word again is not in the Latin version of the creed. It is not in the Italian version of the creed. However, when translated from Italian to English the word 'again' was added. A friend of mine who now works for the Vatican Embassy in Wash, DC and very fluent in both Latin and Italian went through the creed in Latin and Italian and could not find a word that translated to 'again'. How did this error occur and will it be corrected? When I recite the creed at Mass, I intentionally omit the word 'again',as I believe Christ only rose once. What say you. P.S. as of 7-1 this year Fr Amaro will be our new pastor at St. Ann Parish in Needles, CA.

Dear Ed:

The word “again” is an English word problem.  The translation from the original Greek and subsequent Latin rendering (the Council of Nicea of 312 AD) does not say "again."  Nor does any OTHER language translation of that original document except English.  It is just a term of speech that doesn't make sense to us now but when it was originally translated into English so long ago in the 14th century in England, it made sense to them.  It isn't necessarily a translation from a particular word, but rather a poetic wording of a reality.   So, since He died and was buried, we say in English that He "rose again" as if it were one word. But don't get discouraged about translations. The Church is constantly working on such things. In fact, we're all anxiously awaiting the new translation for the Latin Missal.  God bless, Father Amaro


CATHOLICVIEW STAFF

”Why does God send perfect people to hell? - SH

CatholicView Staff:

If we are perfect when we die, why is it that God sends perfect people to hell?   Why not just make them perfect and send them to heaven?   Why does God send imperfect people to heaven?   Why does Heaven have imperfect people in it? - SH

Dear SH:

Thank you for your question.  First, let me address your idea of a perfect human being.  No one is perfect.  We are all imperfect.  The thing that makes us worthy to enter God’s PERFECT heaven is Jesus Christ.    Through our Father’s eternal love for us, He sent Jesus as our Savior.    By the shedding of His blood on Calvary over two thousand years ago, He paid the price for mankind to enter that kingdom of heaven.   Read John 3:16 which tells us:  “For God loved the world so much that He gave His one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.”  When we accept Him as Lord and Savior, living as He taught us, we are made clean, spotless, and without sin, with a promise of eternal life.  All our past sins are erased forever and we begin life anew.   “In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's grace.”  (Ephesians 1:7)  

God does not send people to hell.   We send ourselves to hell when we turn their backs on God and refuse to accept the salvation that Christ offers and reject the supreme love of our Heavenly Father.  

God wants to share a perfect eternity with each of us.   Imperfect though we are, we are made perfect through Jesus Christ.  Hope this helps.  CatholicView Staff

 

”What is the Church's stance or opinion on plastic surgery?” - Gina
 

CatholicView Staff:

What is the Church's stance or opinion on plastic surgery, particularly breast implants?  - Gina

 

Dear Gina:

If plastic surgery is a matter of medical need, there is no concern here.  As to the use of plastic surgery to enhance one’s image simply for the sake of pride and aggrandizement, then it is a matter of the sin of pride.   Plastic surgery in itself is not sinful.   The motivation of the heart is what makes something sinful.  Medical necessity is obviously not sinful (such as physical reconstruction after cancer surgery).  Plastic surgery simply for one’s pleasure is something that I would question.  Why mess with what God has given you? – CatholicView Staff

 
”Does Holy Water go bad?” - Stuart

CatholicView Staff:

I am a convert so I don't want to ask a stupid question. But I received a small bottle of Holy Water before, and it has been sitting on my desk for over a year unopened. I was curious if Holy Water could go bad, like expire or if it was still valid, good to use? (Like to cross myself with) Stuart

 

Dear Stuart:

There is no expiration date on Holy Water that has been blessed.  Use it until it is depleted or if you desire to do so, add a small amount of regular water, but  less than the remaining Holy Water, in order to stretch the amount you have left. 

Keep in mind, you can always get more Holy Water at Church.  Some churches have a special font for this purpose or simply ask a priest to help you.   CatholicView Staff

 

”Can a non-Catholic person bless himself with Holy water?”   - Kevin
 

CatholicView Staff:

My friend has decided to become Catholic.  He will start RCIA in September.  He is also unbaptized.  As he attends mass with me, what is the Catholic view on blessing himself with holy water?   Is he allowed to do it?  Kevin

 

Dear Kevin:

You ask if your friend can bless himself with Holy Water.  Yes, he can.  But before your friend uses Holy Water, make the sign of the cross, or genuflect before entering the pew, he should understand the significance of the acts from a Catholic perspective.   If he does accept the significance of the aforementioned acts, then there is no reason to refrain from them.  He must not participate in the sacraments of the church such as communion, however, until he is baptized in the Church.  CatholicView Staff

 
”Can we get married but not live with each other?” - Joe
 

CatholicView Staff::

If a man and woman love each other but don't want to live with each other can they get married? PLEASE ANSWER, THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT TO ME.    Thank you very much.  Joe

 

Dear Joe:

You do not give details as to why you would want to live apart from the woman you profess to love.  Why would you marry this person and not live as God intended?

Marriage is a relationship, a union that is so intimate and real that "the two become one flesh."

Marriage is a lifetime commitment to one another.  If the two of you have become one, you are expected to live together.  Jesus says in Matthew 19:4-6  "Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female, 5and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'?  So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

The primary purpose of marriage is to fulfill a vocation in the nature of man and woman, and very importantly, for the procreation and education of children, mutual support and love, and to stand as a symbol of the mystical union between Christ and His Church.

Please talk to your parish priest with more details.  With the limited amount of information you have given in your letter, it is hard to determine your reasons for you and your fiancée wanting to live apart from each other.  CatholicView Staff  

 
”Am I a heretic for believing in Limbo?”  Pereira

CatholicView Staff:

Although not a dogma, Limbo seems like a useful hypothesis that if discarded, makes Hell way more probable than Heaven for those who die without rebirth. Why?  Because that is what our Nature deserves, Heaven is granted because of the merits of Christ into which we are reborn.

I don't expect anyone to agree with me and am not interested in any personal opinions. Just want to know if as Catholics we have a 'semper ubique ab omnibus' opinion on Limbo now, or does the 'in dubiis, libertas' rule apply?

Bottom line: Am I a heretic for believing in Limbo?   Thx Pereira.

Dear Pereira:

Limbo, which was described as a place where innocent babies, children, and good people who are not Christian go if they are not baptized, was never a doctrine of the Church and never even implied in Sacred Scriptures.  What is known is the mercy of God and that heaven is our destiny.  Saint Paul answers the question about a non-baptized person's destiny in his letter to the Romans, Chapter 2, Verses 12 through 16:

"For when Gentiles who do not have the law by nature observe the prescriptions of the law, they are a law for themselves even though they do not have the law.  They show that demands of the law are written in their hearts, while their conscience also bears witness and their conflicting thoughts accuse or even defend them on the day when, according to my gospel, God will judge people's hidden works through Christ Jesus."

No matter what your faith is, no matter what your religion is, we will ALL be judged by Christ Jesus and we will be judged by the motivations of our heart.  So, limbo DOES NOT fit into the described plan of salvation through Jesus Christ.   Jesus died for ALL, not just for some.  And everything will be reconciled in Christ Jesus.   That's the plan and it will be fulfilled.  You state that without the idea of limbo, that hell is "way more probable than heaven for those who die without rebirth." On the contrary, our Christian faith makes heaven WAY MORE PROBABLE than hell for anyone who has lived on earth.  Hell is for those who chose not to live in union with the Creator.  We cannot truly love God without a free choice.  So, hell exists so that we can have a choice.  My heart is the determining factor of my eternal destiny as Paul wrote in Romans.  My heart is with Jesus.  My place, at this time, is reserved in heaven through the mercy of God.  If I should turn my back on Jesus and decide to have NOTHING to do with God, then I chose hell as my destiny.   My heart, no matter what religious affiliation I hold, either chooses God or chooses hell.  It would never chose limbo.  It doesn't exist anyway.

If you chose to believe in the non-existence of limbo, that is your choice.  I wouldn't call you a heretic since you are living in the grace of Jesus Christ.  But you are wrong in holding that limbo exists.  Only heaven and hell exists as places of destiny.  And that is, as you say, "semper ubique ab omnibus."  - CatholicView Staff

 ”Can we change God's mind through prayer?” - Michael

CatholicView Staff:

Is the apparent power of prayer merely the power of divination?

Let me explain.  I have given this a great amount of thought. I believe in the power of prayer, but, to suggest that an outcome will be changed by prayer also suggests that the 'original' outcome was not the perfect outcome already.  Since everything created by God should be perfect, God should not be expected to change based on prayer or prayers .   Therefore, it seems to me that God has granted some people the power of divination so that their prayers may - more often than not - reflect outcomes chosen by God.  This would be useful for spiritual leaders of the church (and other influential people).   I am not sure that simply saying we all have free will, and that prayer sways outcomes would satisfy me.   Is the answer that there is non-intervention by God in our lives unless specifically requested by us?

I am a Christian, but prefer to remain non-denominational.   However, I respect the Catholic Church's clergy in terms of discipline and study. - Michael

 

Dear Michael:

You are correct in saying that we cannot change God's Mind.  My prayer, my conversation with God does not change His Mind.  Prayer changes my mind to His Will, changes my heart to His love, and changes my life to His Life.  And when we get the inspiration to do something good, when I think I have an idea, it is my mind touching the Mind of God and seeing His Plan for that moment.  And when that happens, I have the power of God behind me to do what He intends for His creation.  God intervenes all the time.   But do I have the spiritual maturity to see it?

Prayer is not the power of divination, as if we could, through some kind of witchcraft, make something happen for our personal benefit.  Also, prayer is not the power to change things as such.   Prayer primarily (and solely) is a dialog between God and myself, His creation, made in His image and likeness.  And that is what prayer really is....a dialog.  It is the dialog between the divine and the created that makes me grow, mature, and able to change the world around me.  This dialog makes my relationship with my Father in heaven grow and mature.  As an example, having a talk with my mother and father makes my love for them grow and I automatically grow closer to them and share my life with them and do things for them and they do things for me.  There are some who have the immature idea that God is some kind of genie and prayer is rubbing that genie and getting a wish. That is a false idea of prayer.  Also to say that "everything created by God should be perfect, God should not be expected to change based on prayer" is not to acknowledge the destructive force of sin on creation and the power of human free will to determine the outcome of many events on earth and the universe.  God is perfect, but creation has become imperfect because it is created and touched by created beings like ourselves who do not act always in accord to God's Will.  What prayer does is place me in His presence, the presence of Love Itself, of Beauty Itself, of Life Itself, of Creation Itself.  By being in His presence, I am able to see and be inspired to be God's Hands, Feet, and Presence in this broken world.   By being so inspired, I am able to be the answer to other's prayers as well as an answer to my own prayers (and accept the work of others to be an answer to my prayers.)  And because creation now has become so flawed by our presence in it, God does intervene so that creation can get back on track to His Plan and Will.  God intervenes when we ask and also when we do not ask.  But because of my free will, I chose whether to be open to God's interventions or close the door on His interventions because of my selfishness.  And the only way I can be open to God's interventions is to have a relationship with Him who is Life Itself.  When I am open to God's interventions in His broken creation (broken by us not by Him), then it seems that our prayers have been answered.  And yes, our prayers have been answered because through my dialog with God, I have opened my heart and soul to him to reveal my true needs and see His Hand in everything around me and in me.  And He will intervene to fix what is broken by sin and others.  So, as you can see, prayer is not divination but a love bond between Father and created being.  And love is a powerful force that can change anything.   CatholicView Staff

 
”Do rocks and gems have curative powers?” - Heidi

CatholicView Staff:

I recently started collecting gemstones and rocks. I know it sounds silly but I studied geology and gemology in college and have been fascinated ever since. I purchase them from a local dinosaur museum and the last time I went the director gave me a book on how to use gems for healing. I read the book and it is fascinating! I would love to know more about it but a family member said that it is like magic and against God. Any thoughts? Thanks - Heidi

Heidi:

Rocks and gems are just rocks and gems and really have no curative powers on their own.  Any scientist would tell you that.  But there are some in the “new age movement” that use these special gems and stones to facilitate physical and emotional healing.  As such, using such items are not sinful or against God.   But do they help in our relationship with God?  All I know is that the power of prayer and faith in God does much more for the human body and spirit than some rocks.  Put your faith in trust in God alone and not in His creation. –  CatholicView Staff


”My daughter is marrying a Catholic.   Can she have an outdoor wedding?”
-  Sandra

 

CatholicView Staff:

My daughter is engaged to a Catholic man, she is Presbyterian. She wants to have an outdoor wedding but I understand that would not be recognized by the Catholic Church. Is there any way around this? (two ceremonies perhaps?) – Sandra

 

Sandra:

The Catholic Church requires its members to have their marriages solemnized in a church building because marriage is the symbol of Christ’s love for His bride, the Church.  Even though there are rare exceptions to most canonical (church) requirements for marriage, in this situation, I cannot see an exception for having a Catholic’s marriage blessed in a church (sacred place), not outdoors (a secular/profane place).  There are options, though.  You could have two ceremonies, a civil one outside and the church blessing ceremony in your local Catholic church.  Another way, that would require a dispensation from the local bishop, is that the marriage be blessed and solemnized in the Presbyterian church.  You are correct in saying that the marriage of the Catholic party outside of a church would be considered “sacramentally” invalid.  CatholicView Staff

 
”My colleague is violating the Sacraments of the Church.  Should I report her to our priest? - Gavin
 

Hello Father,

My question is related to a professional ethics issue. I am an anthropologist and one of the professional tenets we profess to support is a respect for the beliefs, practices, and cultural validity of the people we study. Typically we are very good at this, at least until we turn the lens inward. A colleague spent the better part of the year attending Mass and Confession (she has not used the term reconciliation in our exchanges). She is, while raised Catholic, not a believer in God or the Resurrection. Even so, she took part in the sacraments of the Eucharist and Reconciliation, never disclosing her disbelief, which leads to my question. First, is it a violation to participate in the sacrament of reconciliation (as it would be with the Eucharist) if you do not believe? Second, would you consider it professionally unethical not to disclose that information to the priest and to knowing participate in a religious rite in which you have no belief? I ask the latter because similar work done amongst other religious traditions by anthropologists have traditionally avoided taking part in what might be considered defilement of a sacred act. Thanks for your thoughts. - Gavin

 

Dear Gavin:

I find it interesting that an inactive Catholic would partake of the sacramental and religious rites of the Church when that inactive Catholic is not a believer.  I find it even more disconcerting that the inactive Catholic would partake of the sacraments in the name of science and not in the name of faith in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior.  I have always understood that anthropologists who are studying a people or a specific group of people with specific religious expressions do not participate in their sacred rites but observe them and try to understand their human expression of spirituality.    So, I find that your colleague's actions to be unethical if she is participating in the Catholic faith just because of reaching some anthropological conclusion.  But maybe she is participating in the Church because she really does believe in her heart or is trying to find her own Christian faith that she lost some time ago.  But I do not know that.  Only she can truly answer the question why she is participating in the Church as a non-believer.  I suggest that if you feel that she is crossing the ethical line as an anthropologist, you should confront her about it.   You might be surprised by her response.  -  CatholicView Staff

 
”Should I leave the Church since I can never have communion?” - Stephanie
 

CatholicView Staff:

It bothers my conscience to make my non-Catholic fiancé go through the annulment process. Should I just leave the church since I will never be able to receive Holy Communion again? - Stephanie

 

Stephanie:

Why can’t you receive the Holy Eucharist?  Your fiancé is a wonderful person to participate in the annulment process so that he can marry you.  That’s true love!  Rejoice in that love and let the process come to its conclusion.  When you have your marriage blessed in the church, you will rejoice in receiving Holy Communion.  I presume that you are not married now (since you talk about having a fiancé).  So, you can receive Holy Communion now!  So, I don’t understand why you say, “since I will never be able to receive Holy Communion again?”  - CatholicView Staff

 
”If a priest leaves the priesthood to marry, what process would he go through?” - Charles

CatholicView Staff:

If a priest were to decide to leave the priesthood to get married what process would he have to go through? Would he still be considered part of the Catholic body?
Thanks. - Charles

 

Charles:

If a priest, who is single and has taken either the vows of celibacy (religious orders and congregations) or the promise of being single for the sake of his ministry to the church (diocesan/secular priest), wants to leave active ordained ministry to get married, he would ask his superior (religious order and congregation) or bishop (diocesan/secular priest) to be released from his vows/promise and then he would leave active ministry.  This process is called laicization (becoming a “lay” person) and he would still be in union with the Church and would not lose his status as a member of the Catholic Church.  CatholicView Staff

 

”I forgot the words for the "Act of Contrition".  Was this a good
confession?” - John

CatholicView Staff:

If I only say "O my Jesus I am heartily sorry for having offended thee" because I forgot the rest for the Act of Contrition was this a good Confession? - John

 

Dear John:

Actually, that’s all you have to say!   You made an excellent Act of Contrition and Sorrow for your sins.  You made an excellent confession.   God doesn’t want words.   He wants your heart.   The words mentioned come from your heart and that is all that matters. – CatholicView Staff

 
”Is there a difference in the blessing that the priest gives at the end of the Mass and the blessing he gives with the Blessed Sacrament?”  - Richard
 

CatholicView Staff:

Just wondering.   Is there a difference between the blessing that the priest gives to the group at the end of the Mass and the blessing that the priest gives with the Blessed Sacrament?   - Richard

 

Richard:

A blessing is a sign that God shows His favor and love to the recipient of the blessing.  When the priest blesses at the end of Mass, it is a sign that God loves you and will go with you as you begin your week.   A blessing like this is a pledge of God’s presence in your life.   The blessing with the Holy Eucharist is simply a blessing from Christ Himself as present in Holy Communion.   The difference is that one blessing is from a man (the priest) as instrument of God’s presence, and the other blessing from Christ Himself who is God.   Either way, it is God who pledges His love and presence with His people. – CatholicView Staff

 

“Would God send me to hell if I name my new bar ‘Ale Mary”? - David
 

CatholicView Staff:

I am opening a bar in August. My mother, whose name is Mary, jokingly suggested that I call the bar "Ale Mary's" after her. I actually love that name, but I realize there is a play on words there. Do you think Jesus would be upset if I owned a bar named "Ale Mary's Saloon"? The bar would have nothing to do with Christianity or religion at all, but I realize that there is a pun involved. My mother is the kindest, most loving person I know. I would really like to call the bar "Ale Mary's", but I won't if god is going to sentence me to hell for doing so.  Thank you, Dave


Dave:

Congratulations on your new business venture!  Your mom is especially blessed to have a son like you who loves her like you do.  To call your bar, Ale Mary, is a humorous play on the prayer, “Hail, Mary.”  There is nothing wrong or sinful in the title, Ale Mary.    May God bless your new establishment with success.  But, what concerns me is not the title of the bar but the abuse of alcohol that can happen within the walls of your establishment.   I hope you will be able to challenge those who have had too much to drink to stop and go home.  And for those predisposed to alcoholism, I hope you have the moral virtue and strength not to serve those who have problems with alcohol.  By doing so, you may be saving their lives, and the lives and peace of the families they come from.

Again, best wishes on your new business.  May the Lord bless you always.  - CatholicView Staff
 

“I want to be a priest but my mother said she will disown me if I do.   What should I do? -  Mauro

CatholicView Staff:

I have no doubt in my mind that god is calling me to the priesthood but my entire family is deadset in stopping me to achieve this.   All I want to do is give my life to God but this hurts me because my mother has told me she will disown me what should I do? - Mauro

 

Dear Mauro:

I do not know why your family is upset that you feel you have a calling to ministry and priesthood.  I am so happy for you.  I say, go for it.  Talk to your local priest and find out more about what it takes to be a priest.  Much will demanded of you.  As for your family, I do not know why they are so negative.  You will have to ignore that.  You must go where your heart leads.  Not to do so will leave you regretting things.  Your mother will probably get “over it” as soon as she sees that you are serious about this life vocation to serve God as a priest.  And if you should be ordained as a priest one day in the future, I can assure you that your mother will be in the front row of the church smiling broadly and proud of her son.  May the Lord bless you greatly for accepting the Lord’s call to the priesthood.  - CatholicView Staff

 

“Should I stop reading H.G. Wells’ science fiction works?”   Ernest
 

CatholicView Staff:

I am a great fan of H.G.Wells science fiction i.e.:the Time Machine.
I discovered that Mr. Wells was a rabid anti-Catholic and supporter of abortion rights and eugenics.  Should I stop reading his science fiction works?  Ernest

 

Dear Ernest:

H.G. Wells had quite a life and there were many experiences that he had making him the ultimate socialist of his time and wanted to have a world government established (not a democracy).  He also saw that human beings were barely civilized animals.   He certainly was not someone who liked religion or Christianity.  He likened himself to be a man of science.  His books are interesting and exciting reading to those who like to imagine and be taken to places never seen.  He also places within his various books his own view on what humanity and the world should be.  This does not mean that I should stop reading his books even though he may be at odds with Christianity.  I would read his books for a different point of view, to expand my horizons of knowledge, and be better able to express my faith in Jesus in a secular world.  If you can read, read as much as you are able.  Open your mind.  But your heart and faith belong to Jesus.  In time, the Holy Spirit will make all things clear to you.  So, don’t stop reading H.G. Wells.  But now that you know his background, you can better appreciate his writings and know what parts are solely his own opinion of what truth is.  May the Lord bless you.  -  CatholicView Staff


”What is an appropriate gift for someone being ordained as a priest?” - Glinko

 

CatholicView Staff:

What is a proper gift to give to a newly ordained priest.   We are invited to a mass of thanksgiving, and reception to follow, and would like a idea for the proper gift monetary or other.  I would greatly appreciate an answer. - Glinko

Glinko:

How exciting that you know someone who is being ordained as a priest!   I must tell you, that any religious gift would be repetitious.   Priests get religious gifts all the time.   Although grateful for the thought, most priests have many bibles, crosses, rosaries, pictures of Jesus, Mary, and other saints and angels and they are usually given away.   A  monetary gift is always welcome because the priest can buy something needed (like clothes, priest “uniforms” [Yes,they have to pay for their own priest clothes] and other personal items).   So, my suggestion is a monetary gift.  Enjoy yourself at this Mass of Thanksgiving and pray for your new priest.  He needs all the prayerful support that he can get!  - CatholicView Staff


”My daughter and her boyfriend refuse to baptize their daughter.  Could I use Holy Water, oil and say a prayer to denounce Satan?” - Rhonda

 

CatholicView Staff:

My daughter and her boyfriend refuse to baptize their newborn daughter. I told them this is partly to denounce Satan. Please tell me if this is wrong: My best friend, who is Greek Orthodox suggested she and I use some holy water and oil and light a candle and say a prayer to denounce Satan. I cannot go behind my daughter's back, as without her permission a Priest will not baptize this child. Can you help me? God be with you.

Rhonda:

Trust in the Lord always!  To do something as sneaky and deceptive as trying to baptize (or even say prayers in denunciation of Satan over the child) would be counter-productive and sinful (as this action would do nothing to establish a relationship with Jesus as Lord with the child and her parents).  I would be more concerned about your daughter and boyfriend who desire to have nothing to do with the Lord.  Pray for them.  Ask the Holy Spirit to change their closed hearts.  But trust in the Lord and trust in His plan for your granddaughter who is precious in the eyes of the Lord.  He will take care of everything.  God Bless!  - CatholicView Staff


”Where is the justice if really bad people go to hell but so do good people if they commit one bad sin without asking for forgiveness?”  - Terry

CatholicView Staff:

I was wondering where is the justice; if criminals who kill, steal, hurt people badly or abuse little kids etc. go to hell and yet we are taught that one sin can cause a good honest person to go to hell if they don't have time to confess that one sin.  I really don't see the justice if they get same eternal punishment as the really bad people who willingly and knowingly committed crimes all their lives.  - Terry

 

Dear Terry:

Only God can judge the human heart, and God who knows the secrets of us all will determine our eternal destiny.  I do not know what you are referring to when you say that a good honest person can be sent to hell for just one sin (that is not confessed).  That has never been the church’s teaching even though it may have been taught by our catechism teachers when we were young to keep us on the road of virtue.  But a good and honest person who has accepted Jesus as Lord and has lived his life in accord to the Gospel of Christ has his place in heaven even though that person may have “unresolved sins” that have not been confessed.   A person who has committed mortal sin is a person who has through a conscious decision chose to cut himself off from God altogether.  Those who kill, steal, hurt people badly, abuse are people who have cut themselves off from the love of God and chose their destiny to be hell.  People who are honest and have lived good lives are people who are united with God and chose their destiny to be heaven.  Now, in a twist of your question, my “wondering” that amazes me is this:  through God’s eternal forgiveness and His own justice, a bad person who does all these kind of things can receive a place in heaven  by repenting and accepting Jesus into their changed lives.  Now, that’s what amazes me.  One sin doesn’t necessarily get you a place in hell.  But one affirmation of the Lordship of Jesus Christ in your life will get you a mansion in heaven.    - CatholicView Staff

 
 “My wife is at risk if she becomes pregnant.  If I have a vasectomy, is that sinful?”- Thomas
 

CatholicView Staff:

My wife and I are both in our late 30s and we just had our second baby.  There were complications with all of our pregnancies including one miscarriage but in the end we were blessed with two healthy babies.

I am extremely worried about my wife's health if she were to become pregnant again.  I have scheduled an appointment to see a urologist about a possible vasectomy.

My question is if it is a sin to get this vasectomy knowing that my wife's life could be in jeopardy with another pregnancy?   And I am positive that my wife will get pregnant again due to the fact that she has gotten pregnant three times in under 3 1/2 years.  The bottom line is that I want this Vasectomy so I don't risk losing my wife and seeing my 2 yr. old son and 6 week old baby go motherless.
Under these circumstances is this still considered a sin?   -  Thomas

 

Thomas:

Your situation is serious enough for you to seek medical advice before you make any decision as to the future of your family and the changing of your reproductive creative powers given to you by God.  I would suggest that you follow your medical doctor’s advice on what to do next to ensure the health of your wife and mother of your children.  Even though the church would never accept vasectomy as a viable option for a Christian, the priority for you (and the priority for God) is to ensure the health of the parents.   By following your doctor’s advice, there would be no sin involved no matter what the decision you make.  Trust in the Lord.  He will take care of everything.  Be at peace.   CatholicView Staff

 
”What is the meaning of the words above the crucifix?”  – Kevin
 

CatholicView Staff:

What does the words above the crucifix mean? – Kevin

Dear Kevin:

The letters, INRI, that is seen on the sign above the head of Jesus on the cross, are the Latin acronym for JESUS OF NAZARETH, KING OF THE JEWS.  This comes from the New Testament description of the cross of Christ at the time of his crucifixion.   In the Gospel of John, Chapter 19, Verses 17 through 22, it states:  Pilate wrote out a notice and had it fixed to the cross.  It ran:  “Jesus the Nazarene, King of the Jews.”   The notice was read by many of the Jews because the place where Jesus was crucified was not far from the city, and the writing was in Hebrew, Latin, and Greek. – CatholicView Staff

 
” Is the practice of yoga ever permissible for a Catholic?” - Colleen
 

CatholicView Staff:

Is the practice of yoga ever permissible for a Catholic, provided the person does not adopt the spiritual components of the practice?

 

Colleen:

Yoga as a physical exercise and as a healthy support is fine for any Christian.  There is some concern when a person who practices yoga goes further and complements these exercises with prayers (and acknowledgement) of Buddha and other “deities.”  Meditation on the mysteries of God and His creation and focusing on Jesus Christ and His love and mercy for you is suggested for any Christian who uses yoga as a way to maintain one’s health of both mind and body. – CatholicView Staff

 
”Who is God referring to as "us" in this passage from the 3rd chapter of Genesis?”  - Clay

CatholicView Staff:

Who is God referring to as "us" in this passage from the 3rd chapter of Genesis.  - Clay

 

Clay:

Usually, the biblical scholars have interpreted the “We” (Genesis 3:22) in terms of the royal “We.”  What that means is that monarchs (king or queen sovereign) have used the plural to denote not only themselves individually but also citizens of the state that they lead.   So, when they speak, they say something like this, “We are not amused,” even though they are only talking about their own individual feelings.   God is using the “royal we” in this sense since He is the King of the Universe and Creator of all.  On the other hand, there are those who put a Christian meaning to this:   that “We” means Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.  I personally have the opinion that God is speaking in both the “royal we” terms and also acknowledging that He is a Trinity. – CatholicView Staff

”My mind starts to wander when I pray.  Can you help?” - Pat
 

CatholicView Staff:

I have a mind that seems to work overtime, and I want so much to try centering prayer and/or meditation, but have had no success. After only about 2 or 3 minutes, my mind starts to wander and I think about all the other things I need to do, etc. Can you help? Thanks and God Bless. Pat

 

Dear Pat:

Some people have the misconception that centering prayer and meditation means that you must shut out everything and ignore your reality that you are in.  This is untrue.  When your mind begins to bring in distractions and other things, let them be part of your prayer and the mind will slowly begin to unwind and settle itself.  So, when you begin your meditation and your mind goes on alert, let it.  And say with your heart, “Lord, these are the things that I am concerned about.  I leave them in your Hands.”  Then watch your mind go peaceful.  Time will fly.   And your heart will be strengthened.  Remember, don’t shut out the activity of your mind.  Let it be part of your prayer experience. - CatholicView Staff


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